I guarantee you this dude isn't new. Either a mandel or a banned handle.
I guarantee you this dude isn't new. Either a mandel or a banned handle.
You must have read the Sour Puss version cause I didnt get that vibe at all. And I'm one that has had several deep relationships with a hobbyist. Last one for over 3 years. So yes we are looking for love in all the wrong places butt hey didnt we do the same in Real Life?
We will see. It will become evident very soon.
Sorry, I wasn't getting cliff notes from o.p.Originally Posted by Universal
My notes were from a revokedfile that no longer has access.
Holy shit.
Wtf yall are writing novels...
Smdh.
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Speaking from personal experience, I’ve never been able to have an SO & do this. It just doesn’t work. It’s maddening & an interesting dichotomy to me, that I can do this work, but still be old fashioned. I don’t think love is for me, until I get out of this business. I’m cool being alone until I meet my match, which ain’t on here! No offense. Lol. When I’m in love, I don’t want to be with anyone else, and I don’t want them to be with anyone else. A civvie just doesn’t doesn’t understand our world. And sorry, no offense, but I wouldn’t have a relationship with a hobbyist either. People are assholes if they manipulate you for money, in this business. A good “provider” will give you a kick ass bcd session then snap your ass back into reality, if she sees you getting too carried away, IMO. We can’t win! Do our jobs too good & y’all fall in love. Don’t do our jobs good enough and we get a bad review! Smh. Jk.
I accidentally caught feels & tried to provide & work past it, recently. That shit nearly destroyed me. Nope. Never again. Too complicated. Too much drama. And the guy is in a no win situation as if he can’t take care of you then you gotta do what you and resentment builds, on both sides, it seems. We are only human though. It happens.
Idk. Sorry. I digress. Love sucks. Hobby on!
I could NOT have said it better. LOVE just isnt for me until im done with this biz..... Its just damaging. I respect the OP for opening up.
I have my besties who come crash at my place when im lonely or they cant drive home lol... then im like bish get out lol... no attachments. I guess thats what the biz has done to me also.... But if im sick, any personal issues.. they are there. Guess im spoiled on that note. Im just single and worry free now ... enjoying life... I hope everyone reaches their own "personal freedom" !
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Great minds think alike.
I was thinking the same.
Beautiful avatar. Is that you?
I totally agree. It was the same for me on all accounts that Athena mentioned. I didn't get a single hint that it's a "mandle" account either. Possibly they are not a "newbie", maybe, but what exactly would be the motive as a mandle?
I mean I get it that a provider can easily get hurt too, just like this guy, in fact tbh, in my experience that happens *more* than the opposite (the OPs story), but why tell it from what a male perspective? It happens a lot with providers. Why? A charming guy, they're attractive, they have a great career, money, and you have a great time in bed? Cinderella story. Obviously it happens a good bit.
So, yea, that actually happens to women far more commonly. I don't quite see the point in a woman creating a mandle to tell it from the male perspective though. I do think it's possible it's not a new hobbyist though (maybe). That's neither here nor there though with respect to the post.
To the OP. I agree with others who said you are lucky she didn't milk you for more. Then again, maybe we aren't getting the whole story like you said. Maybe you were already "cutting her off...", or making it pretty clear, unless....?? I feel for your situation. It happens on both sides.
I disagree with those who says it's fire you should never play with though. That's equivalent to saying we should never date or have emotional attachment in any form.
B/c you meet the person unconventionally doesn't mean there are no feelings. Is meeting your future wife/husband in a random passing where you pickup some fallen change at a corner store and say "hi" to each other...."typical"? Is having a small fender bender with someone and then it turns into dinner and 6mos later a marriage, typical? Bumping into someone at the park while you are jogging? Spilling coffee on someone at McDonalds and 3mos later you are engaged? None of those are "typical".
The point is meeting your SO happens in virtually any form you can imagine. You do need to be careful in this realm not to let your guard down when it comes to emotions but the very nature of physical touch, the release of oxytocin's, and the sharing of intimate & personal information, makes it even more likely that these things occur.
The problem in your situation (OP) is it was one sided. This is what both men and women need to be careful of if they start to feel a level of attachment. But make no mistake, it happens where both people reciprocate.
That just isn't the *point* of this site. Then again, going to McDonald's for breakfast or stopping for coffee on your way to work & meeting your future spouse isn't the point of Starbucks either
In fact, by definition if you are not on OKCupid, Match, eHarmony, etc then any situation where you might get "involved" is atypical. It isn't the point of these sites, this hobby, but the fact that it happens is not remotely surprising (I'd be far MORE surprised if it didn't happen).
All I can say to the OP is that you have my condolences and sympathy.
The advice I can offer is twofold:
1. "This too shall pass..."
2. Be very careful in the future that things are fully reciprocated (e.g. if everything is predicated on cash, or the spending of money for someone else's benefit, while you get nothing, ever, without such effort, then that's a huge red flag).
Same for women. If you really really like a guy, want to *be with him*, but he has a family, or even if he doesn't, but he won't ever break away from them/work/friends, can only see you 1/wk, or 1/mo, like clockwork, without fail, won't ever make concessions, never ever giving back what you give, then you are being used. **If** the understanding of "using each other" is mutual (as the hobby is designed) then everything is cool and there are no problems. Just be careful when it goes elsewhere; however, the same is true in any other aspect of life.And good luck.
-MG
I don't see any motive as mandle, but then again why do mandles troll anyway? Who knows?
But read his responses again. He is not a newbie.
In my experience, one should be cautious of those claiming newbie status and are yet so familiar with the "hobby world". Familiar enough to make drawn out posts about creating honest dialogues and hoping to change this whole "hobby world" that they have just arrived in yesterday? Seems a great bold endeavor for someone who just got here, for someone who should still be learning the ropes, and for someone who shouldn't have any prior knowledge of the culture here. There are other red flags, but I will let you find them yourself.
This caution is nothing new, you guys are well aware of the perils of believing every "new" lady who posts in the WW is also fresh off the farm truck.
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Yes, I have taken some photos while in lockdown but this is the only one I have posted. I haven't posted the others since I still haven't come out of hiding yet.
Thank you :)
Please let me know when you do come out and start providing again. I would love to make your acquaintance. Have a great night . Op hang in there, how you feel is how you feel and I applaud you for your transparency. We are all only human. Happy hobbling everyone and stay safe.
Good points Chloe.I can def agree about the newbie status thing given some of what you pointed out.
-MG
Interesting post
Just want to say that this could happen with any women really, not necessarily a provider... My best friend is currently in a situation where someone who worked for him in a huge financial institution has entangled him for money and material stuff, he is absolutely nuts for this chick who's not into him at all but keeps leading him on
So it's unfair to say it's exclusive to the hobby cause really it can happen anywhere
Learn from this experience, spend some time in yourself, and move one my friend
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