Does it matter?

[Anna Nikkole]

Ms Anna, there’s a lot of wisdom in your method. I think many of us can relate to wanting to separate work from home life, this past 18 months have been proof of that. It’s easy to go stir crazy staying inside 4 walls day in day out. If you have the means, keeping them separate helps your sanity and keeps your private life errr private.

If this is beyond reach right now, then being a creature of habit will help keep you sane and take the stress out of keeping an worry about everything. For example, work a scheduled set of hours that best fit your biorhythms, make a checklist for setup and tear down so this becomes rote, have consistent messaging in your ads to reduce the number of idiots you have to deal with. Remember, just making small incremental changes each week or month will soon add up and not overburden you with stress.

I think the pandemic has exasperated hobby life in terms of manners, stress, patience, simple decency. Just look at the ISO section these days, your lucky to see one more than 2 lines.

Me Avery, the way you describe yourself is common in many folks, I confess to being the same way. What I have learned is that I need to work on getting myself out and about, eg running club, bike club, yoga, fitness groups to have some decent personal relationships and company. But there’s also days I’ll happily sit in the yard and read a book and could not care less about anyone or anything (maybe some nice food).

Even in the real world who wants to hang with their coworkers all the time, geez we just end up talking shop the whole damn time.

Thank you for the posts Avery, it’s nice to see some thought provoking posts. PS - Green.

I feel like this. I'm great at money management. Instead of buying that LV purse because I had a good day, I make my life "doable". My favorite saying is "I want to win, not look like I'm winning". I don't care what people think. How I do it is simple, I keep my home and my work space affordable. I live below my means. And I'm happy. I don't fulfill my unhappy soul with useless materialistic stuff. I'm a very happy person and the way I chose to live, has served me well.

I don't have little kids, but I have family. They all have a key to my house. I don't believe in bringing different and certain unknown energies into my house. I have never had a session on the bed I sleep on every night. And unfortunately it hasn't seen much personal intimacy either hahaha. But I love to know that I can cuddle up to little ones in my family and watch a movie knowing I didn't do work in it.

As far as separating them. That's not the case. My work space of looking at those same walls till 9:30 pm. I get out, everything is closed. It is like a work day. I run out of there like I stole something. I work 6 days a week (about to be 5) so I miss my house seriously. I'm tired, it's late. I believe it may be easier to work from home, it's just me and my spiritual beliefs that your home is sacred and supposed to be your safe place.

And my ads, my website, the information I send I believe 99% of everything is included. I skip the pretty ads with pink and purple and pictures throughout. People love my wealth of information. They love it. So I don't change much. I changed my special rates by $20 beginning of 2020. Believe me I'm still catching shit about that. People don't understand the concept of "regular" and an "acquaintance". Someone who sees you 1x every year or 2. Look at my new ads, screw the grandfather crap all together because I have lost regulars over 20 freaking dollars. It's to much. And that was almost 2 years ago. I don't change anything lol. To much explaining to every single person. To much work really. I stand by k.i.s.s.

And the reason I don't go up on rates is honestly 1 thing, because I seriously have been asked why I haven't, like I'm worth more. This is my answer. "I'm guaranteed to make money when I leave my house. I never leave my comfort of home on a hope or guess".

[AveryInked]

I am loving all this insight. Thank everyone who's posting, as it's hard to get a viewpoint when living in a Quaker State country like the us LOL.#interestingasfuck

[Anna Nikkole]

I am loving all this insight. Thank everyone who's posting, as it's hard to get a viewpoint when living in a Quaker State country like the us LOL.#interestingasfuck

This is how you learn other people. Most wouldn't know that I'm religious. Half holy, half hood. Actually a country bumpkin. And I'm sure I have been talked about. They said I needed to be harpooned like a whale on the E. All the crap I took and now I guess there is nothing else to say about me because frankly I don't give a damn. I don't do reviews, many are actually fake, and I refuse to have my day ruined. I figure if they need to say something there is ample opportunity in other places. I have so many methods to my madness in order to keep my role in this hobby simple. The more simple, the less stress and the better I treat my clients. Not to mention you as well as me have years in this hobby. Our stripes are earned.

[Nascobar21]

It matters

[barronve]

Location matters for regulars. I personally know if it is too hard to get there I am not going to keep going back frequently. So as long as home is not in an extremely remote part of town you can get away with an incall that is fairly close to home. I do agree you want an incall that is not too close (plus don’t always drive the same route when you go home).

Safety matters - nobody wants to worry about getting mugged, shot or their car stollen. So if your location is in a bad part of town expect a mallet number of appointments especially outside of daytime hours.

Quality matters because if you are wanting to charge a higher rate your incall should reflect that quality. If the rate is $500 and it is a disaster and the bed/furniture is uncomfortable or dirty then even if the provider is great I may question why I am going to a crappy incall and demand we go to an outcall for a future visit or just find someone else. On the flip side of this - if you are paying a lot for a fancy incall and have to raise your rate more than you would need to then it could be hurting you too.

I am sure finding that right location is not an easy task. Just like finding the right location for office retail space is not always easy. Why else does Burger King, Wendy’s etc just move close to McDonalds? Now if they were smart they would have done their own research like Chick Fil A but sometimes you can do very well just by copying others. So what is my point? Maybe you should ask some other providers for their location ideas but if you do spend some time researching on your own you will probably find “the best” spot for you.

Good Luck!

[Panda9184]

Feel like there's alot packed into this question. But as many has already share their inputs, locations do matter. Personally, i dont like driving too far to see a provider so i skim through alot of provider thats not within the centralize area of houston.

Safely and quality of the location matters alot. i don't want to have to feel like i have to second guess myself getting out of the vehicle. cleanliness is a definitely. i think the quality of the location speak a lot about the quality of the provider. If you cant see the provider being able to take care of their own work space. its hard to imagine they can take care of themselves. (this might be just a thing my parents beat into me but it does speak volumn) And i dont mean having cloth just scatter, that is fine. i understand wardrobe is a difficult thing to decide but like if you have trash everyone or it looks like the place hasn't been swept or clean in days or dishes full to the brink. Ambience counts too but not as much. like if i walk in, all i see is 4 walls and a mattress. i would less excited then seeing someone that actually spend sometime on the place. It shows that provider takes their work seriously and thinks ahead such as setting the mood or even just an ice breaker so its not to feel so "cold" encounter.

I also don't want to be able to hear your neighbors Netflix. Because if i can hear their Netflix, then they can hear almost everything thats goes on in her place as well and we all know how safe that would feel.

Anyways, good questions and insights. learning alot here myself

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

I'm way TF up here in The Woodlands. So I miss out on those that only hobby on their lunch break and do not have what I call "alibi time" to make the drive.

My private incall is within my home. Talk about low overhead! LOL I LOVE it!
It's a separate room that stays stocked and clean. I know it's clean because I am the one doing the cleaning. If I find a long dark hair in the sheets.....I know it's mine and do not have to wonder if it belongs to housekeeping staff or did they not change the sheets after the last provider was here entertaining?

Some would say it's "dangerous" to work at home. Meh....with how I screen....I feel safe. And that's what matters to me.
I live on the busiest street in my neighborhood. I have lived here 10 years and worked here for....3? 4? I can't rightly remember atm lol

My neighbors are cool and we look out for each other's property but don't get "nosy". But if they were "watching" me........
Since this house is my home, it is perfectly normal for them to see visitors throughout the day. Gentlemen, my adult children, their friends, and their children, can be seen coming and going.

I do not hide what I do for a living from my family. They know to call ahead if they plan to visit. We call it "keeping in the loop". If I know they might be dropping by and a Gent calls to schedule, I text to let them know the time frame to stay away and they do not come over until I send the "all clear" after a visitor has left just in case time runs a bit over or they opt for more time.

I can understand the reasoning with keeping private life and business life separate. But I am just Me all the time. The idea of splitting my life in two stresses me out!
And the drive time & time to set up a room for sessions was just too much when I was using hourly places. Not to mention the fact that my car kept taking over control and finding itself parked in front of my fave dive bar on my way home WAAAAYYY too often.
OH! And the cost of eating out food! UGH! What an expense! Now, after an energetic session, I just wander into my kitchen and fix myself a sammich or snack on some cheese n crackers to straighten the leg wobbles out.

I'm not the best (or worst) housekeeper. So a short walk through an unvacuumed living room may happen from time to time.
And if you take your eyes off my big ass leading you to the play room, you might just glimpse a few rinsed and stack dishes waiting to be loaded in the washer!


This is my home. It's where I live. Expect it to look lived in.

If seeing that I am an actual person with a life and family turns you off.....best to just move on and see someone else. lol