3rd date? 5th? Never?

[AlCar0314]

Providers, how many civilian dates do you go on before telling the guy about the hobby?

[MAJICHANDS]

The same amount of time as it takes to have sex. Normally 10 dates. Because when I have sex with someone.
I want to make sure he's going to have sex with me when ever I want it.
So that takes more that three to five dates to figure out that's the guy.
Plus it takes time to get him deep in and liking me so much that the job won't matter.

[Passion2015]

Interesting, I dont believe I could date a provider. Too many cons out weigh the pros for me.

That's just me.

[AlCar0314]

Interesting, I dont believe I could date a provider. Too many cons out weigh the pros for me.

That's just me.

I don’t know if I could or not.

This all stemmed from matching with a Provider on Tinder....but they don’t know that I know who they are. ��

[redmoney]

The best relationships are built on trust, the funnest are the ones built on having the same kinks. When it comes to escorts and hobbiests getting together, the only relationships I have seen succeed are when it's an open marriage. They might not hobby anymore but go out swinging together or have friends they play with. If this was on a dating app I would either bring it up immediately if you are going to have a problem with her seeing other guys, or wait until she is ready to tell you herself. Either way you need to be okay with her fucking other guys.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

What are civilian dates again....

Who does that? Yuck! Lol

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

All jokes aside, I can’t date and do this.

I don’t want to lie or tell them my business.

Tbh this takes care of my needs and gives me
enough time to take good care of myself without
distractions or all the bs that happens in conventional relationships.

Sooooo when do y’all let the ladies you have
in your civilian life know about your hobby, hmm? Lol.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

the only relationships I have seen succeed are when it's an open marriage.

Uuuuu

Am I the only cynic who finds conventional thoughts about conventional relationships silly.
Is marriage obsolete yet?

Sure it’s great to have a support system in life..
I’m baffled by full grown adults who think it’s right to be legally bound to someone forever.
Like we don’t see this shit doesn’t work the majority of the time.

Omg I can’t... lol. TFF.

[Slave Guinevere]

The best relationships are built on trust, the funnest are the ones built on having the same kinks. When it comes to escorts and hobbiests getting together, the only relationships I have seen succeed are when it's an open marriage. They might not hobby anymore but go out swinging together or have friends they play with. If this was on a dating app I would either bring it up immediately if you are going to have a problem with her seeing other guys, or wait until she is ready to tell you herself. Either way you need to be okay with her fucking other guys.

GREAT ANSWER!! I have dated men in and out of the hobby... To be honest, men who hobby are more interesting and tend to be better in bed...

That being said... I don't date as much anymore because I'm working on some new things and I find that most people do not appreciate the effort it takes to be successful in any venture... There are only so many hours in the day and all of my free time goes to my children... ��

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

When it comes to escorts and hobbiests getting together, the only relationships I have seen succeed are when it's an open marriage.

Well I guess it’s safe to say:

many of you all’s marriages are, very, *clears throat* “successful”.

[Eva69]

I totally agree, but I don't think that most people can be happy in monogamous relationships. At least not me...

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A lot of guys hobby to experience things that their SO can't or won't do, and if SO knew about it, that would be a deal-breaker. Same with dates, we're usually trying to put our best foot forward, and let's face it, hobbying is stigmatized by many if not most civilians.

For me, the hobby is more to fill the gaps between SO's and love interests. After going a certain amount of time without having a beautiful gal sit on my face, the urge to merge kicks in. Luckily there are any number of hobby gals who are happy to oblige.

I know there are a few lucky guys who hobby with the knowledge of their SO, and sometimes even with their participation. That's the exception, and I wonder if they know how lucky they are. But most of us try to fly under the radar, and why not? If we show our hand, word tends to get out, and that can be counterproductive.

Hats off to the gals that are able to provide and have a love life. Also to the gals that don't feel the need to do both. It's all about identifying what we need and finding ways to get it.

Preach

[CubanAva]

I don’t know if I could or not.

This all stemmed from matching with a Provider on Tinder....but they don’t know that I know who they are. ��

Sooo how many dates does it take for you guys to tell the woman that you see providers? That seems like the real question you should have asked because its definitely something you should tell them, also, I find it creepy when hobbyist match with us on dating sites and dont say they recognize us from here. If you dont say anything then why should we?
To answer this question, If I were to have a civilian relationship, I wouldn't be in the hobby anymore so it wouldnt be brought up *shrugs*

[AlCar0314]

The same amount of time as it takes to have sex. Normally 10 dates. Because when I have sex with someone.
I want to make sure he's going to have sex with me when ever I want it.
So that takes more that three to five dates to figure out that's the guy.
Plus it takes time to get him deep in and liking me so much that the job won't matter.

I totally get it. But if you fall in love, you would tell him about being a Provider knowing you’re putting the relationship at risk?

[MAJICHANDS]

I totally get it. But if you fall in love, you would tell him about being a Provider knowing you’re putting the relationship at risk?

if its real love it wont matter and I can quit any day for any reason why not love?

[Slave Guinevere]

I'm just CURIOUS...

At what point do you guys tell your "SO" that you HOBBY?����

Your inquisitive slave,

Guinevere ��

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Sooo how many dates does it take for you guys to tell the woman that you see providers? That seems like the real question you should have asked because its definitely something you should tell them, also, I find it creepy when hobbyist match with us on dating sites and dont say they recognize us from here. If you dont say anything then why should we?
To answer this question, If I were to have a civilian relationship, I wouldn't be in the hobby anymore so it wouldnt be brought up *shrugs*

Lol... I posted before I SAW THIS... GREAT minds think alike...��