Serious stuff or a passing comment with no real threat behind it?

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

Hey guys.....I think y'all are missing the point of the thread.

Anna, correct me if I'm wrong but I believe you are asking the community if they think you should be considering a client asking for BB a "threat" that should be included in the information given to other Companion's when they ask for a reference for him.

You do not see the question as threatening, so you do not recall who asked or didn't. Then, when your clients give your name as a reference to see another Lady and she asks you if he requested BB during your session with him.....?? And then she gets upset that you didn't tell her and he made her feel unsafe during their session.


My opinion on the matter is that asking for BB IS indicative of possible dangerous behavior. It's an early "Red Flag". Not only do I recall who asks, I refuse to entertain him again.
So he wouldn't be using me as a reference anyway.

We all have our own boundaries and different things make us feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Knowing that this particular bit of info is important to those that are asking for references would, in my way of thinking, be a reason to take note when a client asks for BB. Even when it's just in passing or in the heat of the moment. Just as a courtesy to my fellow companions. :shrug:

But that's me. I am in no way telling you that you are wrong in how you conduct your business or whether or not you should even extend the courtesy of giving references at all.

You do you

[Wile E Coyote]

Asking for BBFS is one thing, as you can always say no. If he persists or asks again on a future visit, it is time to cut ties with him as eventually, he is going to take it off during sex without you knowing (one reason why most providers tend to be mechanical and not into the session as they have to have their wits about them in case a guy tries to pull that).

Demanding BBFS or face a negative review is a whole 'nother ballgame! I do not know about Houston, but in Dallas, there are guys that pull that constantly, but only on the ladies that introduce themselves in the welcome wagon, as the VP ladies do not play that. The WW ladies arer the ones that are out to make a good first impression and especially when a guy calls himself the "king of reviewers" and also claims he has a lot of pull in the community, she definitely wants him satisfied.

[Anna Nikkole]

Hey guys.....I think y'all are missing the point of the thread.

Anna, correct me if I'm wrong but I believe you are asking the community if they think you should be considering a client asking for BB a "threat" that should be included in the information given to other Companion's when they ask for a reference for him.

You do not see the question as threatening, so you do not recall who asked or didn't. Then, when your clients give your name as a reference to see another Lady and she asks you if he requested BB during your session with him.....?? And then she gets upset that you didn't tell her and he made her feel unsafe during their session.


My opinion on the matter is that asking for BB IS indicative of possible dangerous behavior. It's an early "Red Flag". Not only do I recall who asks, I refuse to entertain him again.
So he wouldn't be using me as a reference anyway.

We all have our own boundaries and different things make us feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Knowing that this particular bit of info is important to those that are asking for references would, in my way of thinking, be a reason to take note when a client asks for BB. Even when it's just in passing or in the heat of the moment. Just as a courtesy to my fellow companions. :shrug:

But that's me. I am in no way telling you that you are wrong in how you conduct your business or whether or not you should even extend the courtesy of giving references at all.

You do you

This part^^^. There is a difference in asking on the phone or even directly in person. And a difference in the act where the little head thinks more clearly than the big head. I in no way offer bbfs, and if I listened to every guy who is in the moment than I may as well offer it I DO NOT. I also don't see it as a threat.

To me a threat would be someone persistently asking for it, trying to sneak the condom off, trying to force it. And definitely wouldn't entertain those gentlemen again for sure.

So yes absolutely. I don't record those instances. I don't even pay attention to be honest kinda like when I say "fuck my ass hard" and it's not anal. It's more of something to mentally stimulate him. Sometimes I get a genius to get excited and say "really I can fuck your ass", then the fantasy is ruined by me as I say "NO I WAS JUST TRYING TO EXCITE YOU" lol.

To me sexual talk is just that. Yes I am a clean provider who doesn't offer BBFS and I'm even shying away from stripper slide as gents try to slide towards the bottom and I barricade my hole with 2 fingers. In my opinion that's more of a threat and something I no longer want to offer. Not someone making a passing comment that he would love to feel the inside of me.

But providers work at their own comfort level. If I ever give a reference I will give a reference on wether or not the guy was safe to see in my opinion. If someone else flips out because he whispered that in her ear, perhaps I'm not the one to get a reference from. It would literally wipe out 50% of my regulars. Just my 2 cents.....

It's also my opinion that a gent saying that, he is horny and doesn't even mean it.

[mathguy]

My opinion on the matter is that asking for BB IS indicative of possible dangerous behavior. It's an early "Red Flag". Not only do I recall who asks, I refuse to entertain him again.
So he wouldn't be using me as a reference anyway.

We all have our own boundaries and different things make us feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Knowing that this particular bit of info is important to those that are asking for references would, in my way of thinking, be a reason to take note when a client asks for BB. Even when it's just in passing or in the heat of the moment. Just as a courtesy to my fellow companions. :shrug:

I personally agree with Krystal here. I totally understand what Anna is saying in that with her partners (just can't use the word "client", sorry) it doesn't bother or threaten her.

That being said, I fully agree with Krystal that it's at least noteworthy & indicative of someone who *could* be a danger; at least a red flag.

It's only fair to let another girl know he either has (or *had* it on his mind).

That's important for one b/c men are ridiculously stronger than women. Even the strongest woman, a powerlifter type, is nowhere remotely close to the raw brute strength of even a small man. If that man chooses, or "loses control/composure" he could easily hold her down, *ape her, then threaten her by plastering bad info on the board if she talks. That's especially a problem for young or unestablished girls.

I agree with Krystal, men should not ask and I also agree it should be passed on that this might be expected, asked for, wanted, and whatever took place with the man regarding asking about it. The only exceptions are special circumstances where you both commonly do it together, you know each other well, it's totally innocuous & you are very sure they wouldn't do it with anyone else. No need to "harm" the man's reputation in such cases.

Edit: Btw Wile E Coyotes posts are also bang on the money regarding new girls, young girls, inexperienced, etc.... Absolutely, 100%. That's the main issue with relation to this topic.

[Anna Nikkole]

I haven't had any dangers in a decade of providing in regards to this. A hard dick will say anything. I also don't take notes on my phone or anywhere else. My phone contains no names or pictures as it's not gonna be useful if LE ever gets ahold of it. The letters in my phone only I know what they stand for. In short it's YES or NO. No grey area.

If there was a haggle in another instance where we were not in the middle of a session I won't see him. If someone persist even after a session I immediately put him on my DNS list and won't give a reference.

I just don't record that stuff or even who my clients are. Sometimes I'll have a clients number but he will say something to remind me of who he is.

Funny when scheduling and I ask how long he wants to hang out, he said "the usual". As I said, I don't keep personal stuff so I have no idea till I see him.

I guess I've had great luck with clients, and I have some fabulous clients or (partners). I'm A-ok with his senseless words that turn him on. It's more of a feeling. I've had those feelings before for no reason, and will stop seeing someone for a eery feeling. Maybe I can sense who would mean me harm and who wouldn't. I've had great success with gut feelings!!!