Four Things... Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Emotional connection. How important is

[Amy Adams]

If I don't think we could hit 3 out 4 why waste time. This is my outlook on fielding dates. How about you ladies and gentlemen?

[Anandaman]

Yes! I like your ideas and the way you think.... Your WW post says fbsm... Do you also provide FS? It seems a bit difficult to tap into these things with massage only.... curious minds want to know... :-)

A'Man

[Deja Tha Doll]

All I care about is if he's safe, clean, respectful and direct.

Those are the gentlemen I get along with and want to see and have over, and over again.

I love when a guy can tell me what he wants, likes and expects. Communication is key to making alot of things work, and go smoothly, for both parties.

It's always been about personality to me, so looks and age are really irrelevant. Though I usually prefer my men to be older, (mature) and wise enough to teach me a thing or 2!
Those older ones, usually have more experience and understand what, for some, doesn't need to be explained!!!

I prefer guys who make you feel safe. One's who don't "party".....ones who aren't trying to cross boundaries, and aren't aggressive.
I appreciate the guys who don't bring weapons to your place, (or have them laid out all over theirs) EVEN IF they DO have a license for them.

I appreciate the guys who keep themselves clean, and don't show up with smegma, open wounds or bumps (and a gentleman will NEVER try to get you to proceed past your own discussed boundaries, while he tries his hardest to convince you that there's nothing to be worried about, since as they say, "you aren't a doctor though" as if you lack good judgment, and formal education.)

I appreciate those gentlemen who always offer to go to the bathroom to "clean up" before things get started, instead of fighting with you about it, and pretending to do so in the sink.....
And I most certainly appreciate the guys who actually have a clean, stocked bathroom, (even though I always come prepared) with more than one towel, should they ever expect company and have guest over.

I love a respectful guy, who is understanding and has patience. And one who has enough class and sense, to save his opinions and thoughts on touchy subjects for better times, not right before play time of course.

A respectful gentleman is one who also understands you can't, and shouldn't try to persuade a women into changing what she likes and where her boundaries lie. He understands "No means no" and "Dont stop" means, keep freaking going until her legs stop twitching and she stops moaning !!! Lol
And if something ever hurts, he of course stops immediately and doesn't just continue until he's told everything is ok to.

....and I'm not even looking to cum every time.... But if I'm with a respectful, clean, and safe gentleman, my pleasure is in just reciprocating to him my appreciation for him, while I allow myself the pleasure of enjoying him, as I try to make him feel like a King while I provide him with everything he wants, needs and craves!!!!

A guy who chooses me and is clean, respectful and safe will always get nothing but THA BEST from me, because that's exactly what I want and need whenever I look for a "date".

Guys who are serious about seeing me always have everything I request, ready.
Those are the guys who NEVER give me any issues with screening, and are usually the problem free type BCD.
(But that's not always a tell all, in every case tbh)

But I can usually tell within 15min how a date will go with a guy, by how he acts, whenever he walks in.

Also, if his bathroom is spotless and stocked, that generally speaks VOLUMES on the standards that he was raised by, holds himself to, and how he wants his company to feel, as well.

Not every guy has to be, or needs to be told or taught, how to act or how to carry himself like a gentleman.
But the ones who actually try, and listen, and want to get it right, well those guys are special too....

So for me, a guy's BMI, race, political stance, relationship status, or occupation really mean little to nothing to me. But a guy who is respectful, direct, clean and safe will always be A1 and good in my book.

So, to all of the wonderful, respectful, clean, safe gentlemen that I've met, I wanna thank you.
Because YALL set the standard. And I appreciate yall and all the effort you guys take.
Because pleasing a good, SAFE, CLEAN, RESPECTFUL man, is an honor, (and a pleasure for me at least) because yall make things THAT MUCH MORE fun and enjoyable !!!
You gents DEFINITELY make these ogasmic waves of mine, so much more easier for me to enjoy whenever I'm in yalls presence. And for that, yall are THA BEST and yall absolutely ROCK !!!!


Something else I'd like to touch on is that I, like many other ladies, like to look at a guy's posting history, or lack thereof, as a part of screening.....I certainly take everything he has said, in the past, or that was said about him, into consideration.
(But, it's honestly moreso about how a guy treats and talks to ME, that truly matters at the end of the day.
Because we all know that some guys can be considered YMMV BCD as well.....)

(So it just goes on to say, that if a guy has a history of being disrespectful, unsafe, and/or is into unsafe activities and risky behaviors, not to mention, has, and displays any type of sickness, or disease, he will PROBABLY NOT have a good rapport or a pleasurable time with myself and/or the other ladies here, so to speak....I'm sure all of his past (probably mostly hidden) posts, are filled with complaints, and a bunch of negative opinions, (that he most likely wouldn't want disputed), about his thoughts and his "experiences" with the women here...

I'm positive that most other hobbyists are smart enough, as well as hip enough, to see and understand that, at the end of the day, the problem may lie not with the ladies, as some problem hobbyists like to claim, but it might rather lie with that particular guy, himself)

[Amy Adams]

I'm a long time courtesan or companion... You know better to ask about acronyms. I'm not trying to attract any low hanging fruit.

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Yes! I like your ideas and the way you think.... Your WW post says fbsm... Do you also provide FS? It seems a bit difficult to tap into these things with massage only.... curious minds want to know... :-)

A'Man

My post was in response to your question regarding fs.

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All I care about is if he's safe, clean, respectful and direct.

Those are the gentlemen I get along with and want to see and have over, and over again.

I love when a guy can tell me what he wants, likes and expects. Communication is key to making alot of things work, and go smoothly, for both parties.

It's always been about personality to me, so looks and age are really irrelevant. Though I usually prefer my men to be older, (mature) and wise enough to teach me a thing or 2!
Those older ones, usually have more experience and understand what, for some, doesn't need to be explained!!!

I prefer guys who make you feel safe. One's who don't "party".....ones who aren't trying to cross boundaries, and aren't aggressive.
I appreciate the guys who don't bring weapons to your place, (or have them laid out all over theirs) EVEN IF they DO have a license for them.

I appreciate the guys who keep themselves clean, and don't show up with smegma, open wounds or bumps (and a gentleman will NEVER try to get you to proceed past your own discussed boundaries, while he tries his hardest to convince you that there's nothing to be worried about, since as they say, "you aren't a doctor though" as if you lack good judgment, and formal education.)

I appreciate those gentlemen who always offer to go to the bathroom to "clean up" before things get started, instead of fighting with you about it, and pretending to do so in the sink.....
And I most certainly appreciate the guys who actually have a clean, stocked bathroom, (even though I always come prepared) with more than one towel, should they ever expect company and have guest over.

I love a respectful guy, who is understanding and has patience. And one who has enough class and sense, to save his opinions and thoughts on touchy subjects for better times, not right before play time of course.

A respectful gentleman is one who also understands you can't, and shouldn't try to persuade a women into changing what she likes and where her boundaries lie. He understands "No means no" and "Dont stop" means, keep freaking going until her legs stop twitching and she stops moaning !!! Lol
And if something ever hurts, he of course stops immediately and doesn't just continue until he's told everything is ok to.

....and I'm not even looking to cum every time.... But if I'm with a respectful, clean, and safe gentleman, my pleasure is in just reciprocating to him my appreciation for him, while I allow myself the pleasure of enjoying him, as I try to make him feel like a King while I provide him with everything he wants, needs and craves!!!!

A guy who chooses me and is clean, respectful and safe will always get nothing but THA BEST from me, because that's exactly what I want and need whenever I look for a "date".

Guys who are serious about seeing me always have everything I request, ready.
Those are the guys who NEVER give me any issues with screening, and are usually the problem free type BCD.
(But that's not always a tell all, in every case tbh)

But I can usually tell within 15min how a date will go with a guy, by how he acts, whenever he walks in.

Also, if his bathroom is spotless and stocked, that generally speaks VOLUMES on the standards that he was raised by, holds himself to, and how he wants his company to feel, as well.

Not every guy has to be, or needs to be told or taught, how to act or how to carry himself like a gentleman.
But the ones who actually try, and listen, and want to get it right, well those guys are special too....

So for me, a guy's BMI, race, political stance, relationship status, or occupation really mean little to nothing to me. But a guy who is respectful, direct, clean and safe will always be A1 and good in my book.

So, to all of the wonderful, respectful, clean, safe gentlemen that I've met, I wanna thank you.
Because YALL set the standard. And I appreciate yall and all the effort you guys take.
Because pleasing a good, SAFE, CLEAN, RESPECTFUL man, is an honor, (and a pleasure for me at least) because yall make things THAT MUCH MORE fun and enjoyable !!!
You gents DEFINITELY make these ogasmic waves of mine, so much more easier for me to enjoy whenever I'm in yalls presence. And for that, yall are THA BEST and yall absolutely ROCK !!!!


Something else I'd like to touch on is that I, like many other ladies, like to look at a guy's posting history, or lack thereof, as a part of screening.....I certainly take everything he has said, in the past, or that was said about him, into consideration.
(But, it's honestly moreso about how a guy treats and talks to ME, that truly matters at the end of the day.
Because we all know that some guys can be considered YMMV BCD as well.....)

(So it just goes on to say, that if a guy has a history of being disrespectful, unsafe, and/or is into unsafe activities and risky behaviors, not to mention, has, and displays any type of sickness, or disease, he will PROBABLY NOT have a good rapport or a pleasurable time with myself and/or the other ladies here, so to speak....I'm sure all of his past (probably mostly hidden) posts, are filled with complaints, and a bunch of negative opinions, (that he most likely wouldn't want disputed), about his thoughts and his "experiences" with the women here...

I'm positive that most other hobbyists are smart enough, as well as hip enough, to see and understand that, at the end of the day, the problem may lie not with the ladies, as some problem hobbyists like to claim, but it might rather lie with that particular guy, himself)

What she said whilst sucking more typing less! Lol kidding ;) heh

[Jayinaustin]

WOW...this woman has her head on straight! A true professional not to mention very articulate. Deja...you are the cream of the crop. We'll written and I think 95% cannot equal your thoughts but I would love to see it.

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

If I don't think we could hit 3 out 4 why waste time. This is my outlook on fielding dates. How about you ladies and gentlemen?

Amy, of the four attributes you list, I think emotional and mental connections are most important to me. I enjoy spending time with women who are emotionally mature, intelligent, and confident in themselves.

I do not believe in spirits, so I do not look for a spiritual connection.

Least important is a physical connection. I am a 72 year old man seeking the pleasures of much younger women. Of course I love meeting women who are physically attractive. I also appreciate women who accept me for who I am, an old fart. But I do not expect a physical connection.

Thank you for asking.

[SexySammy]

Mine is definitely based more on the last 3. Now physical as in looks, aren't important to me at all really. I've seen every age and ethnicity known. But physically as far as hygiene goes is obviously very important. Not every Indian/Asian has that natural BO that comes with their cultural diet but some do and it kinda depends on just how strong it is. But I finally learned over the years that my best experiences were with those I connected with on a deeper level. I'm a pretty chill/laid back person, so I prefer those that are similar. I do have a few of the rich "yuppy" type but not many. I like folks with RW problems that I can connect with.

[Amy Adams]

It's all in that initial request. You can tell by the way someone introduces themselves whether you'd like to proceed in screening someone. Discretion, hygiene and safety come before anything. If you can do those three things while taking an additional 2 minutes to write a little about yourself and your "hypothetical" likes... That makes for an amazing experience usually.

[looking4u]

I'm on here trying to find a long-term partner. It's lonely and requires sacrifice to know what you want and need to be a better version of yourself. But I like your response, Deja. I need to find my best friend.

[looking4u]

I love your topic. I love having elevating conversations.

[Amy Adams]

I could have just as much fun conversing and engaging in a long conversation as I could bcd... Well not quite, but almost. "Talk nerdy to me!" I tend to be unfiltered and a little quirky so I'm not for everyone and that's fine by me.

I hope you find your partner, even if it's by the hour. :)

[looking4u]

They are all important in a long-term relationship. I can't explain this right now, but I will later when I am more coherent. lol

[baja22]

I'm on here trying to find a long-term partner. It's lonely and requires sacrifice to know what you want and need to be a better version of yourself. But I like your response, Deja. I need to find my best friend.

Sorry, but this is not the site to find a long term real partner. You're not doing yourself any favors, unless you don't mind always paying to be with your partner and never having a real relationship. Sure, it can happen rarely, but don't count in it. Search other ways to get exposure to civvies looking for the kind of relationship you want. This site is just for fun.

[looking4u]

Well, I don't have luck finding them on dating sites either. Where do i go to find them? I hate being on here