I have helped several women join. But the process always started with me sending them an invitation to review my profile. Once they did that, I sent P411 a message vouching for them. P411 would then reach out to the women to obtain the information they require.
Seems like if any admirers told P411 that you would be a good fit, that those admirers would have mentioned something to you about it beforehand.
Maybe some of the women members here can shed some light.
Or send a message to the support email address I gave you, and ask if the message you received is legit.
Best wishes.