I hope I'm not the only one....

Hopefully I can put myself out here like this without judgment...

For about the last 20 years, I've not been able to get a nut with just BJ [and barely with HJ]. I don't know why, but it seems like some kind of mental block or something. Even with intercourse, it takes me a LONG time to cum [sometimes I have to take a break and then get back to it].

I actually started looking to this site and others in hopes that I might be able to get over this roadblock and actually be able to cum with head. Unfortunately, that's not been the case yet. I've seen several ladies so far and although they've all given it a good shot, there's been no luck yet. I've had some BJ for 45 minutes with no result, except they get tired and quit. Always had to resort to finishing with FS.

I know y'all aren't a bunch of doctors or therapists, but curious if anyone has experienced anything similar and if so, how'd you get past it?

I'm still waiting for the lady that doesn't give up and wants to help me experience what that's like..

No judgements here. Recently, I found myself in the same boat. So I just did noFap for 30 days, and abstained from any pornography. It felt like a reset on the body and mind. Instead of focusing on my own pleasure and what I like, I focused on the lady that was giving the pleasure, and just forced myself to give in.

That's not a bad thing to give a try.. thanks!

Always had trouble getting a nut from a BJ, I get overstimulated and tense up. Some gals can do it, but it takes longer.

Hey Mac, I'm in the same boat to be honest....Mine is two fold. One is when I had hernia surgery, for one of the testicles...dunno the term, but that put a damper on things; but the main issues is what Bobby also posted. Keep your hands off your cock! Let it build up for a while....do a porno cleanse...then you might have better luck on the next go round. Best of luck for you!

I had basically the same experience most of my adult life, bobby was right about the hard reset. It's like being able to skip around with porn makes my mind wander when I get to the real thing so I can't just sit back and enjoy something I'm not really active in.

When girls go too crazy on the head I have volant's problem too, but that can be fixed with a little communication, lol

dude i've been trying since I was 15, never once. can't do it. i dunno why.

Definitely not the only one, I’ve only cum twice from bj only, the second time was on a milking table. Idk if it was because I couldn’t see it happening or what but it was awesome I highly recommend trying if you haven’t already.

I guess I'm just the opposite, a bj is my preferred way to nut. Problem with that is it's really hard to find a provider that truly enjoys it and doesn't just pretend.

situational anorgasmia is what it is. And yes it can be resolved depending on what the cause is. I can be hormonal like testosterone levels or psychological .the doctor they might be able to fix it and there's even a medication