Hobby for Dummies, A few tips from a newbie to other newbies

[Ben Rhimene]

Please share in this topic anything that can help other newbies.

Okay...a few comments/thoughts:

- Read the reviews. Forums are the best source of information to find a provider that fits with your search and also to avoid scams, traps, LEO etc.

- Learn the vocabulary: https://jamirodman.com/sex-industry-...s-terminology/
DocHoliday: https://home.ourhome2.net/showthread...nym-list/page4

- AMP (Asian Massage Parlor) is the easiest way to get a happy ending. But you need to read the forums to discover which one can offer it and which level of service. (L1, L2, L3)

In my view these 3 all fall under the Golden Rule of YMMV.

Reviews are a great start, but this is a people business, and some people click better than others. People can be coming off a bad experience and may be more cautious than usual. You just know. So hold your expectations in check. Hell, your definition of DFK may be quite different from a reviewer or a provider.

Sometimes multiple visits are necessary for trust to develop. AMP or Indy, guys wanting it all on first visit half hour special are deluding themselves.

This is transactional, but the better you are at identifying, cultivating, and nurturing relationships you will find the experiences more enjoyable.

- Ladies have to answer hundreds of msgs. So, be objective! In the first msg, be polite and tell your handle, references, duration and date/time of the session you are planning.

- Avoid talking about activities and $$$ before the screening process will avoid ladies ghosting you.007 Octopussy

TCB skills vary wildly, and try to plan ahead, especially if your first time with someone.

I agree it is best to hold off until vetted, but don't get into a bunch of single question emails/texts/PMs...you waste everybody's time. Cover your main desires or concerns and let the rest occur naturally. Unless it is a roleplay date there should be minimal scripting.

- Use a burn phone and don't share your personal data. I use P411 to avoid screening with everyone every time that I want to schedule something.

- To get a P411, start with a newbie friendly provider and then move to another one using the first as reference, and then subscribe in P411 using both as your references. (Make sure that both have an active P411 profile there before schedule with them)

Not everyone uses p411, and some who do screen more than just your vouches, so pay attention to her individual preferences on that.

You can set up your profile w/o divulging RW info, but let your initial vouches know the plan and when you submit your forms. P411 fees can be paid via money order, which you can get from a grocery store, Wal-Mart etc so no need to involve your bank.

- Always pay in cash! Electronic payments make paper trails. (Specially to married hobbyists)

Some ladies accept gift cards, which you can buy for cash at CVS, etc.

Digital trails last a lifetime, so just because you are single now doesn't mean you will always be. Be smart...its not hard to find an ATM, stock up on cash so you're ready when it's time for the date.

- Always take a shower before and try to use mouthwashes. Ladies will be more friendly if you do this. We love them fresh and clean, they also love clean clients. Safe and Hygiene always in the first place.

I always keep mints in the car. I find that a travel-size mouthwash is great to carry as well...no concerns about the lady having it, etc.

- I avoid bringing all cards (credit, memberships etc) in my wallet. Less is better. Just to minimize the damage in case of a trap.

I do not agree with this. Yes, that is a good approach if you are concerned with theft, but what if it is a bust? Or your car breaks down? Best to have credit cards with you so you don't have to phone people and explain your problem to. Personal liability for credit card fraudulent charges is $50 per card...not a big cost for the security.

- Bring extra condoms (or the one of your preference). Just in case the lady tells you that she had only 1.

This is especially true with ladies with poor/erratic TCB skills. Skyns are a good choice as they are non-latex

Think about everything and try to write a review about your experience.
The forum's essence is to share knowledge to help other mongers keeping everybody safe and happy.
Read the rules about writing reviews and don't share the provider contact details (phone/address) if it's not in her ad.

This can get trickier than it sounds. You want to be fair and objective, but it is also a very subjective matter...often drafted in post-coital bliss. And ladies can get upset by what you include, even if glowing. I've made those mistakes. And because it is a YMMV hobby try to think of how a reader might get the wrong impression...that can put undue pressure on the lady.