Hobbying and being in relationships.

[randomg]

Its been a few months since I recently got into a long distance relationship. It has become very serious. I stopped hobbying once the relationship started except once i got a happy ending in the very beginning. But miss thiss. And i am not sure if i should tell my partner about this aspect of my life. I feel guilty. And occasionaly i do crave to meet my regulars but dont do it out of guilt. I am confused and just want to hear how you or your friends have dealt with this. Is it hard to be in a relationship after you have been in the hobby ? Should i break it off if i know that the girl would be deeply hurt if she ever finds out.

[3daygetaway]

Yes.


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[Strix]

Life's too short, do what makes you happy.

[Seldom_Seen_Smith]

I don't do this when I'm in a relationship. When I joined this site I wasn't in one and had just moved to Austin so was going to resume 'partaking' but then met someone that I liked a couple of weeks later. Turned out we enjoyed each other's company so never started up again. Was it hard not to start again? Not at all.

You should know, and be ready, that if you tell her there's a 99% chance the relationships over. Course the other 1% could happen and she accepts it but expects you to allow her to see other guys as well. Are you going to be ready for that, if that happens?

It actually sounds like your addicted to the hobby or maybe the women you see from oh2 do something your SO doesn't, but maybe would if you talked to her about it.

Course I could be wrong.

Seldom Seen Smith

[SigMeister]

Nah, I'd stop if I got in a relationship. If I started missing the hobby, that's probably my cue to break it off with her.

I do this whole thing in lieu of relationships anyways; I get to keep my independence, don't have to compromise on the things I want, and I get to bed women who look like porn stars without a substantial time investment. There's hardly any downside.

[Guest 121219-1]

I left the hobby when I had a relationship.

I enjoy hobbying more than I enjoy being in a relationship. Times a thousand. The hobby is easy and fun! Relationships, not always!