Oh Suzanna, a recent meeting with an old very respected friend kind of opened my eyes to the fact that you can't fix drug addiction. Only the person involved can do anything about it. Like me, he tried to fix someone and it is a bust, and everybody thought things were going good for him. When you see someone else in the same boat as you it makes you think. It is easy to fall into rescue mode, especially when an addict is beautiful and a consistent liar. I will admit I was addicted to her. The first time I saw her I nearly fell out of my chair - she is that pretty. A small part of the reason I moved back to Florida was to put 1400 miles between us. I actually had 2 go arounds with addicts. The first was the sexiest woman I had ever had contact with, but she became addicted. She was actually easier to get rid of than the 2nd. She let me put her on a bus to Florida to go live with her mother, and that was basically the end of that, although we are friends on Facebook we rarely talk. The second one was my albatross. Away from drugs our personalities clicked and we even lived together. I ended up throwing her out over the drugs, but she still hung around. I am 100% against drugs, and I now know there is nothing I can do to help an addict. My first wife also had a drug problem although I didn't know it at the time. She was also knock out beautiful, and still is at 71. That is where I lived the past year and a half. She has been clean for 30-40 years now. We have been friends for 50 years, and she is a retired social worker. I thought I could duplicate the success she has had, but the other women didn't have the strength of character she has. Only the addict can help themselves.
I should add that she was not the only reason I moved back to Florida. I have been planning this move since 2006, but I had to wait until I retired again. I have 2 daughters in Florida. I moved into a union sponsored complex, and it is nearly utopia - safe, clean, and away from the trash I saw in OKC. In addition to this being my plan all along it ended up being an escape route for me.
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