there should be open talk about aftercare
there should be open talk about aftercare
Somethings I have not try is threesomes , gang bang , i my self is a sub/ slave I see it as both the Dom and the sub should give the outmost respect to one another. Everyone should be able to watch out for the Dom’s that are just wannabes/ fakes those men are just wanting to give pain and torture , so with that communication ,trust, respect, loyalty is a big part in the BDSM lifestyle as a sub the Dom has to gain your submission first . But anyways lol , I love bondage and blindfolds and the roughness ,and ice play , wax play I have done a lot of things , but threesomes and gangbang is something I want to try
Being a DOM in the D/s world of BDSM I personally like the woman's head over the side of the bed and giving her a nice wet sloppy face fuck and rewarding her with a nice big throat pie. I don't see any providers offering this....lol
Me and my ex started getting into D/s. Me as the Dom and her the sub. I liked being in control. Giving orders/instructions. Holding her head down with my hands, legs or I used my shirt sometimes. It took some practice, but most of the time she could throat me no problem. She never got used to being throat fucked, not without gagging. I used restraints and a blindfold on her. Teasing and pleasing her with my hands, mouth, dick or toys. Being the one to decide if she can have orgasms or not. We used impact play as "punishments", paddle and flogger as well as barehanded spanking, breast slapping, choking and hair pulling. She really started embracing her inner brat. Forcing me to try and get more aggressive. Which isn't really my thing. I enjoy moments of of "pain" just as a reminder that she is my sub.
I haven't had a scene like that in almost two years. I thought about trying to find a provider for such things. But what makes that work is trust and sexual chemistry. You can click instantly and make a woman cum and squirt multiple times the very first time or you can learn each other and get to the point that you can do that. As well as boundaries.
As far as preferences I like hair down, makeup, dresses, corsets, stalkings, glasses, cotton panties. If outfits are involved I like them to allow access to breast and pussy so they can be kept on. I never saw the point in putting on a sexy outfit or lingerie just to take it off.
Another thing to consider...bdsm does not have to be about sex or even be sexual.
I think for most it's about exploration, But once you've found your itch finding someone to scratch it can be difficult. I enjoy CBT... sounding, ball stretching, cock slapping and squeezing to name a few. I'm curious about pegging. I'm typically a Dom for the most part. But I've also led from the bottom a couple of times to give Dommes' more experience in these areas. It's all about communication and negotiating a scene. As an example; if you don't want bodily fluids, that is off the table. Safe words. Instruments of pain or sensory stimulation. etc. Such a huge array of possibilities.
The reason you don't see providers offering this much is it can be dangerous even if you think there's trust there. I'm sure there are quite a few out there who enjoy it but I understand why you won't see them advertising it. I love this but I would never say that in an ad for fear of attracting attention from people who wouldn't respect my boundaries. I used to avoid being open as a sub at all because of the number of guys who believed being submissive = willing to submit to anyone and do anything. Even me saying here that I enjoy this specific act might be seen by some people as an invitation that it's on the table which it absolutely isn't unless I decide I feel safe. Anyway, all that to say, I think the focus on establishing a strong trusting relationship should be the foundation and specific acts will follow. Which can make it harder to find the activities you might be looking for but would still be the best decision for mutual safety and respect.
in my asp website book,
flirting and discussions of fetishes & kinks is sexy.
advertising is NOT.
I have always my love of DATY something of a fetish.
Hoping to take it to a new level when I get the opportunity to meet Dallas Rain.
I'm in the west Texas area, looking for Latina or ebony (requested) me, it don't matter. But my wife opened up to me about her fantasies, I was floored but turned on and want her happy. She want to he restrained and receive oral pleasure from a Latina or Ebony woman, me personally Idc what color, but this is about her pleasure. I'm 2 1/2 hrs either way from DFW Metroplex, San Antonio, Midland/Odessa.
My current list is:
Crossdressing
Bondage / pegging
Looking for a gloryhole
Things I’m starting is light flogging, hot candle wax and having the guy tied down although the last one has been offered for years.
Restraints with my balls tied and tethered while getting pegged…I’m working on that one.
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