For me, it's all about chemistry. I want the lady to enjoy as much as I do.

As for your "too forward" question - to me, it all depends on your personality. If it feels real, it would be a huge turn on (and my hands would go immediately to your ass :). If it feels forced or fake, then I would prefer something slower. Nothing sexier than you being you and letting me be me.

For most of my regulars, we start at the door and "catch up" between rounds. There's one or two that like to go slower. That's why I keep returning - it feels real (and is, to some degree).