I definitely understand it from a ladies perspective getting bogged down with a ton of dms from ladies a guy wants to see and that guy isn't patronizing her, but then I also see that perhaps that the cost of doing business. Like my phone is always on me hobby phone and personal phone so a simple yeah he's good literally takes less than a minute. I honestly in the little time I've been here have zero issues seeing who I want to see, albeit one or two references I wint be giving out due to the time lapse and them already doing enough already as in reference checks. I think the golden rule applies here. I try to ask myself would this be fair if I was that female then proceed.