I'm so bad at small talk. What do you talk about to break the ice?

[Trapperkeeper2000]

What do you talk about when meeting a provider/client for the first time? Do you make small talk to break the ice and try to build a connection? Do you discuss what activities you're looking forward to? Do you just start the foreplay?

[knottyman]

I usually start with light hearted casual questions.
How do you feel about the GDP of Indonesia and its global weaponization of industrial technology as well as its affect on 3rd world economies such as the Somalian diamond trade?
And, do you do anal?

[Adonisman]

I have done it every way over the years. When I was younger I just wanted to fuk and go. I would walk in, say hello. Take my clothes off and start. Not much chit chat. Maybe 5 min if any.

Now, I prefer to take 10-15 min to talk and get to know her more. With my Sugar Babies, we typically do an hour of talking. Hour of sex. Then another hour or two talking or grabbing a bite to eat.

[baja22]

I have done it every way over the years. When I was younger I just wanted to fuk and go. I would walk in, say hello. Take my clothes off and start. Not much chit chat. Maybe 5 min if any.

Now, I prefer to take 10-15 min to talk and get to know her more. With my Sugar Babies, we typically do an hour of talking. Hour of sex. Then another hour or two talking or grabbing a bite to eat.

Funny, I find myself in the opposite situation. Back in the day I preferred talking first. Now, I find myself bored with small talk and want to just get down to it. And I wish I could have sex for an hour :(

[SexySammy]

This is why I added the massage combo. It helps with the anxiety/tension of first meetings, most folks can't go more than once anyways and half hour can still feel rushed, especially if you aren't the type to just be able to walk in and get down to business. I can do both. Sometimes I enjoy the nice quick to the point fuck and sometimes I want the connection.

[The Water Company ~]

upon your arrival ill ask
“would you like a bottled water? room temperature or cold?”
im big on empathy, so i let you talk about yourself while i listen. discussing yourself usually puts most at ease.
then things just kinda take off…

[Anna Nikkole]

I like a connection, but if a guy says he doesn't want small talk before, I can do that. Rush him or just do it and figure out what he likes. Men are different than women, most don't want a connection, and that's fine. Kinda makes us less human, but it's the job right, adds to the exotic side of the hobby I guess. Certain things I won't do to create that illusion, but no small talk I can do if asked.

[Adonisman]

Funny, I find myself in the opposite situation. Back in the day I preferred talking first. Now, I find myself bored with small talk and want to just get down to it. And I wish I could have sex for an hour :(

One of the benefits of an SB is they are not watching the clock. Sure, we typically have an idea how long the date will be. But they do not start announcing I have '15 min left'. Much more relaxing for both of us. It is not PIV sex for an hour. Its a combo of everything.

[lovingcamela]

Lots of good comments already, but I would add that we can tell if you are nervous and we all have our ways of making new clients comfortable.

[baja22]

One of the benefits of an SB is they are not watching the clock. Sure, we typically have an idea how long the date will be. But they do not start announcing I have '15 min left'. Much more relaxing for both of us. It is not PIV sex for an hour. Its a combo of everything.

Yeah, I'd say the 2 main benefits are no clockwatching and they tend to be younger. They don't think of themselves as providers, which is cute lol.

[AlexandraSand]

I never had a problem to start or to continue a small talk. LOL!

I can talk circles around anyone in a few different languages and that will "take the edge off" guaranteed!

Occasionally I have trouble to shut up, but never have I trouble to start :)

[firstandlast]

I never had a problem to start or to continue a small talk. LOL!

I can talk circles around anyone in a few different languages and that will "take the edge off" guaranteed!

Occasionally I have trouble to shut up, but never have I trouble to start :)

Back when I first started, I was very concerned about awkwardness and feeling comfortable. I can only speak for the ones I've chosen, but they have all been uncommonly good at convo and establishing a relaxed atmosphere. I can think of at least a few who I'd very happily spend several hours just hanging out with, even if there wasn't any sex. (Though that would certainly be a shame, right?!) This should all be pretty apparent beforehand by the way a provider presents herself in her ads, as well as how she interacts on this message board.

[baja22]

I usually start with light hearted casual questions.
How do you feel about the GDP of Indonesia and its global weaponization of industrial technology as well as its affect on 3rd world economies such as the Somalian diamond trade?
And, do you do anal?

That's hilarious!

[Mayamonroe23]

Anything and everything lol I'm actually insanely shy in my personal life like I won't talk to someone who doesnt talk to me first level of shy haha i make up for it by being the complete opposite of shy with clients!

[Anna Nikkole]

Anything and everything lol I'm actually insanely shy in my personal life like I won't talk to someone who doesnt talk to me first level of shy haha i make up for it by being the complete opposite of shy with clients!

I'm like that. I have bad social anxiety. Even 1 on 1 civilian people I am only comfortable around a few. But in the hobby, maybe because we are both naked lol. Some of my favorite clients sit and have a drink and chill with me.