So I personally love DATY. I know there's an issue from the providers' perspectives because some hobbyists have that 5 o'clock shadow that can not only kill the mood but give us infections due to the rough abrasions from that hair stubble. Since I hang with a lot of men, the best advice I've received is to say something. A provider can't PROVIDE a good service if she can't tell the hobbyist what works or turns her on. Once I tell a hobbyist which button to push, voila! You've got waterworks.