Please do your research. You can harm someone if you just jump in wanting to give pain. Please Don't.
As a Alpha I get off on Controlling the Pleasure. Thus your giving me your power to please you. This is a power exchange....The one in control is the one doing the work. ....whether living in the lifestyle or playing for a hour.
This threat was about being tied up, which can be very ertoic sexy. My playmates know it's all about the Mind fuck and can release themselves if need be