3rd date? 5th? Never?

[Slave Guinevere]

Why have a civie date? That's a good question... Sometimes, I need a break from this world and my real life career... I have a few male companions that I enjoy sneaking away...from the world to see..

We will do very basic things... Watch movies, go bowling, hiking etc... And I get to choose how the time ends... Sometimes, I'm FRISKY and other times I'm not... I can just be ME...

I spend most of my alone time with my children, exercising, designing and/or reading... My little mini vacations...with my male companions...can be quite therapeutic for me...

Then my creative nature is restored...and I can return to our world and my professional one...rested and ready to take on the world...😊

[Slave Guinevere]

Sweetheart I appreciated your playful post. Please know that hobbying has not impacted me negatively at all. My std tests have always been negative, and my wife and I are as happy together as ever. Of course she was not happy when she first learned about my shenanigans, but she was quick to forgive. Our sex life is better than it’s been for years, and the hobby has rejuvenated me. No angst or heartache.

One of these days I hope you and I can meet. I’ve been intrigued by you for a long time.

Don’t be sad.

OH!! I am so glad to hear that you are well physically and that your marriage is doing better than ever...��

You are very kind and I appreciate your chivalrous response... I would be honored to make your acquaintenance...��

I always tell the men I see that I am OK if they have SEX with other people... I prefer my "SO" to see escorts when I am in a relationship because I value the professionalism of the ladies in our world... I never want there to be ANY BUNNIES BOILING on the stove!! Lol ��

[Agent220]

I'm just CURIOUS...

At what point do you guys tell your "SO" that you HOBBY?����

Your inquisitive slave,

Guinevere ��

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Lol... I posted before I SAW THIS... GREAT minds think alike...��

Easy answer for me:

I dont have an S.O. and when I do, my behind will not be on any hobby site

[AlCar0314]

Easy answer for me:

I dont have an S.O. and when I do, my behind will not be on any hobby site

Same

[Slave Guinevere]

Easy answer for me:

I dont have an S.O. and when I do, my behind will not be on any hobby site

I completely respect that... I've done monogamy and I never had a problem with it... I guess now I'm in a different place than where I was 7 years ago... I have dated a couple and experienced a lot of swinger events etc...and I have enjoyed my open relationships just as much as my monogamous ones...

Anyone, that I've ever dated seriously knew I was SG... But that was only after I knew that they were not the type to do crazy... :)

Life is supposed to be lived, loved and enjoyed as each of us sees fit... As long as someone isn't deliberately hurting another person...than I tend to be a "Live and let live" sort of person... Not everyone has to have the same lifestyle for me to find them interesting and unique...:)

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

Life is supposed to be lived, loved and enjoyed as each of us sees fit... As long as someone isn't deliberately hurting another person...than I tend to be a "Live and let live" sort of person... Not everyone has to have the same lifestyle for me to find them interesting and unique...:)

Yes. It’s sad that so many people don’t feel this way.

[Westley]

Why would I go to civil date?!

I am in lovely lust with few of my ATF, who spoiling me rotten. Who intertain and please, ME. Who are writing daily sexy notes to me and never ask where am I, and why dinner is not ready? My Hobbyists are attentive and always here to help. I can have different sexy things done to me, or do it myself, without guilt or rejection. I can openly discuss and share stories without shame and "good-girl" chip on the shoulder. I can travel whenever I want and with whoever I want, as often as I want, for as long as I want. Who in the real life can do that?

I get bored quickly. And here, @Home, is always somebody, who wants to worship me and give me million of compliments.
How many times, in RL can you tell someone 'Kiss my Ass" and they will do it, without hesitation, but with great enthusiasm?!
How many times, in RL you guys had a sexy-bedroom-date and had only orally pleased the girl, and asked nothing in return?! And wanted to do it tomorrow again?! Would you even think of bringing a present for her, in the Real Life Dating?!

My HobbyHubby(yes!) has to wait weeks, sometimes to see me, and is never angry with me.
No Real Life Dating for me, thank you, come again.

xoxoxoxo

The most perfect demonstration of how leveraging the hobby can be harmonious.

[FuckTheFeds]

Having dated several providers in the past, I can speak from experience. While every person is unique, the same pattern has occurred with all 4 of them. I see them for a couple sessions, they invite me over for a freebie or 2, next thing I know they are calling me their boyfriend and talking about quitting the hobby even though it was never suggested. They keep telling me they will quit, stop posting ads, and start running low on money. They're too proud to take my money, so they start working again secretly and get defensive when I ask them about it.

TL;DR it might work with some unicorn out there, but human nature will always get in the way.

[MAJICHANDS]

I totally get it. But if you fall in love, you would tell him about being a Provider knowing you’re putting the relationship at risk?

if its real love it wont matter and I can quit any day for any reason why not love?

[Simply Simone]

Maybe after the 5th, but then again probably NEVER because it can backfire on you also!

[pjd19000]

Sweetheart I appreciated your playful post. Please know that hobbying has not impacted me negatively at all. My std tests have always been negative, and my wife and I are as happy together as ever. Of course she was not happy when she first learned about my shenanigans, but she was quick to forgive. Our sex life is better than it’s been for years, and the hobby has rejuvenated me. No angst or heartache.

One of these days I hope you and I can meet. I’ve been intrigued by you for a long time.

Don’t be sad.

LovingLife, if you get a chance to see SG... DO IT!

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

LovingLife, if you get a chance to see SG... DO IT!

I would love to! I hope to meet her someday soon.

[MarkWatney]

I don't think that I could date a provider for one simple reason. I hobby for variety.

There's no unicorn for me, at least not in my experience. I've met a number of mind-gobbling ladies, but there's always the quest to meet someone new and different. I think that it's part of human nature to seek out novelty.

The human experience is very complex, so I won't say that it will never happen. Just probably never.

In a perfect world, I would have eternity to make love with every woman who has ever existed. But I'm delighted with the experiences that I've had and how they play into my fantasy world. Life is for living, but we spend a lot of it reliving it, which is almost as much fun.

[Low-T]

This thread makes me realize providers need real relationships like everyone else. We Johns are just a means of income and what they do for us is worth every penny we pay. I can't imagine having a meaningful relationship with a girl I know is a provider. It would take a pretty hard man to share his woman with others. I would think most providers consider us their boyfriends and wouldn't bother having a meaningful relationship until they get out of the hobby. Just my two cents worth.

[CubanAva]

Weird double standards going on I'm these parts. So, a male can hobby AND be in a meaningful committed relationship but a woman cannot? Because it being transactional is only a convenient term used when one is giving himself a pass on stepping out of his relationship? Hmmm interesting. In my RW, monogamy is an absolute must! My moral compass is strong and I dare not go against it but in the hobby world, relationships and monogamy do not exist. Everyone is free to Express themselves, explore their deepest desires and live out their wildest of fantasies. So, again, if hobby gents do not disclose their involvement in this world to their RW lovers, then why should their be any expectation for a lady to do so?

Also, it doesn't take a strong man, it takes an emotionally mature one. One who understands the difference between lust and love and the difference between sex and a real emotional connection. If you would not date a provider then you have absolutely no business hobbying while in a relationship because one could only take from that, that you dont have the ability to distinguish between the things previously mentioned.

But, it is merely 7am and I was woken up by cats stepping on my head, so I may just be a little grumpy and groggy right now. Excuse any typos or gibberish.

Back to sleep for me,

Xo