To the OP, you're participating in the most regressive post - information technology country on the planet. All other developed countries has legalized or decriminalized "the hobby". I fully understand your frustration - I put out about 6 - 8 P411 requests a month, I'm lucky if I find a clean, safe, reliable provider every 3-4 YEARS. The ladies I see have been in the game for 10 - 15 years on average, and built a pretty solid client base so they don't have to advertise... But the all admit that they had to kiss a metric shit ton of frogs to find their 15 - 20 "princes" that account for most of their repeat business.

I hope you find more respectful clients and when you do, treat them well - they will return! (I always do!)