I feel bad about your friend, also wanted to let you know that going to a provider's private address is her work location/job. The place she allows you to enter /house/ apartment/condo etc shouldn't be compromised & that's the reason some provider's screen for employment verification. A client could blackmail her just as easily by going to a landlord but legit provider's are screening for their safety.
I admire your dedication to getting verified and having fun.