Clients that want to "Hang Out as Friends", thoughts please

[WW-DEAR_JOHN]

Ive used Meet and Greets many times to help screen a newbie. Has nothing to do with looks. But their demeanor and how they present themselves.

That's a good idea.

Back in around 2002 we even had a mixed softball team.........mixed with providers and hobbyists and we all got along great acting like normal people just playing softball..

One thing set down by Amber (team captain) is that if you hit a home run, you could pick a name out of a hat and get a bbbj for any home runs hit by one of the ladies.
I hit several home runs, but didn't follow up on the bbbj's, nor did anyone else. We all had a great time and there were times when we had several providers and hobbyists
in the stands, but as mentioned, no lines were ever crossed.

We used to practice about once every two weeks, then would head to Ambers apartment complex to swim and soak in the jacuzzi.

It was a fun time, no harm, no foul..........but as stated, it was a different day and time when the internet and hobbying was just in it's infant stages.

[Universal]

A fun softball team ..... YEA
I want that !!!

[mathguy]

Ive used Meet and Greets many times to help screen a newbie. Has nothing to do with looks. But their demeanor and how they present themselves.

Hi MsA. I don't want to ruffle any feathers or anything but I actually do believe looks are at least somewhat important (a component for sure).

I really believe it's one of the major issues with the hobby. Ok, let me qualify that a bit better, not just attractiveness, but the entire selection process. I mean obviously you also have dirtbags, bad attitudes, hygiene issues, odd fetishes, etc... that are all problematic even if someone if nice looking.

But I really believe a much more discriminating and selective process would fix many issues that girl's face (particularly psychologically). If that means some men don't get access to certain girls.... well that's life. Those are the breaks. That's life anyway. It doesn't work any differently in the regular world. I see no reason it should deviate so incredibly much in the hobby. That's just my opinion.

To me the hobby would be better viewed as a form of, hrmmm, let's see, we could call it..... "highly selective super short term playful dating". Yep, there we go! That's a great term! Hehe. It just came to me now

[Ms.Athena]

If a client screens and sets a appt. I have No ideal on his looks tell I open the door. SO then how.does a provider pick her clients from looks??
One thing that made my transition from nursing to escort is that I ONLY looked at a first time client just as I would a patient....That they had a NEED and I was there to meet their NEED. No judgement. Something that I feel has lead so many to share their fetishes and fantasys with me....

[mathguy]

^ Oh, sure. If it works for you sweetie then I'm truly happy for you. Really. I was just taking an opportunity to reiterate something I've said many times and that I believe to be very important (not just the looks thing either, mainly overall selectivity). I obviously can't blame any girls, whether they agree or not, for not speaking out on it haha. But, yea, if you are truly happy with it then it's great... absolutely.

[Universal]

To add to this post, I did one time had a well known provider ask me out for lunch simply because we've never been BCD. I knew she was full of shit when she didn't follow up on it.

I can't just hang out or be friends with a provider I haven't fucked, especially if she'e one I'd like to fuck.

Gentle hugs, sorry she teased you.

[Zantanna Paralla]

Lmao. No. He is more like a brother and I’m really not I hope incest. Lol. plus he was really good fronted with my man at the time. Known him a long time. It would be weird AF

[kerwil]

Gentle hugs, sorry she teased you.

I was never really upset because with me these type of things don't happen.

Gentle hugs back :)

[Bosko]

I've met several providers that have asked to have drinks etc with me, I'm not sure how I feel about it since I try to be as discreet as possible...then again, I dont want to show up and be a 3rd wheel or be that guy that is referred as 'one of my clients'....keeping business seperate.

[lovelyxxxo]

i have hobbyiest that i see both as a friend and as a client of course we are both mature enough to understand the diffrence.. sometimes its just lunch sometimes itjust bisness sometimes its both. never had any issues guess its more of knowing whom to extend the friendship too

[1TxCharmer]

I used to work with a woman downtown. We were both married (not to one another). We became friends, coffee breaks, lunch, etc. I saw her leaving a hotel during lunch one day, she seemed nervous but we picked up casual convo, as usual but she avoided me for a few days. About a month later I saw her again leaving that same hotel but she didnt notice me. Coffee break time the next day I casually mentioned I saw her yesterday during lunch. "Oh, where?" "Same place as before on my way back from lunch." She took a deep breath and introduced me toher hobby and explained the "its business and only physical, no emotion". I was stunned, she was lovely and I thought made good money already, at work. It explained the purses and shoes and Mercedes. I became a client! We remained casual coffee break and lunch break friends but once every months she popped me (once a month was all I could hide from my wife.) On my birthday and that Christmas it was free though I paid for the room. She has moved to another state now but we keep in touch. It IS possible to be casual friends so long as yoi both realize it's only physical and its HER business.

[JessieJane]

Ive used Meet and Greets many times to help screen a newbie. Has nothing to do with looks. But their demeanor and how they present themselves.

Me too !! I miss ATX

[Island_Gent]

Just “hangin’ out” and encroaching into a provider’s off-the-clock time is a red flag for a boundary pusher.

There are a few providers that I genuinely consider friends, but I’d never wanna hang out or do anything off-the-clock with any of ‘em, just like I wouldn’t want anyone encroaching into my civvie space either. Just keep it bizness.

That’s how feelings get caught and shit invariably goes sideways. 🤷🏾*♂️🙌🏾🙏🏾

[lovelyxxxo]

so wait austin allows newbies to there meet and greets??? that sounds all kinds of dangerous or maybe im misinterpreting...

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

The friends from within this biz are I like to have are the ones that like paying me for my time. If I OFFER/allow little OTC that's something else. The moment a paying friend tries to push it I take it as a sign of disrespect (and i'll "fire" someone really fast).