While thought provoking conversation is good. Trust me. I'm one to have those conversations on the boards.
There's a good many hobbyists Across various states. That tend to NOT want to hear women's thoughts/ opinions. As IF women are to be seen and not heard. Thus resulting in men berating women in this lifestyle. As IF women are somehow beneath them. (Not speaking in bcc terms).
So in the end. Some of us women get sick of those trumpian bully type guys. And we prefer to take charge in the bedroom. Where we have the last say.
Not saying all guys are like this. But a good portion are. As they tend to be (followers) in the hobby/on the hobby boards. Sad. Yet true.