That's very true Jax. I feel ya. I didn't mean any disrespect to your question btw. Just that in my experience having to give a girl direction sucks (no pun intended haha).

The caveat here is that a provider you see over and over, or an SO, or a good fuck friend, is going to learn what you like and, yes, they can become very good at what you personally like in time.

I never liked having to tell a girl how to do it. I would read reviews back when I saw providers on occasion, or even now, where guys talk about having to give directions then things got better. I hate doing that. It comes off to me as, "hey, you don't know what the fuck your doing can you please do it right?".

True, you can say it nicely; I was being overly hyperbolic. And a really great lover will ask, "do you like this", "do you want this or this", "let me know what you like", etc.... I just never like having to tell a girl how to do it (other than the whole, "mmm, yes babe, just like that....don't stop...etc). But not "directions" like I'm teaching a class lol. It seems kind of insuring unless you're really careful. I usually just go with whatever she is doing (so long as it doesn't hurt & feels decent). I'll cut that activity short & move to something else.

Here's the amazing thing. This issue was even true with my ex-wife. I did try to give her direction over time of course but it never worked. She had a real hard time opening her mouth wide enough (small mouth & I have a thicker member). As a result she also couldn't go deep, so I never enjoyed a BJ all that much. Then ~5-6 years into our marriage she started doing it so fucking well over a period of 3-4 months. So weird. Maybe she was watching videos or training? Heh. No clue. Seemed like one day over the months all the sudden she could open her mouth all the way, went all the way down, almost zero hands, except if needed for a break, or b/c I wanted some; I do like zero hands but on occasion some hand use is good and/or needed. Anyway. That's my story. Heh.

-mg