Escort girlfriend

[Ben Rhimene]

A male gynecologist examines pussies all day so his fiancee decides to play with cocks as a way to level the working situation. He wouldn't be pleased with that insult.

I happen to know quite a few male OB/GYNs and they all say they are grateful for the smock the first month of their residency, but after that it's just a job.

[ShawnMcgillicutty]

I think your analogy is a little incorrect, you make the assumption that it's impossible for an escort to enjoy sex with a client if they have a boyfriend. You may be putting a lot of your personal feelings into that comment, but I have witnessed that different escorts react differently with each client and even enjoy sex with certain clients. My experience with being in an open relationship is an understanding that sex is not directly related to love. Sex is for pleasure if you're not attempting to fertilize an egg. That being said, I don't think there's any way for that relationship to work unless it was an open relationship, but since over half of the providers out there are bisexual I would suggest his playtime with other females include you so you can feel appreciated.

[Leonius]

Getting interesting already.
Y'all are taking her (job) as a means to negotiate/demand time with other escorts within an emotional relationship. You get to pick & choose the escort but she doesn't get to pick and choose her job assignments when it comes to work. Some of you act like her job is an automatic passage to have an (open) relationship when she wants an exclusive man that loves her without mixing the lines of true love/infidelity.
A male gynecologist examines pussies all day so his fiancee decides to play with cocks as a way to level the working situation. He wouldn't be pleased with that insult.

Are you stating that you do not pick and choose your johns?

Is someone choosing for you and you are required?

[Avion Taylor]

Not opposed to it at all. An escort is a woman and I'm attracted to women. I care about intelligence, compatibility, kindness, etc, as well as their bodies. The escorting is just one facet of their lives. Their profession. I would proudly go out with an escort. Plus, it would be fun to say "my girlfriend brings joy into the life of everyone she touches" with a knowing smirk.

However, if I were to have an escort as a girlfriend, there are rules that I have.

First, if she gets variety, I get variety. If she's able to have sex with other people, professional setting or not, then I get the ability to get some on the side, as well, without having to be guilt tripped. I have no desire to rub her face in this, though. Hell, if we connect enough, I may not even desire to do it. But I will have this open to me.

Second, I want to fuck her. I understand if you have a rough day at the office and you're not really in the mood. I'm more than willing to cut you some slack there from time to time. But you can't not fuck me. If I love you, I want to fuck you.

Last, I want at least one day a week where she doesn't work and that's exclusively for us. No work or work talk from either of us.

I think all of this is fair.

Love this idea!

[Peabody]

I tried it and it did work out like 50% of all relationships. She couldn’t Handel me caring about her providing and she really couldn’t handle me not caring about her providing.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

Love this idea!

+1 sounds like a decent set up.

Ok so question:

I’m curious if there can be “traditional” roles here?
By that I mean the guy pays all they’re(if living together)/her(she lives on her own) bills?

I saw some say they might date someone who makes half their income.
Personally, I don’t know why any woman would do that but to each their own (I guess I like my pool even smaller than necessary lol)

Again, who pays the bills?

Is escort girlfriend supposed to pay half the bills?

Would this create problems if escort gf agrees to and later feels like ‘wait, he’s spending money on other girls and I’m earning money from other guys and in a way giving it to him by contributing to a circumstance he would be already handling (paying all the bills plus paying companions) if I wasn’t in the picture’?

For me I guess you can surmise I want the guy to pay all the bills.

I’d do the domestic stuff since I do that anyway. Honestly this is ideal for me bc I can use my free time masterminding some other riches for us if it turns to a super solid commitment (barfed in my mouth a little) that is. Or at least when we broke up I wouldn’t feel all used up and have some money and new ventures in my bag.

What do you all say?
How does the money dynamic play out in the Max_Steel scenario?

[Avion Taylor]

Such an arrangement doesn’t work for a variety of reasons. I don’t know the statistics but I would say a very, very high percentage fail.

Never works for me! EVER! wish there was a way!

[DEAR _JOHN]

Just wondering how many guys out there wouldn't mind your girlfriend being an escort?

No, (just being honest) I'm too insecure. Then again, I would be insecure if my girlfriend would be a Hooters waitress. My feelings aren't against the women, I respect what they do, my feelings are on me and knowing guys were hitting on them all day long.

Just know that in my history, having providers saved a marriage, not destroyed it.

[JuggHead]

Just wondering how many guys out there wouldn't mind your girlfriend being an escort?

I didn't mind at all with the 2 previous escorts I was in long term relationships with but it didn't work out.
After a while the sex became average & I was back to booking appointments after a few weeks.
Most escorts won't admit or maybe they just don't realize it but they try harder to please their sex partner when they're being compensated for it.

[chloevankatie]

I didn't mind at all with the 2 previous escorts I was in long term relationships with but it didn't work out.
After a while the sex became average & I was back to booking appointments after a few weeks.
Most escorts won't admit or maybe they just don't realize it but they try harder to please their sex partner when they're being compensated for it.

I can see that though. Isn't that what happens in longer term relationships (like marriage, for instance), the sex just fizzles out? There definitely has to be something more than just sex to really make it work.

[JuggHead]

There definitely has to be something more than just sex to really make it work.

Absolutely but we (guys) go in with higher sexual expectations since in our mind sex is an escort's forte.

[NordicJag]

Absolutely but we (guys) go in with higher sexual expectations since in our mind sex is an escort's forte.

So you're saying you go into a relationship for the sex and not the emotional connection. I don't care if it's an escort or a civvie, that kind of relationship is not going to last.

[JuggHead]

So you're saying you go into a relationship for the sex and not the emotional connection. I don't care if it's an escort or a civvie, that kind of relationship is not going to last.

In a relationship with a civvie you usually develop an emotional connection first.
With an escort you develop a sexual connection first 100% of the time.

[Anna Nikkole]

CVK is my spirit animal. I want traditional, and not a boyfriend but a husband. Someone I can love and grow old with. Someone who understands the sacrifice I'm making to join our incomes and build a beautiful future for US. Even if I make 3x more than him, it's ok because we are a unit, a team. So if he can get a decent hourly wage and keep himself and me safe, absolutely I would let him. If he was attracted to the client or not he would have to make money for US.

And by sacrifice I mean my freedom, my safety, my health. And yes sometimes my body aches, it's called a day at work. Someone who wants to join together and retire completely and beautifully in 5-10 years and appreciate each other.

So I don't date in the hobby. I don't NEED variety, I need money. I have wonderful clients but I would not have sex with them for free or pleasure. I'm compensated. I am not bi, so I won't bring in a 3rd person, and in the hobby I'm strictly 1 on 1. No couples, no 3 somes, no swinging. And yes I'm still great at what I do! But I have my hours, I would have a schedule and time for him always. We would be a team, I would never give a pass. You want that, stay a hobbyist. Keep paying. I'm not giving you anything if you aren't happy. I'm not working because I'm sexually not happy, I'm working for OUR FUTURE. Not your money flying out, while I'm working to bring it in!

So I appreciate D_J and his response. It's not for him, period. Better than "oh boy the things I'm going to do with all these different bitches now".

I'll stay single.....

[chloevankatie]

CVK is my spirit animal. I want traditional, and not a boyfriend but a husband. Someone I can love and grow old with. Someone who understands the sacrifice I'm making to join our incomes and build a beautiful future for US. Even if I make 3x more than him, it's ok because we are a unit, a team. So if he can get a decent hourly wage and keep himself and me safe, absolutely I would let him. If he was attracted to the client or not he would have to make money for US.

And by sacrifice I mean my freedom, my safety, my health. And yes sometimes my body aches, it's called a day at work. Someone who wants to join together and retire completely and beautifully in 5-10 years and appreciate each other.

So I don't date in the hobby. I don't NEED variety, I need money. I have wonderful clients but I would not have sex with them for free or pleasure. I'm compensated. I am not bi, so I won't bring in a 3rd person, and in the hobby I'm strictly 1 on 1. No couples, no 3 somes, no swinging. And yes I'm still great at what I do! But I have my hours, I would have a schedule and time for him always. We would be a team, I would never give a pass. You want that, stay a hobbyist. Keep paying. I'm not giving you anything if you aren't happy. I'm not working because I'm sexually not happy, I'm working for OUR FUTURE. Not your money flying out, while I'm working to bring it in!

So I appreciate D_J and his response. It's not for him, period. Better than "oh boy the things I'm going to do with all these different bitches now".

I'll stay single.....

I feel the same way. I want a husband to grow old with.

But I realize that I am going to have to leave the hobby and be 100% in the real world for that to happen.

And it may possibly never happen (having a husband, not leaving the hobby, lol) and I am ok with that. What's more important is my happiness than just finding any random warm body.

I quit the hobby for a while and got engaged a few years ago. The dude cheated on me and left me with broken heart. I might as well just have stayed in the hobby and never dealt with him at all and I would have been much happier. He got to sleep around and I didn't. I could have just been here instead, hanging out with you guys and avoided a messy heartbreak.

So I don't date in the hobby cause just like most of the guys here, I don't want any drama in my life. I am focused on my goals and hopefully when I reach them, there will be someone waiting for me on the other side of all of this, and it will someone who sees me for who I really am.

I recently had a guy that wanted me to step outside of the provider/hobbyist relationship. I tried to get him to see me as a real person, as a human being, not just as Chloe Van Katie. But it didn't work. He couldn't see me any other way and even called me "Chloe" and not my name. He would laugh and giggle and make jokes about my job and take cheap shots at me for what I do. No matter hard I tried to get him to see that there was more to me, he just couldn't and I am pretty sure he was just looking for a good time at my expense. I ghosted him.

I felt bad about it, and grappled with whether I should go back and explain why I chose to ghost him. But now after seeing the responses in this thread, I see I made the right decision.

Like the Mr. Steel previously mentioned in this thread, the guy wasn't gonna see me as anything else than someone who lets guys cum in her mouth. I was a joke to him. I am person with feelings and emotions too, and I don't deserve to be used.

I will GLADLY stay single.