I'm genuinely curious how it can be harmful? Like mentally harmful or physically? Also I dont know if the "its fake" is tongue in cheek but I strongly disagree. My ex of 12 years believed I hated it for a good 5 years and would often hold it back or push me off to prevent it. Hence my previous post when she'd tell me to not move or she would soak down the bed. Now she wouldnt spray me like on porn videos, I'm pretty sure that's fake lol.