frustrations ?

[Tommie Gunnz]

I have thought long and hard about posting this. It almost cost me the most precious thing we all have. So here goes. My biggest frustration in the hobby. Any lady that has seen me will tell you that I treat them with the utmost respect. I never ask for more than agreed upon. I respect them.

Playing with peoples heart strings and using deception to manipulate someone is my biggest frustration. Now this works both ways. A man using a lady and a lady using a man. Some look at others as a piece of meat, an object of pleasure no more valuable than a sex toy. They lose site of the fact that we are all human beings here. Don’t lie. Don’t use. Ladies don’t fall for the super hero Capt’n Sav A Hoe.

And guys, don’t lose site of the fact that you are just another John. I will have to plead guilty here, especially in a recent case. I wasn’t trying to be Capt’n Sav A Hoe as much as my basic nature to help a human being in need kicked in. Go ahead and call me a dumbass, tell me something I don’t already know. The lady comes across as a sweetheart. In fact, that is the most common things her promoters say about her. But, I discovered a master manipulator. She caught me at a vulnerable time in my life. She needed help. Has “a condition” that keeps her from working for extended periods of time.

For several months, I was not only a client but helped her when she couldn’t work. Not cause I wanted to save her, mind you, or as an attempt to get free sex. I never asked for free sex. I bought her gas, food, took her to the ER, bought 3 prescriptions (she doesn’t have insurance), helped her with personal items, in addition to giving her close to $1000 in non-session cash. Go ahead, tell me what I already know. I’m a dumbass and I deserve what I got.

Like I mentioned, she caught me at a vulnerable time in my life. I was dealing with a lot. Very lonely. Played with my heart like Stevie Ray played a Strat. Told me how wonderful I was, that she loved me, I’m the one she’s been looking for all her life, she wanted to move in with me. I swallowed the bait and the hook. Then, she told me she never meant it and only said it because she needed me to keep helping her and figured I would stop. I still have the text messages that proves it.

Don’t bother asking me who it is. She has White Knights, several who feed her information and I don’t need the grief.

So, lesson learned big time. I will never do more than pay for a session with a Provider ever again. You may now call me anything you choose. When you hobby. Leave your heart at the door.

Being reckless with the hearts and emotions of others, and betraying those that have given you their trust is one of the wounds that cut the deepest. I'm sorry this happened to you, and I'm sorry it happened in this community. It's fucked up, and you have every right to the hurt it's caused you.

What this says to me is that you're a good man, and you did what a any good man would do. And unfortunately, there are people in the world that manipulate the genuine intentions of others for personal gain, which can leave the Givers and Helpers of the world cold, callous, and jaded.

I say fuck that noise! Refuse to let the uglies in this world steal your sunshine, and continue to put yourself out there by helping anothers in need. When things like this happen to me I try to (eventually, sometimes sooner than others) use the experience to make a better version of myself, and the best me will always take the risk.

I'm sending you all the virtual hugs right now. And, if no one's said so today, you're a good person and the world is better because you're in it! XOXO

[Agent220]

Being reckless with the hearts and emotions of others, and betraying those that have given you their trust is one of the wounds that cut the deepest.

Damnit Tommie you hit us with another incredible quote

[Bettie_mae]

I'm sorry you feel hurt. Definitely not cool intentionally causing harm to one another. Here is a video I just per used to help people know what behaviours to watch for early on to avoid getting taken by people who don't have your best interest in mind. I hope it helps.
https://youtu.be/RFmvhDRqCys

This video will hopefully help you heal. Then you don't have to isolate yourself from people who do care. It will help you learn the difference.

[Moneymoneymoney]

so sorry Risn! man that sucks!

[Stewie griffen]

Tha sucks, im sorry that happened.

It is however a good reminder that there are predators everywhere, even amongst us. I tend to believe that more people than not here have the potential.

[DrSicilian]

agreed Spencer

[DrSicilian]

great post Tommie-I have been in his place-with an ex Porn Star-she tried to have her give my bank account number to her so I could hold some money for her, then she could get it back at a later date. "Do I look fuckin stupid to you?" -- "What do you mean?" - "My little head doesn't control my big head" "Fuck You !" LOL!! I KNOW IT HURTS NOW-AND YOU WILL KICK YOURSELF IN THE ASS MANY TIMES--BUT WE ALL HEAL SIR.

[Austin Ellen]

At this old age I know people will hurt you but I also know people will love you too. When I was young I use to work with my dad. He owned a business. My dad loved to help people. On occasion he would give money if people needed help. There are 2 such incidents that stand out in my mind. One is where we were at a gas station and these 2 ladies were in front of the store. They said they were stranded with no money for gas. So my dad gave them money to get gas and he also gave them extra so they could also get some food. He went into the store and I was waiting outside. These 2 women did not realize that I was with him and didn't realize I could hear what they were saying and what they said was " that old man was stupid, let's see if he'll give us some more." At that point, I spoke up and said "no, he's not going to give you any more. And they quickly walked away. I,of course never told my dad but that hurt me and has stayed with me. The other incident was similar - a couple walked into my dad's store and said they got stranded because they ran out of gas. They had just moved to our city and didn't know anyone and used all their money to move. My dad gave them money for food and he gave them extra to get a hotel room too. A week later the couple came in to repay my dad. They baked a cake for him and told him he was the kindest man they had ever met. And a great friendship developed and lasted until my dad's death. This is a very personal story and it still makes my eyes leakie when I think about it.

There is a saying that I like - it's - Things always work out in the end - if it hasn't worked out - it's not the end.

Much love to risn. Please keep that good heart of yours - you make the world better.
xoxo

[Tx210boi]

anything that has to do with up sell. if its stated in you profile the donation was 80, 120 etc...and after we confirmed appointment...but now switch donation to something higher due to "your made up reason" right before things are about to start...big turn off.

[JustaCrazyGuy512]

I have thought long and hard about posting this. It almost cost me the most precious thing we all have. So here goes. My biggest frustration in the hobby. Any lady that has seen me will tell you that I treat them with the utmost respect. I never ask for more than agreed upon. I respect them.

Playing with peoples heart strings and using deception to manipulate someone is my biggest frustration. Now this works both ways. A man using a lady and a lady using a man. Some look at others as a piece of meat, an object of pleasure no more valuable than a sex toy. They lose site of the fact that we are all human beings here. Don’t lie. Don’t use. Ladies don’t fall for the super hero Capt’n Sav A Hoe.

And guys, don’t lose site of the fact that you are just another John. I will have to plead guilty here, especially in a recent case. I wasn’t trying to be Capt’n Sav A Hoe as much as my basic nature to help a human being in need kicked in. Go ahead and call me a dumbass, tell me something I don’t already know. The lady comes across as a sweetheart. In fact, that is the most common things her promoters say about her. But, I discovered a master manipulator. She caught me at a vulnerable time in my life. She needed help. Has “a condition” that keeps her from working for extended periods of time.

For several months, I was not only a client but helped her when she couldn’t work. Not cause I wanted to save her, mind you, or as an attempt to get free sex. I never asked for free sex. I bought her gas, food, took her to the ER, bought 3 prescriptions (she doesn’t have insurance), helped her with personal items, in addition to giving her close to $1000 in non-session cash. Go ahead, tell me what I already know. I’m a dumbass and I deserve what I got.

Like I mentioned, she caught me at a vulnerable time in my life. I was dealing with a lot. Very lonely. Played with my heart like Stevie Ray played a Strat. Told me how wonderful I was, that she loved me, I’m the one she’s been looking for all her life, she wanted to move in with me. I swallowed the bait and the hook. Then, she told me she never meant it and only said it because she needed me to keep helping her and figured I would stop. I still have the text messages that proves it.

Don’t bother asking me who it is. She has White Knights, several who feed her information and I don’t need the grief.

So, lesson learned big time. I will never do more than pay for a session with a Provider ever again. You may now call me anything you choose. When you hobby. Leave your heart at the door.

Wow. What a low life. So sorry man. You are not a dumb ass. You were taken advantage of. Here's hoping she gets what she deserves.

[Utrhottie]

I agree with most of what some have said.

[Daniel Larusso]

I agree with most of what some have said.

Well, I agree with some of what most have said...lol!

[AlexandraSand]

....Playing with peoples heart strings and using deception to manipulate someone is my biggest frustration. Now this works both ways. A man using a lady and a lady using a man.



This stick has two ends:

After developing very friendly friendship, close sexual relationship and trust, I have been noticing, that my Darling Jon is trying to use me as a "free pizza.'

I was never "free" nor did I give any reason to believe, that I want to become your/his SO, girlfriend or anything else.
Just because you/he fell in-love with me, that does not mean, that you can stop giving me my donation. I am lovable, for a while, for an hour and from a far. I will listen to your problems, I will help you forget the world outside of my door. I will not stop needing my donation.

I went on the extended trip with my Darling Jon, not the first time, and have been always presented with good "thank you" gift. This time, however, I was not...
I do not demand my donation in the beginning of my date with my old friends. And yes, I do let them, my old friends, occasionally, take advantage of me and impose their own donation amount, because I personally believe in "averaging" it out or whatever.

I am very sad, that I have been put in the situation, where I have to turn my inner bitch and demand satisfaction.


My thinking about it is: Time will tell. I'll sit back and relax. I will answer all his texts, phone calls and emails. I will see him again. I will ask next time in person why.

I have no problem to stand up for myself. I just hate doing it.

[risn2theoccasion2]

....Playing with peoples heart strings and using deception to manipulate someone is my biggest frustration. Now this works both ways. A man using a lady and a lady using a man.



This stick has two ends:

After developing very friendly friendship, close sexual relationship and trust, I have been noticing, that my Darling Jon is trying to use me as a "free pizza"

I can certainly understand the way you feel. There is a difference between friendship and a relationship. From what you said, YOU never indicated there was any more than a special friendship. In your example, no actions or words of a committed relationship were uttered. I can see where you would have every right to be upset.

[AlexandraSand]

risn2theoccasion2

My heart goes out to you.