Diplomatically expressing a concern

[Psycho Bunny]

To cut straight to the point, how do you tell a provider that you are a regular of that you feel she's been mailing it in the last couple of times, and you're pondering whether or not to continue scheduling? I know most will say the answer is simple. If you're at the point it's not worth it and cut your losses. I get that. I just prefer to see a small circle of ladies , plus it's always nice to have a built up repoire with a lady in my opinion.

I don't have any illusions I'm nothing more than a number, but at least the IOP was significantly better.

[pxmcc]

TeddyO, I'm going to give you advice of the non-trolling kind, although you may deserve the other kind.
1. take some time off and see some other gals. sometimes you just need a break from the routine of seeing the same gal over and over.
2. tell her she's been off her game of late and ask her if she thinks she can step up her game, or not.
3. suggest some new activities for you all to try. if she's not receptive, maybe it's time to move on.
4. off topic, but go try a greek session with Carlisle. thing of it is, that's always good advice, i recently learned..

btw, variety is the spice of life, in the hobby and out..

[Dingaling]

Cancel that chick

If a regular can't maintain the same level of service or take it up a notch, she's getting cancelled

[pxmcc]

^^wait, i agree with dingaling? and lions shall lie down with lambs, and the sky will rain down with cats and dogs, playing with each other. the end is clearly nigh..

[Guest 011723-1]

To cut straight to the point, how do you tell a provider that you are a regular of that you feel she's been mailing it in the last couple of times, and you're pondering whether or not to continue scheduling? I know most will say the answer is simple. If you're at the point it's not worth it and cut your losses. I get that. I just prefer to see a small circle of ladies , plus it's always nice to have a built up repoire with a lady in my opinion.

I don't have any illusions I'm nothing more than a number, but at least the IOP was significantly better.

What’s “mailing it?”

[Psycho Bunny]

mailing it in
Slang for doing the least amount of work possible or slacking off

[Kammye]

mailing it in
Slang for doing the least amount of work possible or slacking off

Cut her loose hun. My regulars are always going to get 100% from me because well....i would like them to continue seeing me. Plus thats just great customer service. :)

[mochamagicman2]

Time to switch it up brother, take a break, find/enjoy something new. Try a new provider (different race, shape, size, personality...)

[lovelyxxxo]

Cut her loose hun. My regulars are always going to get 100% from me because well....i would like them to continue seeing me. Plus thats just great customer service. :)

+1

[ck1942]

I can agree with all of the pov's above; but, here's the rub.

Those of us who approach the boudoir as equal partners may have a very different view point than folks who treat the hobby as a "service industry"

That said,

How's a lady in "arrears" gonna know she didn't measure up (or for that matter is way better than "measures up") unless somehow lady in question gets feedback -- either in person at the end of a session, or via text or PM after or via a glowing or not so glowing review.

imc (in my case) I almost always give a new playmate a "field review" of some sort. Assuming of course that we didn't go overtime to the point where one or both of us must exit immediately.

I'll note stuff for which we had fun, or for which an adjustment or two might be warranted.

The feedback might cover environment (incall, incall supplies, bedroom comfort, TCB, and a variety of factors, not just the intimate factors, but those certainly should be criticized favorable or unfavorable.

And if my playmate is one who is a constant (meaning I repeat sessions more often than many months in between) I would expect her to give me feedback as well.

Was I giving as much pleasure as I was receiving?

Yeah, some might criticize me as expecting constant praise, but, my philosophy is that "you cannot fake a wet spot" (unless y'all are in the hot tub!) means I was doing something or someone right!

btw, if ladies are "partnering" properly, gents should be very comfortable getting feedback as well as giving it.

= = = = =

One observation I will make -- as a very long time hobbyist:

Used to be virtually every established companion desiring long-term clients was:

-- able to schedule very properly;

-- have enough time interval between appointments to make the bed;

-- cleanse the bathroom;

-- offer shower opportunities;

-- make a pot of cawfee for caffeine addicts, and

-- make time to meet & greet new "opportunities" both gents and companions at socials and

-- look equally as good in person at her incall as she would at any event.

-- have a great looking website or album or post interesting ads

-- better than adequate TCB!


Not to say many ladies cannot match the above; certainly I know of many

[dtymh55]

mailing it in
Slang for doing the least amount of work possible or slacking off

Falling down on the job. Or not completing the task at hand.

[DocHoliday]

+1 Kammey

[alxndr69]

I can agree with all of the pov's above; but, here's the rub.

Those of us who approach the boudoir as equal partners may have a very different view point than folks who treat the hobby as a "service industry"

That said,

How's a lady in "arrears" gonna know she didn't measure up (or for that matter is way better than "measures up") unless somehow lady in question gets feedback -- either in person at the end of a session, or via text or PM after or via a glowing or not so glowing review.

imc (in my case) I almost always give a new playmate a "field review" of some sort. Assuming of course that we didn't go overtime to the point where one or both of us must exit immediately....

I had to laugh reading this line. It is so military, by-the-numbers. "All right, sweetheart. I'm going to give you three sustains and three improves for the next time." lol

[Oralist]

I was a regular of a now retired well known HOT Companion. By Regular, I had seen her weekly for 20+ times. Then she showed up 45 minutes late to our favorite place. The next time, she told me to get the room, she was running a little late. I did and soon she called and cancelled entirely. I sent her a text the next day on "How To Lose A Regular". She was actually pissed, even though it was completely her fault. Never saw her again.

If she "Mails It In", let her know and move on. Count the number of Companions active on this site, the other site and P411. Over 1000 to choose from, just in Houston.

[gfejunkie]

I had to laugh reading this line. It is so military, by-the-numbers. "All right, sweetheart. I'm going to give you three sustains and three improves for the next time." lol

Ready for more military jargon?

"Mailing it in" = low grade passable