I'm so bad at small talk. What do you talk about to break the ice?

[Trapperkeeper2000]

What do you talk about when meeting a provider/client for the first time? Do you make small talk to break the ice and try to build a connection? Do you discuss what activities you're looking forward to? Do you just start the foreplay?

[knottyman]

I usually start with light hearted casual questions.
How do you feel about the GDP of Indonesia and its global weaponization of industrial technology as well as its affect on 3rd world economies such as the Somalian diamond trade?
And, do you do anal?

[Adonisman]

I have done it every way over the years. When I was younger I just wanted to fuk and go. I would walk in, say hello. Take my clothes off and start. Not much chit chat. Maybe 5 min if any.

Now, I prefer to take 10-15 min to talk and get to know her more. With my Sugar Babies, we typically do an hour of talking. Hour of sex. Then another hour or two talking or grabbing a bite to eat.

[baja22]

I usually start with light hearted casual questions.
How do you feel about the GDP of Indonesia and its global weaponization of industrial technology as well as its affect on 3rd world economies such as the Somalian diamond trade?
And, do you do anal?

That's hilarious!

[baja22]

I have done it every way over the years. When I was younger I just wanted to fuk and go. I would walk in, say hello. Take my clothes off and start. Not much chit chat. Maybe 5 min if any.

Now, I prefer to take 10-15 min to talk and get to know her more. With my Sugar Babies, we typically do an hour of talking. Hour of sex. Then another hour or two talking or grabbing a bite to eat.

Funny, I find myself in the opposite situation. Back in the day I preferred talking first. Now, I find myself bored with small talk and want to just get down to it. And I wish I could have sex for an hour :(

[SexySammy]

This is why I added the massage combo. It helps with the anxiety/tension of first meetings, most folks can't go more than once anyways and half hour can still feel rushed, especially if you aren't the type to just be able to walk in and get down to business. I can do both. Sometimes I enjoy the nice quick to the point fuck and sometimes I want the connection.

[The Water Company ~]

upon your arrival ill ask
“would you like a bottled water? room temperature or cold?”
im big on empathy, so i let you talk about yourself while i listen. discussing yourself usually puts most at ease.
then things just kinda take off…

[Anna Nikkole]

I like a connection, but if a guy says he doesn't want small talk before, I can do that. Rush him or just do it and figure out what he likes. Men are different than women, most don't want a connection, and that's fine. Kinda makes us less human, but it's the job right, adds to the exotic side of the hobby I guess. Certain things I won't do to create that illusion, but no small talk I can do if asked.

[Anna Nikkole]

upon your arrival ill ask
“would you like a bottled water? room temperature or cold?”
im big on empathy, so i let you talk about yourself while i listen. discussing yourself usually puts most at ease.
then things just kinda take off…

My best clientele ask me about myself. It sets me at ease. I'm at a point that I rather they ask me beforehand for no small talk.

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My best clientele ask me about myself. It sets me at ease. I'm at a point that I rather they ask me beforehand for no small talk.

I mean in a way before saying that I talk to much lol. I had always prided myself on treating people like people. But some people want to stick and go, or just look at each other lol.

[Mayamonroe23]

Anything and everything lol I'm actually insanely shy in my personal life like I won't talk to someone who doesnt talk to me first level of shy haha i make up for it by being the complete opposite of shy with clients!

[Anna Nikkole]

Anything and everything lol I'm actually insanely shy in my personal life like I won't talk to someone who doesnt talk to me first level of shy haha i make up for it by being the complete opposite of shy with clients!

I'm like that. I have bad social anxiety. Even 1 on 1 civilian people I am only comfortable around a few. But in the hobby, maybe because we are both naked lol. Some of my favorite clients sit and have a drink and chill with me.

[The Water Company ~]

My best clientele ask me about myself. It sets me at ease. I'm at a point that I rather they ask me beforehand for no small talk.

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I mean in a way before saying that I talk to much lol. I had always prided myself on treating people like people. But some people want to stick and go, or just look at each other lol.

i think the op was asking how to break the ice and put him at ease on a first meet not how to put you at ease

[Adonisman]

Funny, I find myself in the opposite situation. Back in the day I preferred talking first. Now, I find myself bored with small talk and want to just get down to it. And I wish I could have sex for an hour :(

One of the benefits of an SB is they are not watching the clock. Sure, we typically have an idea how long the date will be. But they do not start announcing I have '15 min left'. Much more relaxing for both of us. It is not PIV sex for an hour. Its a combo of everything.

[lovingcamela]

Lots of good comments already, but I would add that we can tell if you are nervous and we all have our ways of making new clients comfortable.

[Deja Tha Doll]

I always ask about their day, then I ask if the temperature is too hot, too cold or just right for them, (since i prefer 76-80?). I then ask what kind of music they're into and if they'd like anything to drink. Once they're settled, I ask them about their favorite position and then i tell them about mine being doggy then my second favorite is being on top. They're usually comfortable at that point.

As for making me comfortable, just having it clean and warm in the room is a nice start. Those who offer a tour around the place or where we'll be, always tend to help me relax. And if he offers me a drink and has clean towels put out, he's the BEST and all those efforts usually put me to ease fairly quickly.

If a guy mentions or comments on things that I've posted either here, my site or Twitter, I feel a sense of appreciation and connection, and I usually delve right into the topic, and the conversation flows fairly easily and quickly then.

Massages are another great way to allow one's breathing, and nerves to calm down before things really start to "pickup" for either party.
Depending on the mood, I either ask them for help getting to some spots I missed with my AMAZING coconut oil. (At this point, they usually become distracted and immersed in enjoying me and my body, totally forgetting all about their nervousness). Or other times, I offer to share my oil and suggest that they allow me to ease their muscles, nervousness and stress away with my unmatched skillfully passionate, hands.

Lapdances are also a great way to break the tension. Just turn up the tunes, turn down the lights, turn up the heat, and allow our bodies to do all of the talking and getting to know each other. (Just let me know beforehand if you allow touching, and I'll make sure to bring my stack of 1's) lol