I agree with Lady A, but maybe even suggest you go further and ask that this thread be deleted. Your ex may have access to the private forums, and if he gets ahold of this thread it won’t help your case. Better to reach out to some of your regs in private by PM through this site.
Lots of women have to reinvent themselves here. Usually they make no mention of their old identity and work through back channels to get their old clientele back. Site management here is pretty good about not letting other folks publicly connect your old and new identities, which should give you enough time to get your life back together.
Good luck to you. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’ll be pulling for you all the same.
