I caught feelings

[mathguy]

^ Exactly. +1.
That was my point too earlier. Not only is it not exclusive to the hobby but moreover it's not gender specific (i.e. happens in both directions with great & equal frequency).

[texan1]

I have been where you are, looking back it had been so long since I had an emotional connection i likely would of fallen for anybody that had been on the other end of my orgasm. I am not new to this hobby and that is rule #1, business is business, don't get lost in the sex... i want to first start by saying not all providers likely think this way but I would say most do.... it is business and they are astute in reading men. If you come off desperate or needy, they will play off that. The hell bitch I allowed to damn near ruin me played me from the first second I walked in. I gave her a lot of money, a car, and a lot more I won't go into, the whole time feeling like I was outside myself saying what are you doing?!?!? But doing it anyway. Wounded dog is what I call it... she poured on all the sad stories until I felt like I had to "save her".... listen to me please!!!! It is a game to most, not all, but most... you are a mark, a John, whatever you want to call it.... you think you have feeling now? Wait until you are close to 6 figures in and she vanishes on you. That is when you will know what real feelings are.... heart broke, pist, angry, how did I let this happen? How did this extremely low IQ person play me? I am a member of Mensa for Godsake, etc..... keep it business.... you want a girlfriend, join a sunday school class... heed my warning....

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

I have been where you are, looking back it had been so long since I had an emotional connection i likely would of fallen for anybody that had been on the other end of my orgasm. I am not new to this hobby and that is rule #1, business is business, don't get lost in the sex... i want to first start by saying not all providers likely think this way but I would say most do.... it is business and they are astute in reading men. If you come off desperate or needy, they will play off that. The hell bitch I allowed to damn near ruin me played me from the first second I walked in. I gave her a lot of money, a car, and a lot more I won't go into, the whole time feeling like I was outside myself saying what are you doing?!?!? But doing it anyway. Wounded dog is what I call it... she poured on all the sad stories until I felt like I had to "save her".... listen to me please!!!! It is a game to most, not all, but most... you are a mark, a John, whatever you want to call it.... you think you have feeling now? Wait until you are close to 6 figures in and she vanishes on you. That is when you will know what real feelings are... heart broke, pist, angry, how did I let this happen? How did this extremely low IQ person play me? I am a member of Mensa for Godsake, etc..... keep it business.... you want a girlfriend, join a sunday school class... heed my warning....

Did she hold you at gun point? At what point do ppl take responsibility for their actions and say to themselves “I played myself”.

Or how about you realize this is how how men are made to respond to a women in crisis. How about you be grateful for the nice things she brought on the “wounded dog” time of your life. You see, some ppl are just addicted to feeling wounded. They never see the good things anyway. They never even know to feel a damn thing till it’s time to feel hurt. Quite careless and dreary if you ask me.

Also, idk why ppl are so stuck on the idea that ppl in their lives are going to stay in their life forever. I can’t imagine a person who thinks this way is even fun to be around. Like she could have dropped dead at any time and you would have still been out of that money. Ppl get scammed every day in every way. The psychology of a sucker is what communications and businesses university courses are built on.

Geez, ppl gotta get in touch with the reality of life. Get into your feelings men. It’s ok to be sensitive, SO YOU CAN SENSE THINGS. What y’all really need is a woman around to be this for you but men have become so superficial about how they chose partners they often miss the mark.

I really could go on but I will stop there. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Ijs.

[Italia DiBella]

texan1,
Dayummm
Sorry you went through that.
I was wondering what happened to you!
Stay Vigilant

I've learned a lot of lessons in this industry as well
We're human, well most of us are, except the Neanderthals that f@ck everything up

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

Are we coddling grown adults now? Wow, helpful. Bye!

This board is a bunch men trying to tear woman apart and woman coddling men.
Ew.

[Captain.Classic]

I have been where you are, looking back it had been so long since I had an emotional connection i likely would of fallen for anybody that had been on the other end of my orgasm. I am not new to this hobby and that is rule #1, business is business, don't get lost in the sex... i want to first start by saying not all providers likely think this way but I would say most do.... it is business and they are astute in reading men. If you come off desperate or needy, they will play off that. The hell bitch I allowed to damn near ruin me played me from the first second I walked in. I gave her a lot of money, a car, and a lot more I won't go into, the whole time feeling like I was outside myself saying what are you doing?!?!? But doing it anyway. Wounded dog is what I call it... she poured on all the sad stories until I felt like I had to "save her".... listen to me please!!!! It is a game to most, not all, but most... you are a mark, a John, whatever you want to call it.... you think you have feeling now? Wait until you are close to 6 figures in and she vanishes on you. That is when you will know what real feelings are.... heart broke, pist, angry, how did I let this happen? How did this extremely low IQ person play me? I am a member of Mensa for Godsake, etc..... keep it business.... you want a girlfriend, join a sunday school class... heed my warning....

Yikes. Sorry you got hurt lol.

Shit happens in the hobby. Unfortunately we are all human so we’re all susceptible to our emotions. At the end of the day, this is a business (connections are possible, but they do complicate things) and you’re only in control of your own actions, not someone else’s. Communicate what you expect from each other and go from there. I wish the OP well going forward.

[Universal]

Even in a regular relationship with the woman not having a job/housewife or having a regular job, the same thing can/has happened. Her job has nothing to do with falling in love with a man and choosing him out of thousands of men.

[mathguy]

Did she hold you at gun point? At what point do ppl take responsibility for their actions and say to themselves “I played myself”.

Or how about you realize this is how how men are made to respond to a women in crisis. How about you be grateful for the nice things she brought on the “wounded dog” time of your life. You see, some ppl are just addicted to feeling wounded. They never see the good things anyway. They never even know to feel a damn thing till it’s time to feel hurt. Quite careless and dreary if you ask me.

Also, idk why ppl are so stuck on the idea that ppl in their lives are going to stay in their life forever. I can’t imagine a person who thinks this way is even fun to be around. Like she could have dropped dead at any time and you would have still been out of that money. Ppl get scammed every day in every way. The psychology of a sucker is what communications and businesses university courses are built on.

Geez, ppl gotta get in touch with the reality of life. Get into your feelings men. It’s ok to be sensitive, SO YOU CAN SENSE THINGS. What y’all really need is a woman around to be this for you but men have become so superficial about how they chose partners they often miss the mark.

I really could go on but I will stop there. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Ijs.

I don't think it's harsh and I agree with Jaz. Sorry guys. I do.

You can't spend that kind of money, essentially "buying" someone, and not expect that to happen in the end.

Don't be foolish. I had a GF from this very board & she'd tell me stories about a guy that bought her furniture, all kinds of shit, and gave like 2-3Gs for a night or two. Another guy that bought presents all the time and was constantly making his feelings known about having a relationship. She even made it clear to him but he kept going with the money & presents. You can't do that. You can't buy someone. It will be organic and you will know. In your heart you know/knew. I'm sure you did. You can't play victim after the fact. I'm sorry... I know it's some tough love but it's the truth fellas.

To be honest some of that is very unattractive to women. You are hurting yourself even more when you do that kinda crap bc you look desperate. It's not a very masculine or confident trait. My GF would always tell me how unattractive men but more so she was speaking of their attitude or bedside talk (tho yes it was also physical looks at times).

Just make sure what you are expecting is realistic. Sit back and evaluate your situation. Ask yourself if it seems as if you are getting anything back, as you do with other friends or relationships, IF that is your goal/wish/hope.

Don't appear needy or whiny. That is unattractive to anyone, especially a woman. Best of luck.

[chloevankatie]

Where are all these guys who are giving away all this extra money and gifts? Lol

I am lucky if I can get someone to bring me a diet coke when they visit.

Anyway, I agree with Jas.

Personal responsibility....

Yea I have been there too, and done things for guys and acted stupid cause I thought I was in love.

You gotta live and learn.

[JessieJane]

Where are all these guys who are giving away all this extra money and gifts? Lol

I am lucky if I can get someone to bring me a diet coke when they visit.

Anyway, I agree with Jas.

Personal responsibility....

Yea I have been there too, and done things for guys and acted stupid cause I thought I was in love.

You gotta live and learn.

Lmao I'm thankful for the wine & cheese plates.

+3

[texan1]

Did she hold you at gun point? At what point do ppl take responsibility for their actions and say to themselves “I played myself”.

Or how about you realize this is how how men are made to respond to a women in crisis. How about you be grateful for the nice things she brought on the “wounded dog” time of your life. You see, some ppl are just addicted to feeling wounded. They never see the good things anyway. They never even know to feel a damn thing till it’s time to feel hurt. Quite careless and dreary if you ask me.

Also, idk why ppl are so stuck on the idea that ppl in their lives are going to stay in their life forever. I can’t imagine a person who thinks this way is even fun to be around. Like she could have dropped dead at any time and you would have still been out of that money. Ppl get scammed every day in every way. The psychology of a sucker is what communications and businesses university courses are built on.

Geez, ppl gotta get in touch with the reality of life. Get into your feelings men. It’s ok to be sensitive, SO YOU CAN SENSE THINGS. What y’all really need is a woman around to be this for you but men have become so superficial about how they chose partners they often miss the mark.

I really could go on but I will stop there. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Ijs.

first you do not know what all took place so your comments do nothing but show your errogance and ignorance.

[Universal]

That escalated quickly.

[chloevankatie]

first you do not know what all took place so your comments do nothing but show your errogance and ignorance.

OMFG

If you are going to insult someone by calling them ignorant, please for the love of God, try to spell arrogance correctly in the same sentence.

My head is going to explode.

[JessieJane]

Oh shit. We just can not have any decent different opinion but respectful conversations around here these days !

[Elmer Fudge]

Did she hold you at gun point? At what point do ppl take responsibility for their actions and say to themselves “I played myself”.

Or how about you realize this is how how men are made to respond to a women in crisis. How about you be grateful for the nice things she brought on the “wounded dog” time of your life. You see, some ppl are just addicted to feeling wounded. They never see the good things anyway. They never even know to feel a damn thing till it’s time to feel hurt. Quite careless and dreary if you ask me.

Also, idk why ppl are so stuck on the idea that ppl in their lives are going to stay in their life forever. I can’t imagine a person who thinks this way is even fun to be around. Like she could have dropped dead at any time and you would have still been out of that money. Ppl get scammed every day in every way. The psychology of a sucker is what communications and businesses university courses are built on.

Geez, ppl gotta get in touch with the reality of life. Get into your feelings men. It’s ok to be sensitive, SO YOU CAN SENSE THINGS. What y’all really need is a woman around to be this for you but men have become so superficial about how they chose partners they often miss the mark.

I really could go on but I will stop there. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Ijs.

Let me say this , a great provider can make a great living doing her business the right way. I have a small business and I sleep so well at night knowing I’ve done good business. I try to make money not make money get to me to a place I’m not comfortable being at. I’ll never get wealthy but I don’t have to look over my shoulder and lord when I lay down the sleep is amazing knowing it was a fair exchange in all my transactions. People have offered me money I thought wasn’t fair and I turned it down. That’s just me, it just seems to me that the universe has a way of equaling things out so I err on the side of caution in my dealings with people, especially their money. I would think the best course of action if a lady knows a guy is doing stuff for her that goes out of the ordinary because of feelings she isn’t willing to return, I believe it would be in her best interest to eliminate contact or clearly define the parameters. Don’t take the gifts. I get no joy out of taking advantage of vulnerability. But this is just my opinion and simply the way I chose to conduct my business with people