Actually it's not totally off topic b/c this is very closely related to the original question posted by Uni.
I can answer some of your questions. I can't speak for women, but then again no woman can speak for every other woman anyway
I do know some girls in the hobby and I've had a lot of experience in this realm.
So for your main hypothetical question above,
what does she say, how does she deal with guys who approach her in RL? Essentially the vast majority, and I mean
vast majority, simply don't do that while they are in the hobby unless it's a very part-time hobby or they have a FWB. They don't "date" in the normal way. Some might.
MOST don't though. Some end up having the hobby become a romantic connection (rarely, but it does happen - I've had it happen). Usually though at best it's typically an FWB situation that evolves while the girl still
"works" other guys (at least while she is in the hobby life). The very rare exception is if it goes beyond that wherein the girl will essentially quit this line of work to be with the man. That could simply be that it's an exclusive
SB arrangement with a wealthy man OR a genuine caring and respect for each other and enjoying sex together and all the other life goals and so on.
The overwhelming majority of girls that hobby will not have a regular dating life the way you mentioned. They are single b/c they either like sex with various men and the money is good.
I wish it was always rosey and they were all happy. Unfortunately the sad fact of the matter is that most are not always happy. They are very jaded. It's for money. This is the bad side of this hobby. That bad side also exists b/c not all men are good men. Respectful. Gentleman. Caring. Clean. Etc. They want to treat a woman like some fuck doll or do some odd fetish that bothers the girl and sickens her. Makes her feel worthless. This is the part that bothers me. I try to be vocal about how girls can fix this and enjoy a much safer and healthy (meaning mentally healthy) perspective about men by being much more discriminating and selective about partners.
But, the quick answer is, they don't "date" like that.