3rd date? 5th? Never?

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

Weird double standards going on I'm these parts. So, a male can hobby AND be in a meaningful committed relationship but a woman cannot? Because it being transactional is only a convenient term used when one is giving himself a pass on stepping out of his relationship? Hmmm interesting. In my RW, monogamy is an absolute must! My moral compass is strong and I dare not go against it but in the hobby world, relationships and monogamy do not exist. Everyone is free to Express themselves, explore their deepest desires and live out their wildest of fantasies. So, again, if hobby gents do not disclose their involvement in this world to their RW lovers, then why should their be any expectation for a lady to do so?

Also, it doesn't take a strong man, it takes an emotionally mature one. One who understands the difference between lust and love and the difference between sex and a real emotional connection. If you would not date a provider then you have absolutely no business hobbying while in a relationship because one could only take from that, that you dont have the ability to distinguish between the things previously mentioned.

But, it is merely 7am and I was woken up by cats stepping on my head, so I may just be a little grumpy and groggy right now. Excuse any typos or gibberish.

Back to sleep for me,

Xo

Wise words young lady. Yes there are double standards all across life. It’s unfortunate, and with a little work, perhaps we can overcome and eradicate them. That’s my hope.

I really would like to meet you some day.

[AmbreeAustin]

Simple I don’t date. I chose this for myself during this time in my life so I choose not to date been there done that. For one thing if you’re not honest from the start you’re doomed and I don’t know about you girls but I’m not gonna introduce myself as hi my name is so-and-so and I’m an escort . LOL I’m just saying i’m not up for Lying also I enjoy being single. After what we girls see I don’t believe in marriage anymore either

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

THIS COURT HAS ADJOURNED! lol

Weird double standards going on I'm these parts. So, a male can hobby AND be in a meaningful committed relationship but a woman cannot? Because it being transactional is only a convenient term used when one is giving himself a pass on stepping out of his relationship? Hmmm interesting. In my RW, monogamy is an absolute must! My moral compass is strong and I dare not go against it but in the hobby world, relationships and monogamy do not exist. Everyone is free to Express themselves, explore their deepest desires and live out their wildest of fantasies. So, again, if hobby gents do not disclose their involvement in this world to their RW lovers, then why should their be any expectation for a lady to do so?

Also, it doesn't take a strong man, it takes an emotionally mature one. One who understands the difference between lust and love and the difference between sex and a real emotional connection. If you would not date a provider then you have absolutely no business hobbying while in a relationship because one could only take from that, that you dont have the ability to distinguish between the things previously mentioned.

But, it is merely 7am and I was woken up by cats stepping on my head, so I may just be a little grumpy and groggy right now. Excuse any typos or gibberish.

Back to sleep for me,

Xo

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

It’s rare to find someone you don’t doubt has your back for years and years. Monogamous relationship or not it’s nice to know you can have support from ppl when you need it and it’s nice to know you can break free when it’s not available.

Life is about getting your needs met, *shrug*,
and if we can do that without harming others great!
If you can’t do that then fuck off! lol

[CubanAva]

Wise words young lady. Yes there are double standards all across life. It’s unfortunate, and with a little work, perhaps we can overcome and eradicate them. That’s my hope.

I really would like to meet you some day.

Oh my!!! My misuse of "their" in that first paragraph is making my eye twitch. Yuck. I must stay off of the internet while sleepy, ive made a fool of myself. *sigh*

James, is it? I'm humbled by your support and I would gladly make your acquaintance. Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to read through and decipher my gibberish. You are appreciated.


Ambree and Jasmine, I fully agree with both of your statements. It is always in the back of my mind when I encounter men in the RW. Something that I wish I didnt have so much first hand knowledge of, would be exactly how often and how many, gents hobby. But, I am confident enough in myself and my ability to one day push those thoughts completely out of my mind, and hopefully sustain a healthy, loving and faithfully committed relationship. I believe that is why many providers end up dating hobbyist, they believe that since he knows the ins and outs, they will no longer participate in this world once they have her. I believe it to be true in many cases, and the ones where it isnt, I believe she is aware of it and doesn't mind. I often times wonder if I would really mind, if I would prefer to have an open relationship as to encourage honesty and transparency within my relationship. But only time will tell. We are all so young, there's no rush to the bands and vows. We have time to explore our minds for our truths.

Xo

[AlCar0314]

It’s not about a double standard. It’s that men don’t hobby for a living. Now I get it that some Providers only do this as a side gig, but there are some that depend on it as a main source of income.

So it’s easier for men to not disclose seeing an Escort if it’s just a side hobby during dating dry seasons.

[Universal]

I am single and not dating so none of that applies to me. I just enjoy doing freaky things and it's easier to find girls here rather than IRL. Like how many dates do I need to go on until I find out your okay with me sticking my whole arm up your ass and make you in to my puppet!(J/K). Too many vanilla people out there, and to the freaks I look like a vanilla myself so it's a vicious cycle.

tell us how you really feel.Hugs You

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

OH!! I am so glad to hear that you are well physically and that your marriage is doing better than ever...��

You are very kind and I appreciate your chivalrous response... I would be honored to make your acquaintenance...��

I always tell the men I see that I am OK if they have SEX with other people... I prefer my "SO" to see escorts when I am in a relationship because I value the professionalism of the ladies in our world... I never want there to be ANY BUNNIES BOILING on the stove!! Lol ��

I so want to meet you, and was excited to hear that you were coming to Austin next week, but disappointed that you are hosting in north Austin. Any chance you might visit south Austin?

[Universal]

Providers, how many civilian dates do you go on before telling the guy about the hobby?

How many sessions does a hobbyist do before telling his wife?

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

How many sessions does a hobbyist do before telling his wife?

This hobbyist...38.

[NatSherman]

Lol not everything in life is sexism. When a guy hobbys, he sees a provider occasionally. Once a week is probably maximum, but most it takes a couple of weeks before they want to spend money again. A woman who does this as her main job is having sex almost daily with multiple men. It's easier to hide that you're hobbying when you only do it every couple of weeks and it's not going to piss off your spouse as much. It's still pretty bad, but it's kinda delusional if you think it's going to hurt as much as having sex with multiple people every single day. It's really not the same thing, no reason to get offended. Like one provider probably had sex more times in a few months then most hobbyist have had sex in their entire hobbying career. No offense to anyone or anything. You just have to be amazingly sneaky to hide from your partner that you're a provider imo unless you do it very infrequently.

[Champagne Brown]

I used to be upfront about it, but after getting it thrown in my face repeatedly after a breakup, decided to keep it to myself.. Yes, I know I'm wrong for that.

I just tell new potential boyfriends I do shows, which is kinda honest.

[Universal]

This hobbyist...38.

At least you are honest Bae & most Hobbyist aren't. Hugs and kisses

[Universal]

Weird double standards going on I'm these parts. So, a male can hobby AND be in a meaningful committed relationship but a woman cannot? Because it being transactional is only a convenient term used when one is giving himself a pass on stepping out of his relationship? Hmmm interesting. In my RW, monogamy is an absolute must! My moral compass is strong and I dare not go against it but in the hobby world, relationships and monogamy do not exist. Everyone is free to Express themselves, explore their deepest desires and live out their wildest of fantasies. So, again, if hobby gents do not disclose their involvement in this world to their RW lovers, then why should their be any expectation for a lady to do so?

Also, it doesn't take a strong man, it takes an emotionally mature one. One who understands the difference between lust and love and the difference between sex and a real emotional connection. If you would not date a provider then you have absolutely no business hobbying while in a relationship because one could only take from that, that you dont have the ability to distinguish between the things previously mentioned.

But, it is merely 7am and I was woken up by cats stepping on my head, so I may just be a little grumpy and groggy right now. Excuse any typos or gibberish.

Back to sleep for me,

Xo

You right !! The exact reason I asked my question, How many married men have told their wives about their hobby? Men expect us to be honest in personal relationships

[Jessica Dymond]

I have not been with a man (outside the hobby) since 2009
My “guy” is rechargeable and stays right in my toy chest (next to my bed of course) lol

Providers, how many civilian dates do you go on before telling the guy about the hobby?