Originally Posted by
MeetJadeRose
Yes, and I think that loneliness is the human condition and so many people struggle with it in all walks of life! Loneliness really is an epidemic and so many people struggle here and don’t always know tools and resources to help. I used to feel immensely lonely when I first began adult work, and there has always been an element of it in not being able to be fully out as myself in the world in every space, can’t share with everyone due to stigma, safety, judgement, there’s a lot here. And.. now I have community, resources, I prioritize my mental and emotional health, it’s a nonnegotiable in my life. I am very grateful to have support and connection and many people who do support my work and know about it, and being OK with those who don’t and can’t handle it etc.
Since I started prioritizing my own wellness, it has made a huge difference in my quality of life. I am an introvert and I need a lot of alone time to be with myself and I also effortfully make time to connect with others and add it into my schedule. To share, to listen, to be heard, to vent, to just experience life with. I believe that connection and community make huge differences, even if it is not always in person. I believe that sharing online and having online communities makes such a difference as well kind of like the site!
Doing things like hiking, meditation, getting massage and touch, going to classes and meet ups, making time to do fun activities, going to therapy, calling friends, ditching work to spend time with people sometimes, is so important. Seeing providers is a great way to get your physical touch needs met, and luckily your emotional/mental needs too with the right fits. For US too!! And… it’s not always the case. And shouldn’t be your sole source. We should all have multiple outlets. There are some events called authentic relating that are an awesome way to move past the small talk with people, there are even cuddle parties and mutual touch activities like improv and dance, etc.
I’d like to reiterate that, there is nothing wrong with getting some of your needs met through seeing sex workers. Or being a provider or such services. There needn’t be shame for doing so. Wanting and needing sex and touch is okay. And, you should have various outlets for your other needs.
Everyone needs to know that you are never alone, there is always somebody who is feeling just like you are, even when we feel like we are the only one in the world. Hell, if anything jump on Reddit and scream into the online abyss. There are some great resources in the city! Please try them out and if anyone would like any recommendations, feel free to message me :-)