After-play and pillow talk

[Ava In Austin]

I am curious, do you like after-play and pillow talk? What is your preference and why?

[Daniel Larusso]

Not my thing unless we're gonna go another round.

[3daygetaway]

In theory, yes. In practice, it’s more challenging: I’m usually spent and still in my reptilian brain, unable to converse.

Further, there’s an intimacy barrier: post-coital bonding is something I want to do with my significant other, not the side-booty. I have certainly had more intimate hobby relationships form where I wanted this type of intimacy afterwards, but it is an exception to the rule.

I believe women are programmed to want the post-coital intimacy far more than men—no doubt it harkens back to evolutionary biology. I’m sorry if you are craving it from your clients, most of whom want to shower off and bounce asap: it can be a cruel hobby.

[Groovy Johnson]

Well I enjoy and appreciate it.
But it's a two-way street, as about half of the ladies I've seen aren't into it at all.
But yeah it strengthens the chemistry and makes me want to return.
For me, it's not really GFE if you don't.

[chairspud]

+1 Groovy!

[Austin Ellen]

I love after play and pillow talk. It makes the experience just so much more special. Just those soft little touches, soft little kisses and giggling. I really love the giggling. I'm a true GFE and I really enjoyed the whole show when I was in the business.

[risn2theoccasion2]

I am curious, do you like after-play and pillow talk? What is your preference and why?

My preference is a solid yes. But it depends on the lady. Some ladies are off the charts awesome at after play, (MSOG, cuddling, and interesting conversation), some leave a lot to be desired. If I find a lady who is great at that, I will certainly reward according to my experience.

But if I have 20 minutes left on the clock, and she jumps up and starts getting dressed, that is an insult to me. And I am NOT trying to open up a can of worms and cause a 19th nervous breakdown, just stating facts from my 20 plus years in hobby. A significant amount of the negative experiences have come from higher price points. Just saying.

[Universal]

My preference is a solid yes. But it depends on the lady. Some ladies are off the charts awesome at after play, (MSOG, cuddling, and interesting conversation), some leave a lot to be desired. If I find a lady who is great at that, I will certainly reward according to my experience.

But if I have 20 minutes left on the clock, and she jumps up and starts getting dressed, that is an insult to me. And I am NOT trying to open up a can of worms and cause a 19th nervous breakdown, just stating facts from my 20 plus years in hobby. A significant amount of the negative experiences have come from higher price points. Just saying.

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[AlexandraSand]

I love after-play and giggles, and pillow talk. And smooching.
I am GFE and most of my dates are not only about sexual satisfaction, but more about companionship. Conversation after coitus is much more personal, than before that. Lots of man can freely discus anything, anytime and some of them need to be closer and securer, to be able to relax. Some man see different girl every 2 days and some man develop friendships, because there is not everything in the hobby about hard-ons, penetration and ejaculation.

imho, most man seek companionship. Because everyone of us can get satisfaction from our Left Hand, for free and anytime.

Hugs, Kisses and flattering eyelashes

[risn2theoccasion2]

I love after-play and giggles, and pillow talk. And smooching.
I am GFE and most of my dates are not only about sexual satisfaction, but more about companionship. Conversation after coitus is much more personal, than before that. Lots of man can freely discus anything, anytime and some of them need to be closer and securer, to be able to relax. Some man see different girl every 2 days and some man develop friendships, because there is not everything in the hobby about hard-ons, penetration and ejaculation.

imho, most man seek companionship. Because everyone of us can get satisfaction from our Left Hand, for free and anytime.

Hugs, Kisses and flattering eyelashes

Most men will never admit that we need that one woman we can open up to and be vulnerable with. Sadly, a lot of women don’t appreciate or embrace that in a man. I’m not talking about a Mother Figure. I also want to hear from her as well. A lady who can make me that comfortable is worth her weight in gold.

The thing I always try to be careful of is respecting her time and not over staying my welcome. If I am invited to stay longer (for non BCD activity) that’s different. I’ve developed those types of business/friendship relationships in the hobby before, and as long as everyone respects boundaries, those are golden.

[Austin Ellen]

One time I had a gentleman over and we were doing our after thingie and he started to get up and I said oh do you have to go? And he said yes because I want to be invited back. I thought that was the sweetest thing ever and he got invited back alot!

[Ava In Austin]

Great comments from both sides! Thank you everyone!
I too enjoy the moments afterwards which can include pillow talk or just taking in the "glow" with a warm silent embrace. And, I agree with those who noted that it enhances the overall experience. I will say for me, that should the gent prefer to continue on with his day I am okay with that too.

I never really knew the reason why some guys did not engage in that activity. So, it is interesting to hear the different male points of view on this and especially the whys. Such as, DLarusso's "Not my thing unless we're gonna go another round" and 3Days "In theory, yes. In practice, it’s more challenging: I’m usually spent and still in my reptilian brain, unable to converse. Further, there’s an intimacy barrier: post-coital bonding is something I want to do with my significant other, not the side-booty." So, there is an end game preference, a primal reason and personal boundary reason for the SO. All valid points and good to know.

Now GJohnson noted, "But it's a two-way street, as about half of the ladies I've seen aren't into it at all." I dare not speculate on this statement, though I am curious as to the why :-)

[F117]

Now GJohnson noted, "But it's a two-way street, as about half of the ladies I've seen aren't into it at all." I dare not speculate on this statement, though I am curious as to the why :-)

Ava,

In my limited experience of "hobbying" for 20+ years, There are a high percentage of providers in the US who have: 1) Mental health issues; 2) "Lifestyle" issues; 3) Come from / are in physically abusive relationships; 4) Let your mind wander. The net effect is the same: They don't want intimacy, and many just plain don't like men (can't imagine why).

Interestingly, My "hobbying" experience abroad (no pun intended) has had much more of authentic GFE / imtimacy feel to it. I saw one French provider exclusively for almost 8 years (as in, I didn't have sex with any other woman during this time period). She lived a bit out in the country, so I would always schedule a 3 or 4 hour rende-vous. More often than not I would end up spending the whole day or sometimes, overnight. I didn't care about what she did in between the times I saw her, it's just that whenever I was with her, I was the complete focus of her attention. We had no secrets from each other.

My current ATF unfortunately, lives in northern Germany, not too far from Denmark. She literally has an international reputation. But the last time I was on the continent, I was two countries away from her. I texted her, and damned if she didn't catch the next TGV high speed train to spend the afternoon with me. She had to travel about 4.5 - 5 hours each way.

No, I'm not some Ralph Lauren model or even the most interesting man in the room. But unlike many hobbyists in the USofA, I have to make a real connection with the lady I'm with or else it's just the Anti-Viagra at $300 / hour minimum. Think of how many providers you personally know who are willing to emotionally risk that level of connection? I don't know many.

With few exceptions, I save up my nickels and dimes and look forward to my next visit to the Continent. The "hobby" is just so.... civilized there!

Just MHO. Cheers!

[ctb731]

I prefer conversation and close contact/cuddling for lack of a better term but it also depends on the lady I'm with. Had a regular in NC 25 years ago who routinely come to my home and stay for hours after coitus. I was in the military and went overseas after knowing her for about 10 months.

[Universal]

Professional cuddling is the law, unspoken law. Lol