Hello Sinner77,
Pick well established provider with good reputation and it will be much easier to get verified. Just because you saw some girl, somewhere, does not get you verified status, because lots of girls don't have that reputation themselves and their word means nothing.
When you are writing to a new provider, be kind and write few sentences about yourself. We get so many stupid PMs sent to us, that if you are just like everyone else, you will get in-line with everyone else. Stand-out out of the crowd and you will get noticed.
Also, if you have sent your request and information to provider and have not receiving the answers, be a good sport, not a bugger and send another PM - show that you are still interested and eager.
Learn how to be discreet and know the lingo - that helps a lot.

Good luck.