GFE turned HEA

[naughtycassanova]

So, is it crazy of me to think or maybe feasible that I might meet my ride or die here? I feel like it makes more sense than most places. like minds, etc... i know there are some here that are married and venture out for a host of different reasons. so as a single man, I feel like finding a woman here that has similar interest, simlar experience, might be a good thing. i mean, that is if we're being honest with each other. ;)


thoughts?

[Cammcleod]

HEA meaning happily ever after? Highly unlikely. Heard some stories here and there about people who meet in this way who made a go of it. It was always a tiny minority and most of those didn't last. Plenty of other places to meet sexually liberated people who don't have sex=money attitudes. Swinger sites, etc. As long as money is involved there's a power dynamic that is toxic to most long term relationship.

[Precious_b]

Makes me wonder how the Bart Man and Roxy are doing.

[Caboose4073]

Cammcleod you make a good point but I would argue that it's not impossible if the stars align, if someone is looking for the same thing and the parties are ready to retire to the next stage. Though not exactly the same I know several gentleman that have found HEA with dancers they met. The ended up rehabilitating them and in a way the did the same for the gentleman. I think it worked because they started understanding the business relationship but evolved from mutual respect for each other. It's hard to not get to know a person a bit the more time you spend with them.

[GabbyMouthofthesout]

Well, I'm an optimist. I don't see why not, if there is open communication and understanding and insecurities don't get in the way, or even just an openness to work through them together which again requires understanding and good communication. I'm a single mother and a provider. I'm interested in a HEA, but I'm also interested in turning my income into other business ventures. I wouldn't be close minded to the idea of dating someone who started off as a regular, and I think given the right circumstances providers are probably alot more open and honest than someone not in this life style. I've never dated a client, but I've had crazy relationships outside of the hobby. They've been difficult due to stigmas, lack of understanding or openness to try to understand, and terrible communication and insecurities. I'm stubbornly independent and wouldn't want to have my SO paying my way, and if this is my form of financial freedom then that would need to be understood and accepted. I don't involve anyone in my work besides my doubles partner, and I wouldn't want to involve myself in my SOs business financially either. I could see how someone might take advantage of that though. It would be nice, but like i said, im optimistic about it and have never had experience with it.

[pmdelites]

naughtycassanova, in my humble life experience opinion, maybe not crazy, but not thinking rationally.

anything is possible.
earth could get hit by that mongo comet that astronomers recently spotted.
.... https://www.space.com/newfound-comet...corded-history
.... https://www.independent.co.uk/life-s...-b1874046.html
all of the ice caps could melt and all seaside towns under 10' of water.
we could all die from cell phone radiation.
etc. etc. etc.

more importantly, what is the PROBABILITY of a trick and a provider living happily ever after?
very Very VERY low.
out of the 600+ providers i've met since 2001, i only know/knew of three or four providers (0.006%) who were in a relationship. and only one was a trick/provider one.
so, yes, possible, but highly improbable.

as Cam mentioned, a tad higher probabilities if one looked in other social groups.

good luck in meeting your ride, here or elsewhere.

[Mokoa]

Makes me wonder how the Bart Man and Roxy are doing.

My thought exactly. They were truly two of a kind with a one of a kind relationship. I hope all is well with them.

[jackjohnson]

I think the odds of a HEA relationship with a provider are slim.

I dated an "extra's" dancer from BDD and the Buck's Dallas for a while. Started off as pay for play relationship, then became a semi-sugar baby and. finally became a "normal" relationship in that the sex was free and no support given. However, there are a lot of "odd" things that happen with when you are dating a sex worker. I think there are much better dating sites than here to find a lasting relationship with a stable woman. I am sure there some that can be found here, but the odds are against it.

[jackjohnson]

I think the odds of a HEA relationship with a provider are slim.

I dated an "extra's" dancer from BDD and the Buck's Dallas for a while. Started off as pay for play relationship, then became a semi-sugar baby and. finally became a "normal" relationship in that the sex was free and no support given. However, there are a lot of "odd" things that happen with when you are dating a sex worker. I think there are much better dating sites than here to find a lasting relationship with a stable woman. I am sure there some that can be found here, but the odds are against it.

[Caboose4073]

I'd say anything is possible but it all depends on your personality and hers. I would say the upside is the acceptance factor from you of what she does or did for a living keeps the stress off of her for lying about her past. The downside being that drama from the past could follow like taking her to the company Xmas party and an ex client happens to be there. We all have sides of ourselves we keep less public some of those side more acceptable to the general public than others. The long short of it comes down to understanding what you could be getting into and your willingness to take the risk.

[zenmasterpooh]

I think the question is: do you expect to meet her as a customer, then fall in love, and have her quit her job for you? or are you truly ok with her having sex with other people for money while you call it your Happily ever After?
I think it is a mistake to assume you will meet someone and change them, and still be happy. You would have to accept her as you find her for that to be possible.
And Just as an FYI: I have known women for over a decade, who were lying to me about who they were in reality, and presenting me with the person she wanted to be, the whole time, so if you think you found your HEA, just make sure she is being real and honest with you.
Good luck, and enjoy watching "Pretty Woman - 1990 https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0100405/ " for the 100th time.....

[bobster36]

I toyed with this idea for a bit too. Reddit has a spectacular subreddit on this topic:

https://www.reddit.com/r/partnersofsexworkers/

[Lookin2play]

Hobbying has ruined me. I'm completely single. So I turned to escorts to get what I want sexually. Now I don't think I can have a traditional relationship. I just don't think I can deal with vanilla sex. Mind you I'm not complaining. Just putting it out there

[girlsluvme]

I was dating a dallas favorite for about 7months… We are still kinda figuring things out. She has been on a break from her normal work load so Im sure she is thinking about how to handle me along with her other real life situations. HEA is definitely possible but communication, comprehension of that communication and timing of both parties real life all have to be 100% aligned. Im optimistic things will eventually work out for us.

Now Even if those things align something else can monkey wrench that relationship. These women are complicated beings. For a lot of them life has not been easy. Things go on behind the scenes that we are completely unaware of. A lot of psychology involved in this. A relationship with a provider is far from simple.

My advice is to NEVER break the prime directive! Get your rocks off and go home! For me its too late. Dont be like me unless you like uncertainty and heartbreak. Lol

Thanks for that reddit link…. The problems those relationships ran into arent similar to mine but its a relief to know there are other people trying to navigate a provider turned gf relationship.

[tomcat2]

I know a provider who has at least 2 ex-husbands she met professionally. Note the "ex-" part.
One of the legends, a lady from Houston, started providing at her ex-husband's urging. Note the "ex-" part.
Finally, I hate to break it to you, but there is no RW HEA anytime, anywhere. No such thing. Nope. Never gonna happen. Marriage involves very hard work every day of your life, lots of sacrifice, and even then, you might not get what you're looking for. And that takes decades to figure out.
Don't do it. Don't even think about it. Run for your life!