I don't flirt with civilian ladies. I learned my lesson with that a long time ago. My cousin is a lesbian. She is fat and butt ugly. Her SO is uglier than her, but has nicer hair.
When I was introduced to the SO, she told me where she was from and who her family is. Come to find out, we are distant cousins, and she is distant cousins to her SO, my cousin.
Well, being the cocky drunk that I was that day, when I found out we were distant cousins, I told her that since we are so distant, we can still have sex, as long as I don't nut in her. Well that went over like a turd in the punch bowl. Being the work boot, flannel shirt wearing lesbian she was, she looked at me like I was crazy. She tried to slap me, my wife punched her, my cousin tried to jump in to break them up. I stepped back and watched these 3 women brawl it out. There was no lesbian sex in the brawl.

So, I don't flirt outside the hobby.