ComputerWise, how do you think a reference keeps a lady safe?
Did you know that the only thing majority of other ladies say are words? Yes, I have seen him or He is okay or If he mentioned me, yes I have seen him. Nothing more.
If you were in our shoes, would this make you feel safe allowing another individual access to your space, your body or your life?
We have not destructed our own systems of safety. LE and informants have. Politics have. Men that lie have. Men that continuously abuse this privilege have.
We still do give references but we accept them with a grain of salt, because one persons experience has no relevance to the other ladies potential experience with you.
Then you have another statistic that you are reading about in the papers.