I don't disagree necessarily but I think the main point was that the nature of true GFE means you need to leave 'business like' talk out and a menu sounds like you are ordering a hamburger as Ellen had mentioned.
The problem with true GFE is that it's hard to get on the first experience. First of all sex with anyone, private life, hobby, whatever, the first time, can be awkward anyway. It can. Sometimes no. When that happens you have hit a jackpot (both of you) whether it's hobbying or your "private life".
I do agree that for men who just want the mechanics of certain activities (that's not me btw) then yea a menu might be helpful. You can always ask. You should talk to a provider anyway. More than just hey can I come fuck you at 2pm. That's fucked up. I wouldn't do that in my private life and won't do it as a hobby either.
I would say if you are one of those men who just define gfe as a strict menu of activities tben just ask the girl. Oh and do it as polite as fucking possible too. Dont be a fucking doucjebag before you even knkw the girl and ask if you can cum in her mouth. Jesus. I cant believe some guys. Wtf is wrong with yall (if you are doing that I mean -- bc Ive heard those stories -- not pointing fingers but I've heard them).
Come on guys. Do i have to teach a class on this? What is the most obvious polite (as polite as one can expect when asking a complete stranger you have never spoken to about sex)?
Obviously don't say can I do x, y, z to you? Especially if you have nerver talked to them and don't even know them or what they like. Even as a guy would you like a txt out of the blue while you are with your kids at the park saying, "hey I'm sarah....i saw that ur a guy who will pleasure women and I'm really horny and needy right now, but I need to know if you will let me piss on ur face..."?!?? No! You wouldn't. Imagine how a woman feels. Its spine tingling at very best and vomit worthy at worst. Be a human being. Unless you already know her, talk to her, know she likes to play like that with u, etc...
Otherwise if you simply have to ask about a "menu" just say, "Hi hun, I saw ur ad. Do u mind if I ask about your physical limits, things u just don't feel comfortable with? I want to make sure bc i want u to feel comfortable with me. I hope I'm not being too forward or commiting a horrible faux paux by asking. Pls forgive me if so."
It's really not that hard to be a decent person. Just because someone is accepting payment for sex doesn't mean they aren't a human. You do realize that many of the girls you pick up at the club are just the same right? That's still paying for it. Just without a very direct route. At least this is far more of an "honest" exchange. Just my 2 cents. Or maybe 50 cents.
Note: Im not directing any comments at the quoted person. I just want to be clear. I wasn't being negative toward you personally whatsoever. I was talking to the broader audience bc I have heard some things guys do that is just unbelievable to me regarding menus, approaching women, etc... Smh.