Why are some providers super sensitive?

[Gymjunkie]

On Monday, I contacted a certain provider. She asked for references and I sent her 3. However she never responded back acknowledging that she even received my references. Here are my exact texts to her.

Monday: references sent
Tuesday: Was that enough info?
Wednesday: Hi?
Thursday: Did you disappear on me?

This last text prompted a response that we're not a good match. I asked if she could tell me why. She proceeds to lecture me that she shouldn't have to and that my texts come off as entitled and presumptuous. I'm just like WTF?!

Can someone please translate what happened here? If I can take the time to give references, shouldn't I deserve a response? Much less this crazy one?

[NaughtyNaomi]

The only thing I could think is maybe your references told her something she didn't like or doesn't offer. However being cordial is another thing. She doesn't have to tell you why, but there's different ways to go about it. She could have politely said, "I'm sorry, but my reasons are my own. I don't feel we'd be a great match, so I suggest finding another provider. Sorry and have a great day!"

[Daniel Larusso]

The provider doesn't owe the guy an explanation but it sure would be nice to know for the future. She doesn't have to be rude but give the dude some schooling if she feels he did something wrong.

[Lovrboy_1970]

I’d say Naomi is exactly right. She likely got some info from one (or more) of your references that she doesn’t like. Could be they said something negative about you; or could be you’re into something that she doesn’t prefer to provide. Either way, bridge is burned - move on to the next.

[F117]

Try not to take it personally. There are lot of ladies in the hobby that have "issues" of every type and you may just have rubbed her the wrong way. In the past, I've established good, cordial, respectful, communication with a provider, just to have her go all BSC on me before the first meeting (a blessing in disguise). I then subsequently found out that the provider(s) have / had bipolar issues.

Also, it's not uncommon for a provider to agree to be a reference and when the call comes, she makes up stuff so that she doesn't lose you as a customer to the new, potential provider. Happens all the time!

You learn to grow a thick skin pretty quickly in this hobby. If you have three ladies that are willing to be references for you, you're doing something right.

[rickthegreek]

"You like what you like" goes for providers too. Usually takes at least -some- chemistry for a lady to jump in the sack with you. Be charming. Get a shower. Brush you teeth. Even then its never a sure thing. :-) Don't be attached and move on.

[puffDATY]

Think of this as a blessing, with such a poor disposition I doubt she would provide anything but mediocre service.


EDIT


1 thing I find irritating is when I provide someone my references I will ask, "could you please let me know if and when you contact them so I can let them know to be on the look out." I almost never get the confirmation back. I like to keep track of how many times my references have been "pinged" that way I don't over utilize one reference. Even though I've see tons of ladies from this site and the E, I only have about 5 or 6 that I can count on for references.

[Gymjunkie]

There is absolutely no way my references said anything negative. 1 reference vouched for me here in co-ed. Another provider is from DFW and actually reached out to me today to tell me that she's in town. I'm not into anything weird. I consider myself pretty vanilla.

No she doesn't have to tell me why but she did and her response was imo bsc. She basically didn't like me checking in 3 days in a row after sending her my references. Maybe it's that time of the month?

[Jefferson Starfish]

You said that she said that you came off entitled and presumptuous. That's the reason. I'm not saying she's justified as it does seem extra in a bitchy way, if I take what you're saying at face value - which I do.

It's not a big deal, though. The above advice on thick skin is spot on. Just keep it moving if you and a prospective provider don't click for any reason, valid or otherwise.

Peace, Love, and #BHILF

JS

[Slave Guinevere]

On Monday, I contacted a certain provider. She asked for references and I sent her 3. However she never responded back acknowledging that she even received my references. Here are my exact texts to her.

Monday: references sent
Tuesday: Was that enough info?
Wednesday: Hi?
Thursday: Did you disappear on me?

This last text prompted a response that we're not a good match. I asked if she could tell me why. She proceeds to lecture me that she shouldn't have to and that my texts come off as entitled and presumptuous. I'm just like WTF?!

Can someone please translate what happened here? If I can take the time to give references, shouldn't I deserve a response? Much less this crazy one?

Hmm... And this thread is supposed to convince us that you aren't entitled and presumptuous?🤷*♀️🤦*♀️

She doesn't owe you an explanation... Her body... Her rates... Her rules... End of story...

Now, on the FLIP side... You guys do not owe us an explanation of one of us is too old, skinny, chunky, tall, short, too many rainbow colors in our hair etc...and to make it that much more FUN.. You can put it all in writing for all of you naughty peers to ponder over and critique...

Simply put, this is a place, for you to find a companion, that you feel that you might enjoy some alone time with... Now, if the stars and a HOT ASS MOON align, than you and the lovely lady will both be into each other, all of the references will come back, and you will both have the time of your lives!! WIN -WIN for everyone!!😍

However, the reality is, not everyone clicks... That's life... But starting a thread to passive aggressively chastise her is unnecessary... Or, good screening information for some of the other lasses... The glass can always be HALF FULL...

It is all in how you look at it...😘

Your amused slave,

Guinevere 😎

[A.Handfull]

Not ALL, but alot of providers which I have interacted with through text or PM do NOT care for this symbol>>?
Yes that little question mark symbol seems to irritate or infuriate her or indicate that your expectations may be too high. (I know bsc,gps yadayada)
1.Make sure your references are solid.
2. Text messages can be interpreted wrong, i.e.;
(a)Is that enough info for you?polite inquiry
(b) Is that enough info for you? Snarky smart ass
3. If I don't receive a reply, I don't question it...
Remember the symbol> ?= the 3 i's.
4. Never ask a wild woman if she disappeared on you.... she knows precisely where she is at all times(even if she is clueless.)
p.s. you may see that I am not verified. It may be because:
1. I asked for verification TOO MANY TIMES from a certain provider(s)
2. I didn't ask enough(0)
3. I asked the perfect amount of requests(1)
I got the same results from all three approaches.
p.s.s. I've recently have been enjoying easier pickins on List Crawler, Megapersonals, Escortfish, Skip the Games. Its safe and your due dilligence will steer you true and troublefree. Very hot chix to be dated and a few are additionally on OH2, P411. They seem to be more relaxed in communications and screenings.
Just sayin

[Stewie griffen]

Providers dont want to deal with bullshit just like we dont. Too many men are all into their tiny egos and sometimes, not saying it applies in this case, its easier to walk away and face a small bit of drama, rather than go through with the appointment and face a shitload more.

[Universal]

Hmm... And this thread is supposed to convince us that you aren't entitled and presumptuous?��*♀️��*♀️

She doesn't owe you an explanation... Her body... Her rates... Her rules... End of story...

Now, on the FLIP side... You guys do not owe us an explanation of one of us is too old, skinny, chunky, tall, short, too many rainbow colors in our hair etc...and to make it that much more FUN.. You can put it all in writing for all of you naughty peers to ponder over and critique...

Simply put, this is a place, for you to find a companion, that you feel that you might enjoy some alone time with... Now, if the stars and a HOT ASS MOON align, than you and the lovely lady will both be into each other, all of the references will come back, and you will both have the time of your lives!! WIN -WIN for everyone!!��

However, the reality is, not everyone clicks... That's life... But starting a thread to passive aggressively chastise her is unnecessary... Or, good screening information for some of the other lasses... The glass can always be HALF FULL...

It is all in how you look at it...��

Your amused slave,

Guinevere ��

^^This

[Gymjunkie]

I'll just say this. This just makes me appreciate the providers who take the time to at least respond. I have asked more than a few providers "how's the reference check going". They usually respond with "waiting on responses, etc.." They don't take that as being entitled. Just to be clear, my issue isn't about whether a provider owes an explanation. It's about the explanation itself. High maintenance overly sensitive.

[Slave Guinevere]

I'll just say this. This just makes me appreciate the providers who take the time to at least respond. I have asked more than a few providers "how's the reference check going". They usually respond with "waiting on responses, etc.." They don't take that as being entitled. Just to be clear, my issue isn't about whether a provider owes an explanation. It's about the explanation itself. High maintenance overly sensitive.

So, now she is HIGH MAINTENANCE & OVERLY SENSITIVE because she declined to see you? Are you still going with the "I'M NOT ENTITLED!" Argument?

What myself, and a lot of other people, are trying to tell you is that for whatever reason she didn't want to see you... Just because you have references that you have seen in the past, that you have CLICKED with...Does not mean that EVERY provider will want to see you...

We have a CHOICE of which gentlemen that we think will match with our personalities... If she did not think that she would enjoy meeting you than she did the BEST thing a business woman can do... She walked away from the apt and the money.. If she had met with you and you had had a bad time.. THEN she would have had to deal with even more drama... Bad reviews, negative drama and useless stress...

So, you can continue to call her NAMES, or you can look at like this... AT least she RESPECTED you enough to not waste your time and your money...

It's Friday Sweetheart... Go find a HOT LASS to keep you warm and share some NAUGHTINESS with...

Wishing you nothing but the best..

Slave Guinevere