This is a wonderfully interesting question, Jess! I'm going to answer from my angle and try to address as many factors as I can.Originally Posted by SexyJess
In a nutshell all 3 things you asked about are turn-ons and reasons for many guys who come to a hobby site or board. Being able to "pick" is a big deal but it's not just about her body. Its about everything. I am evaluating her every bit as much as she is evaluating me when we text or talk on the phone in the beginning getting to know each other.
A super rude girl that doesn't want to say 2 words or gets mad after 2 or 3 simple (and short) back and forths and wants a deposit "to make sure you are not wasting her time....." (or whatever the case) is an obvious "no go" no matter how hot or cute. Even if she is physically the pinnacle of your desires, and supposedly based on reviews she's the epitome of your most cherished fetishes. Why? Well, the bottom line is she's essentially "kind of a bitch" who thinks far too much of herself to show someone the same courtesy she herself desires.
Many guys will be ok with that and put up with it. They will kowtow. I will not. I don't need to. I wish more guys had this confidence. The thing is, yes, picking a person that is physically your type, also socially your type, that you appear to have chemistry with too, the whole shebang, is absolutely a turn-on. It's also a timesaver and money saver in the long run.
I don't visit Oh2 (or any other site) because I *need* to. Lol, no way. I could date virtually anyone (within reason of course, obviously not celebrities, totally inaccessible social circles, etc... and certain age range restrictions and so on). But yea more or less anyone from a solid average of a "5-6" all the way to the "7, 8, 9, & 10s". I do it b/c it cuts through all the BS when I'm in need of physical AND social intimacy.
Even in traditional dating or using online dating services I can't stand the waiting and red tape. Its such a waste of both of our valuable time. I want to get to know right away if we match not only socially, socioeconomically, and academically or with shared interests but JUST as important and quickly I want to know our chemistry level and our physical attraction and compatibility. I will basically lose interest in a girl even in traditional dating if it gets beyond 1-2 dates without sex OR at least some kissing and making out happening. Hell, lots of times I lose interest even in the texting/phone conversation flirting phase before the first meetup/date if she always steers clear of any sexual flirting or sexual innuendo (innocuous or otherwise). Why? Not because I'm being a pig or misogynistic. Absolutely not. I consider myself extremely gentlemanly and I love & respect women. The reason is b/c if that hasn't/doesn't happen already then I know that this girl can't possibly be right for me. This is also why I like girls in this community. Its why I've dated dancers and some escorts. I like them better because I tend to like what society would typically label "bad girls".
So I think it's all of those things you mentioned. It's the ability to quickly have physical & emotional & social intimacy needs met, with an attractive partner, and potentially someone you seem to have incredible chemistry with right off the bat just from talking or texting.
And if you are not wanting or ready to date you don't have to have that weight on you that she might get attached. Also, yes, the anticipation of how she may perform are of course turn-ons that we may fantasize about.
One big turn on is when the first sentence of this statement above is actually true; meaning that it's quite obvious that she is very pleased or even very turned on or there is a palpable chemistry between you.
Obviously this doesn't happen all the time, not even close. No matter how good any of us look, how well we clean up, or perform, or socialize/flirt (man or woman) there are some who will just not like the overall looks, communication style, or the preferred intimate acts & sexual styles.
However, yes, I'd say it's a *massive* turn on when you know (it's so obvious) that they are totally into you and you share this chemistry. That makes for a mind blowing experience!
A huge part of this is that what makes the experience great is knowing that she is also so pleased and enjoying herself and you. I'd rather spend my time with ANY 4 or 5 that really enjoyed our time together than spend it with an impeccable 10 who is just "going through the motions" and could care less, her mind is somewhere else, she's robotic, nothing is organic, etc.... Fuuuuuuuuuck that. Lol.No damn way. And I'm being extremely serious about that part. No effing way.
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