Dirty Talk During A Sesh

[mathguy]

^ dude that's like the epitome of degradation and enjoyment from shaming a female. I mean "slut" or "whxxre" are already very borderline (but sexy with the right person and done the right way if you are both okay with it).

Why would one need to call them a "cumslut". Personally, I don't get it, but if that does it for you and you can find a girl that enjoys it then go for it. More power to you. I just don't understand it.

I can't see how any girl would enjoy that either. Not like actually "enjoy" it. And what's the point if they don't enjoy it? That's how I feel; because I want my partner to enjoy everything as much as I do. Actually that's as important to me as my own pleasure. Dead serious. I don't care if it's paying or not. Either way it's the same to me. I can't see how any girl could really like being degraded in that extreme way. Maybe if you have a really great relationship (hobby or otherwise) and it's just some fantasy thing you are both into that for some reason or something to spice up sex life? /shrug

I think there are plenty of manly, virile ways to speak to a woman in a tantalizing but still sexy domineering way that makes her feel like a "girl" without having to take it to such extremes.

[Universal]

Mathguy Nerd is sexy smart ....... Smart men get my nipples hard

[mathguy]

Mathguy Nerd is sexy smart ....... Smart men get my nipples hard

Oh? What a coincidence babe! I happen to love hard nipples

[1andonlyboardman]

^ dude that's like the epitome of degradation and enjoyment from shaming a female. I mean "slut" or "whxxre" are already very borderline (but sexy with the right person and done the right way if you are both okay with it).

Why would one need to call them a "cumslut". Personally, I don't get it, but if that does it for you and you can find a girl that enjoys it then go for it. More power to you. I just don't understand it.

I can't see how any girl could really like being degraded in that extreme way.

What if she doesn't find it degrading? Is it still degrading?
It may still be in your eyes but her perception may be different. One person's extreme can very easily be another persons normal.

[mathguy]

^^ True, if she doesn't find it to be gross or degrading then no issues. I was just saying it seems odd to me that any girl would really enjoy it or find it not to be offensive. But who knows? Maybe? If so, sure, do what makes two people happy.

[Universal]

I am occupied with putting my mouth on most of his body, I have little time to talk.

[Guest 072519-1]

^^ True, if she doesn't find it to be gross or degrading then no issues. I was just saying it seems odd to me that any girl would really enjoy it or find it not to be offensive. But who knows? Maybe? If so, sure, do what makes two people happy.

I find it degrading & gross.. I have a cum phobia LOL. Not in my mouth or my face... again with boundaries.
My X s/o couldn't even get that. LOL !!
Some women don't know how to keep it classy and kinky. Then we have those who are trying too hard where it sounds cheesy af !!

[TexasRiley]

Turn off for me. I like being talked to.
And i have a habit of talking dirty. Especially when im really feeling it.

[Tbonzer]

I'm probably one of the few that isn't much into dirty talk because if it's too porn-like, loud, or over the top, it makes me laugh and takes me out of the zone.

Kammye has a nice, authentic dirty talk technique that I enjoyed. Some words of encouragement and that's she's feeling good but not yelling or overacting.

+1 on Kammye's technique

[Anna Nikkole]

Turn On or Turn Off?

I can be a bit shy at times (I know I know *face palm*) lol but I love to hear a man talk me through an O. That just makes it so much more powerful!

I agree!!!

[bbkid]

I like dirty talk. Giving and receiving! Not degrading talk, but just enough to keep the motor running....

[spanishcandy_]

Just today had a client not see me because i dont dirty talk.. lol i dont have a problem with it but when its my turn to say something my shy switch is turned on. I guess thats my one thing that I save for outside of this hobby... if it was a more personal encounter or someone i see ALOT then no big deal.. but the first few meetings i think i should be allowed to be a little shy. LOL

[Nascobar21]

Just today had a client not see me because i dont dirty talk.. lol i dont have a problem with it but when its my turn to say something my shy switch is turned on. I guess thats my one thing that I save for outside of this hobby... if it was a more personal encounter or someone i see ALOT then no big deal.. but the first few meetings i think i should be allowed to be a little shy. LOL

Yeah dirty talk would be nice. Lol

[mathguy]

Just today had a client not see me because i dont dirty talk.. lol i dont have a problem with it but when its my turn to say something my shy switch is turned on. I guess thats my one thing that I save for outside of this hobby... if it was a more personal encounter or someone i see ALOT then no big deal.. but the first few meetings i think i should be allowed to be a little shy. LOL

Most people prob think it's funny to hear that a provider has a shy switch or gets shy during a meeting but it makes sense to me. I love dirty talk. Well, it kind of depends on my mood, the style the person has, what they're saying.....

But I get it. Talking dirty is an intensely private and personal thing. It's not like many other sexual activities. We all have personal preferences but for the most part if you know someone likes dfk, doggy, cim, bbbj, mish, etc you just do it. If you know someone is heterosexual then you know for certain they like P in V. But you don't know what they want to "hear". If anything.

Dirty talking is more along the lines of a private fetish. Do they wish to do the talking? Or do they want you to do it? Or do they want a mix? And if so *what* do they want to hear or have said to them?

Some men want to do the talking. All of it. Others want the girl to do it. Others want back and forth. And even when you do know that dynamic, "what" do you say? I think that's where the shy part comes in. We are all afraid to show that part of ourselves to a stranger b/c it doesn't necessarily fit any ideals or norms that we've seen in movies or porn (i.e. if you are hetero you like P in V for sure, likely bbbj, daty [giving/receiving], kissing.....). But what about talking? Hmmm. Not quite so easy.

Organic is always, always best so of course having a blunt conversation about intimate things is not appealing at all especially if you want a GFE style encounter. This is where longer sessions help. You can talk and learn what each other like as you flirt and tease.

Sometimes though you may just both hit the jackpot and have that chemistry that is absolutely perfect. Just like in regular life. Once again that aspect never changes , it's the same whether you pay to play or you don't. Chemistry is chemistry. Period. Frankly if you don't ever have a session with someone where that happens (that kind of chemistry) then you have been very very unlucky and if you are the girl I would say you shouldn't be doing this hobby. You can increase your chances of hitting the jackpot by listening and paying attention to your partners body.

I think if you have borderline socially acceptable fetishes as far as dirty talk then you really need to know the person before trying it.

Usually a little flirting, playing, talking, can reveal what the person likes or desires if you have decent intuition and personality reading skills. You can test the waters too as you say things. You will know... if you are paying attention. For example, do you begin to say something and she gets super wet? Or begins to get sweaty and is becoming more unadulterated? Well, doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what's going on. You just have to pay attention to your lover and their body. Same with the guy too. Do you say something nasty, even just a small "test the waters" phrase, or you do something particular, and his dick swells up harder inside you, or in your mouth, or hand, or wherever it is? Once again. Pretty obvious he likes that.

It really is just like any other sex. I think people forget this. On both sides. Sex is sex. Sometimes it will be great because of the attraction, the chemistry, the styles, the desires, everything lines up. But even in the best of circumstances you need to pay attention to your partner in order to know what works and what doesn't (goes both ways).

-mg

[Guest 011723-1]

Just today had a client not see me because i dont dirty talk.. lol i dont have a problem with it but when its my turn to say something my shy switch is turned on. I guess thats my one thing that I save for outside of this hobby... if it was a more personal encounter or someone i see ALOT then no big deal.. but the first few meetings i think i should be allowed to be a little shy. LOL

I feel the same.