I have lived the bdsm lifestyle for almost 30 yrs now, im a seasoned sub and have been fully collared as a slave, along with mentoring many over time. And the one thing that i will say is to embrace who you are to the fullest. And not let what others may think or say sway you. Be discreet but be comfortable. Be who you are. We ALL have our secret kinks that we cantjust go tell society as a whole about. But we all have a secret kinky side its natural, just know your limits and boundaries. But be happy with who you are and with what your comfortable with.