Yet another new guy lurking, with questions

[Imthinkingaboutit]

Hello - new guy, here. Have been lurking for a couple of months and, well, I guess I’m thinking about it. I’m what I’d guess is a normal guy, casually interested in hobby activity: 6’1” 210lbs white dude, with a reasonably fit dad-bod. Good family and job, just curious about experiences with mildly exotic and well above average beauty (slender/toned, firm and ample breasts and ass, maybe a tounge peircing, Asian, AA, or rediculously ginger come to mind)

As a noob, I have lots of questions....but I’ll keep it simple to see if there’s any help that can be had in the hobbyverse. Have found tips, warnings, and rants throughout, but hoped these basic questions might produce in one place what seems to me to be the most important info:

1) acknowledging the importance of deference to companions who offer their time and company of their own free will, what golden rules are there to protect the privacy and security of your home and work life? Something like do whatever a reputable companion asks, except don’t ever________?

2) again, acknowledging the importance of not discussing bcd details with a companion, how does one respectfully determine whether a companion is reliably up for the kinds of things you envision for the time you spend together - say for example things like BBBJ, CW, CIM/NQNS, MSOG (because I’m assuming an extra level of excitement)?

3) and how does someone accomplish both of the above as a noob with no references?

That is all. If I never get the chance, thanks at least for the interesting peak inside hobby town.

[Secretbee]

I can not begin to answer these questions. I feel like you and I might be in the same boat. Currently I am standing on the high dive but have not made the plunge in. I almost feel like so many things need to align up perfectly.

What you wrote out here is exactly my line of thinking as well.
"Good family and job, just curious about experiences with mildly exotic and well above average beauty (slender/toned, firm and ample breasts and ass, maybe a tounge peircing, Asian, AA, or rediculously ginger come to mind)"

Well said sir.

[killeeninformer2]

Some of this won't apply to you but from the response you've already gotten it's clear there are some new guys who wouldn't want to ask.

1) Never have a girl over to your home. If you feel you can trust a girl with that info you'd best have been seeing her for a year and know her personally. Or insist that you have to pick her up and drive her there. Also never ever give up any information that you would be uncomfortable being put on blast because it's absolutely possible it'll get put on blast. I never consent to my picture being taken, sending a pic of me, what my real name is, and I don't even park where girls tell me because you've always got that one that likes to take pictures of license plates. Bear in mind that even if there are a lot of independents on here and some of them might (might) genuinely like you there are just as many girls that are managed by some thug and it's not always obvious from the outside. So I recommend you follow my policy of not giving up any personal info what so ever. Once you're verified and known here if that's not enough just move on.

2) I'll couch this in terms of this website. Most girls on here are going to have a menu up or would not mind too much providing it via PM. Other things you might do once you are verified is asking in private male only areas what you can expect or looking at reviews though bear in mind that ymmv as well.

Outside of the board (tbh where I go most often these days) it varies but you can often just ask after a bit of back and forth.

3) The biggest thing you need to do is see some newbie friendly providers who would be willing to vouch that you're safe on the site. Once you're verified you'll be able to read review details, go in to men's only areas, etc. You'll also build up a known reputation and be able to use some girls as references. Sadly I find that a lot of girls are very tardy responding to references and some girls seem to gloss over them. I'm not sure where it is these days but I believe that there is a list of newbie friendly providers who wouldn't mind helping you to get established.


I don't mean to be too scary up front but I kind of do. Especially about your personal info. If anyone asks for anything that makes you uncomfortable or could be used to identify you in real life never be reluctant to cut things off. It's perfectly reasonable that a girl will want to take precautions to protect themselves but that applies to you as well. And it just takes one girl getting pissed off, deciding on a little blackmail, etc... to ruin your life.

[Secretbee]

Thank you. This is great information. This gets a few major questions I had, answered. I have been asked about sending my picture. It is a relief to know that its not unheard of to say no to that request. So far my info has been very limited. I worry about what gets put out. You being scary about it will save someones butt later. I for one appreciate you taking the time to help. I have someone in mind and have reached out. Now I thinks its just finding the right time. This seems like an exciting and exhilarating hobby.

[Azaezel]

There are lots of amazing, sweet, independant ladies here who genuinely love the hobby. You'll know who they are based on reviews and reading between the lines in their ads.

You'll need to do the same to weed out the BSC crowd and the ladies with shady management. It may also take a minute to sort out which hobbyists you can trust to provide accurate info, some guys here are risk takers who jump on every new something in the WW forum, it sounds like you'll want to avoid that.

No photos, no personal info. Look for providers who have been here a while and maybe have some reviews listed. Find a couple of ladies you like and visit them more than once, build some rapport.

[DocHoliday]

1). Don’t, for any reason, disclose your RW information.

2). Do your research. Read reviews.

3). See some Newbie friendly ladies.

[Secretbee]

Thank for all your help guys and the great information. You have no idea (maybe you do) the questions that start to pop into your mind and its hard to get correct information. I want to make sure that I am following the rules and not being taken advantage of. When one lady asked for a photo I panicked and stopped texting her. Turns out someone made a comment about her shady practices.

Thank you again and I will keep you updated to the progress.

[Stewie griffen]

Do not pay in advance
Never loan money

If you make an appointment keep it.
You can leave any time youd like if youre not happy with a session or lady.

[Imthinkingaboutit]

Thank you. Appreciate the info, particularly helpful to hear that if you are concerned with privacy/security of family/home/job, best to simply provide no RW info about yourself. I would have assumed some disclosure would be necessary - see noob disclosure in OP. What else might a companion ask for, other than RW details, to attempt to verify you’re a legitimate customer?

[DocHoliday]

What else might a companion ask for, other than RW details, to attempt to verify you’re a legitimate customer?

1. References!!!!
2. References!!!!
3. Portraiture of Benji.

[killeeninformer2]

In addition to what other have said it was put to me by another hobbyist: "The worst appointment it not the one you miss, it's the one you regret going to." If at any point leading up to a session or even during in extreme cases never hesitate to abort if you need to.

[Angieluv16]

Hello - new guy, here. Have been lurking for a couple of months and, well, I guess I’m thinking about it. I’m what I’d guess is a normal guy, casually interested in hobby activity: 6’1” 210lbs white dude, with a reasonably fit dad-bod. Good family and job, just curious about experiences with mildly exotic and well above average beauty (slender/toned, firm and ample breasts and ass, maybe a tounge peircing, Asian, AA, or rediculously ginger come to mind)

As a noob, I have lots of questions....but I’ll keep it simple to see if there’s any help that can be had in the hobbyverse. Have found tips, warnings, and rants throughout, but hoped these basic questions might produce in one place what seems to me to be the most important info:

1) acknowledging the importance of deference to companions who offer their time and company of their own free will, what golden rules are there to protect the privacy and security of your home and work life? Something like do whatever a reputable companion asks, except don’t ever________?

2) again, acknowledging the importance of not discussing bcd details with a companion, how does one respectfully determine whether a companion is reliably up for the kinds of things you envision for the time you spend together - say for example things like BBBJ, CW, CIM/NQNS, MSOG (because I’m assuming an extra level of excitement)?

3) and how does someone accomplish both of the above as a noob with no references?

That is all. If I never get the chance, thanks at least for the interesting peak inside hobby town.

You also need to be wary of you who seek advice from as a hobbyist. There are a lot of bad apples (men and women) use your best judgement.