Originally Posted by
Tommie Gunnz
Life happens, and people meet in the strangest of ways. In the end, your experience is unique to the both of you and what anyone else says or thinks is irrelevant. Sometimes these relationships are for the better, but unfortunately sometimes it's for the worse. I'll add my two cents by saying this: Who cares how you met, and who cares how it progressed, and fuck everyone else as long as you both are happy. Is this person adding to your life and making you a better person? Do they provide support and friendship, simply because they are genuinely invested in your well-being and want to see you succeed at anything you choose? Relationships are hard regardless of how they start, take a TON of work to maintain, and only work if egos are checked at the door. The three things essential in any healthy relationship, IMO, are as follows:
1) You're both equally invested in each other's happiness and well-being. It might not always be an even 50/50 split. We all have days where adulting isn't an option, or maybe life is throwing some serious lemons in your face. One week it could be 30/70, the next week 56/44. Regardless, you're on each other's team. And after all is said and done, you know they'll be there, and vice versa.
2) Do not for one second exchange your partner will change, for any reason. It's one of the hardest lessons learned, but leaves you a better friend/partner/person once you do. People will make their own choices, all we can control is how we react to and move forward. No is responsible for your happiness but you.
3) Communicate! How can a person even attempt to right wronged feelings, or fix a problem, if they don't know what the issue is! Talking sucks balls sometimes, but it's better than the alternative. No one i've ever met can read minds, Just saying. Go ahead, rip the bandaid off and sit in the uncomfortable for a hot minute. It might be weird for a but, but you'll be ok. Whatever the outcome, just a few words to give a person a little perspective will always ends up be worth it in the end.