Four Things... Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Emotional connection. How important is

[baja22]

Well, I don't have luck finding them on dating sites either. Where do i go to find them? I hate being on here

I'm truly sorry to hear that. If you've exhausted all the dating sites (there's so many now) you could think about joining clubs with a common interest. Hang out at places you like and strike up convo with unattached ladies, especially the club scene. Get set up by trusted friends. It's easy to say quit the hobby cold turkey, but you could definitely limit your exposure. I have a hobby friend who is the opposite. He has no interest in a relationship but hobbies his ass off. He truly enjoys the variety.

[Anandaman]

When younger, I gave up on dating. I started going to do things that I Love to do.... like Yoga, guitar lessons, going to the gym, etc. I started meeting people with the same interests... didn't really think about dating. But, spontaneously went to tea with a few friends after Yoga, or coffee after guitar... The less I thought about it and the more I just got out and did things I liked... the more ladies I was meeting... then basically "organically" met some "like minded" ladies and a few relationships took off... over time...

Sometimes I think the less you "try" and the more you get out and do things YOU LOVE, the more good things come to you...

A'Man

[Birdieman]

Sometimes I think the less you "try" and the more you get out and do things YOU LOVE, the more good things come to you...

A'Man[/QUOTE]

Like when one finally gets a girlfriend after not ever having one, all the women start coming out after you. You have become that handsome magnet. Be careful what you wish for and good luck. ��

[lovingcamela]

Thoughtful question?.a couple of simple thoughts on how to avoid a bad match, what works for me and what I can do that is in my control.



1. Making sure it clicks..
There are a few things I?ve learned that interfere with intimacy. One is funky smells, another if we cannot relate to another. Those are an easy fix. Friends are encouraged to shower upon arrival with a warning if they don?t it will affect the session. As for relating, part of my screening is to have a phone chat. If we can have a fluid conversation it usually flows in session. I have other tricks, but those are secret.

2. FBSM
I am mostly a massage provider and I notice that the ego and expectations tend to slip away during the massage. Although less time is dedicated to mutual connection, I find it more powerful in these sessions. Loosely speaking they are more spiritual, maybe energetic is a better word. Regardless, the Qi is flowing!

2. Expectations
Both parties have expectations. I prefer men that come with none, but I also need to hold myself in check that each client is not going to be a master at daty. I?m happy to meet you where you are at. I?m the expert and the pro. I am confident that I can guide, teach and coach you so we have a great session. (If I can?t, i?ll pretend for you and we can try again next time.)

4. Holding space and Creating space
My last thought is that as a provider I need to be the person I want to be with. Some of that can be starting with how I prepare the space. Cleanliness is obvious, but there is smells, music, etc. Attention to details?I think it goes a long way.

[Sue Nami]

to meet long term partners, go to shows. there are tons of single women dancing alone and wishing a guy would talk to them. go see some bands.