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    Kicking this back to the top, how does one get this as a sticky? I was going to use "report" to bring it to a mods attention but that isn't the correct mechanism.

    I think this is good solid information for a sticky.

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    I agree with DragonX
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    Been doing this since 2001. Been on several sites and it's always bothered me when a lady doesn't take here personal security as a priority. Always figured that they'd never hold my security in mind if they don't care about theirs. So this is a good thing to bring up. Lousy security can bring down everyone. The site all the way down to the trolls.


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    Ava, this was a good idea and a nice thread with a very reasonable template imho. Nice job there.

    Quote Originally Posted by 3daygetaway View Post
    Most of us know providers do not want to receive a “hey baby“ or “you available?” We understand providers want a more thorough and professional approach, however, we would appreciate more too.

    I have written many such greetings only to receive in response: A cut and paste list of rates and services or *crickets*

    There have been several providers thank me for my interest, ask for some clarification of my interest, had a specific reference policy they wanted me to follow, Etc—All professional but none generated any level of excitement for the session. Providers come on strong in their advertisements but come across very cold in their communication, thus my interest often wanes after receiving such curt responses to my warm greeting.

    If you find yourself reading this and thinking “I don’t have time to respond to everyone in a personalized, seductive manner,“ step outside of yourself for a moment and try and see this objectively: providers are asking for something they are unwilling to give themselves.

    This critique goes both ways: Men, we must understand that while this is a transaction, it is not a vending machine. Entice your providers with a cogent, polite, and thorough introduction. Providers, be true to the image you project in all your communication.
    While I totally agree with the ladies about the horrible communication certain men can have (read my posts and you will know that I'm not joking about that) I also completely understand 3day's point here. This does happen a lot. And as a man on the receiving end there is nothing worse than a bitchy ass or cold replying woman. The advertisement sometimes comes across like you are getting a brand new 2019 BMW 7 Series with all the bells and whistles but then you find out you are working with a used car salesman who's actually trying to pitch you a 99 Ford Fiesta. It goes something like this: "yes, sir, a totally awesome, best deal in town, '99 fiesta, manual trans that chokes in 3rd gear (but just for a second then it's the smoothest ride you will ever know!), manual doors/locks, A/C is broken but the heater works better than anything on the market, oh and did I mention it's a convertible! Don't mind the huge tear in the fabric top just to the right of your head... you will barely get wet if it's raining... promise. And boy will you love this puppy on sunny days with your top down! Whatcha think? We got a deal? <shit eating grin>".

    LOL. Okay I was being funny on purpose. I thought some might get a laugh out of that but seriously a good bit of women will just have this really cold replying style. Or they don't reply at all. A man doesn't want it to seem like a business transaction. Yes, it is a business transaction. Not unlike many other things in life. It's just a really direct form of it. But most decent guys, even those who are just horny and wanna get off, don't typically want a really business like attitude.

    Obviously as you get to know someone and visit them more often the business part can be dropped to a huge degree. Both sides should be polite. The beginning is the most awkward. Men be polite. Women be polite. Simple.

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    Can we make this a sticky?! I’d like to add that I usually ask the gentleman if he has any suggestions or special requests for our time together. Non explicit & pg13 talk. I will ghost you if you are explicit or mention/ask what xyv for $$$. Nope Nope Nope. But that’s just me. My regs... now that’s a bit different, but I know them to a T and they know me and my preference for communication. This is just my 2 pennies worth!

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    Unfortunately with all the hobby changes due to recent laws passed, a guy doesn't know what a lady is willing to do presently, even if he has seen her in the past. I get that some women don't like "talking menu"...but this isn't sugaring where the interaction is more vague. This is "the hobby". Think it is more than fair for a guy to be able to ask about what they are getting, during screening. If a lady posts an ad, asking for some guy to do something explicit with her, most guys who are interested are going to flirt/schedule using similar level of language. You don't want us to express sexual intent, don't take it to that level in your ad.
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    You don't want us to express sexual intent, don't take it to that level in your ad.
    No, darlin. We say the explicit stuff, so you dont have to. We say what we offer and what we do, so it does not have to be discussed. Though it is not sugaring, it is also not a drive thru menu and you dont just order what you want how you want it. You pull up to the restaurant because you're interested in seeing what they have, you make your order and you try something you've never tried before. Why? Because it could be the best damn meal you've ever had, because you got it the way that it came, the way it was meant to be. It wouldnt be the same had you customized and altered it to your specific tastes, because it wouldnt be natural for it to come that.
    Dont ruin the experience by having a check list.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CubanAva View Post
    No, darlin. We say the explicit stuff, so you dont have to. We say what we offer and what we do, so it does not have to be discussed. Though it is not sugaring, it is also not a drive thru menu and you dont just order what you want how you want it. You pull up to the restaurant because you're interested in seeing what they have, you make your order and you try something you've never tried before. Why? Because it could be the best damn meal you've ever had, because you got it the way that it came, the way it was meant to be. It wouldnt be the same had you customized and altered it to your specific tastes, because it wouldnt be natural for it to come that.
    Dont ruin the experience by having a check list.
    Even restaurants still have menus, and most are willing to make changes/substitutions...and if I were to try something new on recommendation and send it back, most wouldn't charge me for the menu item. :-) I guess in my nearly 20 years, having great interactions with over 250 ladies (and seeing most of the pitfalls a guy has to go through), I have a different experience and perspective of this hobby.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SecretE View Post
    Even restaurants still have menus, and most are willing to make changes/substitutions...
    you make your order and you try something you've never tried before. Why? Because it could be the best damn meal you've ever had, because you got it the way that it came, the way it was meant to be. It wouldnt be the same had you customized and altered it to your specific tastes,
    and if I were to try something new on recommendation and send it back, most wouldn't charge me for the menu item. :-)
    You send things back because you don't like them? Not because they were made poorly or the quality wasn't on point with the price, simply because you just dont like it? Also, if the restuarant comped every meal because of someone not liking it, I think others would catch on and claim the same, just to get a free meal. It's about the quality and experience, your personal taste is relative and can be catered to during the visit.
    I guess in my nearly 20 years, having great interactions with over 250 ladies (and seeing most of the pitfalls a guy has to go through), I have a different experience and perspective of this hobby.
    You definitely do, which is perfectly fine.
    It's not black and white, we all prefer different things, which is why there are so many options.
    Like I've had a guy text me twice saying "do you cater to AA men" I've ignored it both times. Why? Because that's not the way to start a conversation. It's easy to say "hello..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by CubanAva View Post
    You definitely do, which is perfectly fine.
    It's not black and white, we all prefer different things, which is why there are so many options.
    Like I've had a guy text me twice saying "do you cater to AA men" I've ignored it both times. Why? Because that's not the way to start a conversation. It's easy to say "hello..."
    +1 Yup. This. Read fellars. Be a decent gentleman. That is, unless, OR, more importantly, *until* she doesn't want you to be a decent gentlemen Possibly b/c she has come to know you or has been talking to you and wants to ramp it up with serious flirtation and playfulness (for those who are still in the Cro-magnon or Neanderthal stage that *might* mean nudes, explicit talk, or extremely flirtatious excitable talk, etc...). Common sense boys. Use the one up top before the one down below. Even *here*. I guarantee if you do that you will be more successful. Trust me. I know. I really really do. You should listen up

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    Hmmm...to bring the thread back to the OP topic. Again, the template was posted as an easy tool for newbies to use in this realm. And, it was intentionally posted where even the public can read it. So like CubanAva noted, "it's easy to say Hello"... however, for those who prefer not to wing-it, there is now a template that can be used. Plus it comes with numerous provider endorsements!

    I will note that some of the initial feedback from the gentlemen on how a lady replies was informative. So, I encourage any gentleman to start a separate thread on that along with the other topics brought up. After all, it is about enhancing each other's experience here and BCD ;)
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    Good points on both sides. I just assume people know what to expect from me after the 100’s of reviews and being around so long, but most of our histories (client & provider) are all but gone. Factor in name changes, different handles on different boards, the new laws etc. and we are left with a lot of uncertainty and confusion. I agree with Ava that I may write explicit things, so you don’t have to. An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of pain, legally, IMO.

    Speaking solely for myself... I’m always going to be gfe and everything that entails. But I will deviate (switch up the menu to cater to client) based on a lot of things. It mostly depends on my mood and the chemistry. One day I might want gfe. Another day I may want pse and some weird fetish or long drawn out role play! Who knows?! I try to throw it up in my ads what I’m feeling that day. I try to make it known! $$$ is NOT the determining factor for me. It is ALL about how I am approached, communicated with & treated. The $$$ is secondary. I hardly have the energy to be fake for anyone anymore. I’m gonna be straight up about my expectations and boundaries. If I don’t think I’m going to click with a guy, then I simply don’t see them. If a guy asks “you avail” or can I stick it in your ass three times while you are upside down hanging from the ceiling fan, and act like I’m a circus sex monkey... I’ll probably just ignore that person.

    I am open to suggestions and special requests, but there is way, time & place for everything (especially with these new laws). If a man can’t figure out that he shouldn’t act like a Neanderthal during screening or scheduling, then I don’t need to see him. That’s just me though. That’s why it’s great that there is so much variety. There is something for everyone. Personally, no SS, Greek or BBFS for me as a general rule. But hey... if I decide I want greek one week, I’ll throw it up in an ad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NikkiFamme View Post
    If a guy asks “you avail” or can I stick it in your ass three times while you are upside down hanging from the ceiling fan, and act like I’m a circus sex monkey... I’ll probably just ignore that person.
    Hahaha. For sure. I bet everyone avoids or ignores that person. Like, everywhere. LOL. :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by 3daygetaway View Post
    Most of us know providers do not want to receive a “hey baby“ or “you available?” We understand providers want a more thorough and professional approach, however, we would appreciate more too.

    I have written many such greetings only to receive in response: A cut and paste list of rates and services or *crickets*

    There have been several providers thank me for my interest, ask for some clarification of my interest, had a specific reference policy they wanted me to follow, Etc—All professional but none generated any level of excitement for the session. Providers come on strong in their advertisements but come across very cold in their communication, thus my interest often wanes after receiving such curt responses to my warm greeting.

    If you find yourself reading this and thinking “I don’t have time to respond to everyone in a personalized, seductive manner,“ step outside of yourself for a moment and try and see this objectively: providers are asking for something they are unwilling to give themselves.

    This critique goes both ways: Men, we must understand that while this is a transaction, it is not a vending machine. Entice your providers with a cogent, polite, and thorough introduction. Providers, be true to the image you project in all your communication.
    Well fucking said! We are all busy here! Lets try and make the fun actually fun including the communication.

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    Ava, I hope you don’t consider this a highjack, but I would like to propose a script for the ladies when they must cancel an appointment. Above all, please communicate. Nothing is more frustrating than ncns. That said, here is what I propose.

    “Hi sweetheart. I’m sorry but I must cancel our appointment (no excuses necessary). Can we meet later today or tomorrow?”

    Short and sweet. An offer of a discounted rate would be greatly appreciated but not necessary.

    Managing my expectations is an important part of your TCB skills.

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