You are not wrong, and at least for me, I'm not adamant about it. I can appreciate a good CW without swallow but swallow is definitely preferred. The pressure of cumming down a girl's throat feels un believable, and watching a girls swallow just feels special ☺️. But it's definitely not a deal breaker and completely up to her. I think it's just a funny topic in a lighthearted controversial way. I just had a wonderful session with a beautiful lady who didn't swallow but I would repeat every day if I could. She was amazing and very sweet.
Last point, I promise...
Not swallowing in a CW is like worshipping the sun god for sunshine and then walking inside when it gives you sunlight. All in good fun please don't kill me! Lol