You don’t always have to dress like a *****

[robexar]

Sorry for the title, I do not mean to be offensive.
When I take a lady out of town with me, to dinner or just out for fun, I find the girls now seem to dress with the “look at me, look at me” attitude. High heels, short short skirts or very revealing dresses when the venue does not call for that. Women can look sexy without looking like a trashy *****. I think confident women ooze sex appeal no matter what they are wearing. I think a classy women should dress appropriately for the venue and know that true beauty is within and looking like a street walker may garish attention but for an older gentlemen it is unwanted attention that screams you are with a ******.

Maybe I am just getting old but I love a women wearing shorts or blue jeans with flip flops when you are just hanging out or dresses conservatively at the theater or nice steak place.

Am I just getting too old?

[DocHoliday]

Were you clear about where you were taking the lady up front or did you surprise her? If it was a surprise, how would she know how to dress. If she was aware and dressed inappropriately, I think you should have said something.

Many young people are unaware of what is and what is not appropriate attire for various venues because they have never been to an “upscale” venue. Don’t assume.

[guyeefawkes]

ADDING A DAVE CHAPPELLE GIGGLE

[DesirableDestinee]

Myself, I like to dress for the occasion or venue as you stated unless a certain attire is requested... but now days most younger girls (no disrespect to the younger 18-21 beautiful lady crowd) dress very provocatively because thats what social media and society has deemed sexy and appealing

[ttmax]

First, cut the "no discrepect " stuff or "I don't mean to be offensive " stuff. No apologies needed. Second don't be a complainer and tell the beautiful lady what to dress with and don't complain. Like "hey princess" taking you to a picnic so dress with shorts, or hey beautiful I prefer that "slutty" look or that high heel office appearance. Come on, be up front but nicely.

[AlexandraSand]

How much did you pay them to go out with you?!

Young girls feel even more weird, going out with old man.

You are disrespectful, by calling them *****. If you don't want Unwanted Attention, stay BCD. Shaming young girls for how they dress, but having sex with them is just creepy.

[robexar]

TTmax
Have a fucking drink and chill out!

[ttmax]

TTmax
Have a fucking drink and chill out!

...but,, I feel we should tell ladies how we want them to dress on an occasion....You are correct! I am freaking laughing out load! Let's have a drink......but Alexandria, you are wrong! I will rebuttal separate

[ttmax]

How much did you pay them to go out with you?!

Young girls feel even more weird, going out with old man.

You are disrespectful, by calling them *****. If you don't want Unwanted Attention, stay BCD. Shaming young girls for how they dress, but having sex with them is just creepy.

Alexandria, older or old men treat ladies better then young guys, and we don't mind spending. Young ladies like old men because we are...good, we are more sincere in flattering, and we appreciate their company. Yes, we older men have limited mobility, need to scrub between our limbs better, but overall we have more assets thus we can afford more ass!

[AlexandraSand]

Cheers, ttmax :)
We are chill. Discussing.

I like old man. And Older is proffered by me. LOL
Age does not guarantee respect, IQ or $$$.

I guess everyone wants a Freak BCD, and Lady in the street. I do offer that escort package! (rates are posted on my bio)

and I would recommend to every young lady to be taken shopping first, before the date or "off the clock time" for "appropriate" outfit, make-up, hair coloring, styling, underwear, bra, shoes etc. before another complaint and judgment comes along.

My mother, bless her heart, could never understand my dress choices. Thank God, that I am old enough not to care what others say anymore!

You go girls! Dress sexy! Dance wild! Sing loud and care less, what others say and do!
Shine on you crazy Diamonds!

[Berry Skyes]

While my personal style is to dial it down when on public display, (including the act of walking through a hotel lobby where random eyes will be upon me), that doesn't automatically declare said thought process for the whole of the ***** population.

What makes me laugh at this rant is the fact that people can't just be DIRECT in their communication and their expectations. Instead of just addressing the subject before it becomes an issue, or taking up the matter privately after expectations fail to be met, folks run to the internet to blast their disappointment on full public display.

Would it really have been that difficult to just assert your requirements regarding appropriate attire beforehand or address the matter personally when said attire was not adhered to? Had the lady in question had an issue with any requests beforehand, the problem could have been solved by choosing someone else.

Why is clear, direct communication so arduous for the vast majority of people in this day and age? That is the REAL question...

[robexar]

This is really starting to go off the rails. First, I have known all these ladies for years before I would ever ask them to go out or spend time with me anywhere besides the bedroom and we only do it because over the years we have gotten along great. I don't care how a woman dresses myself and would never tell any women what to wear because if she told me, I know how I would feel. The only thing I was trying to understand was why sometimes they may dress inappropriately. If a man wants to wear a t-shirt to a nice restaurant, I could care less - the only question was why? The same for a lady - I say more power to you. I have been with ladies who are totally free spirits and rock anything they wear. I was only asking to help me understand, not to judge anyone or tell anyone what to wear. If someone told me what to wear, my first thought is "f#ckyou.

I think DisarableDestiny above answered my question best - it social media and today's society.

Now I know why i do not post

[Berry Skyes]

So, now that this thread has failed to yield the desirable results, you're changing the tempo? Please read through your initial post... starting with the title , and then perhaps emphasizing, "Women can look sexy without looking like trashy *****".

Nothing in your initial posting stated anything remotely even resembling any question or you "trying to understand" other than the very last sentence which was just a non sequitur. You're phrasing it as such now, perhaps after some afterthought and that's a nice gesture. However, you don't get to followup an inflammatory statement which provoked retaliatory responses with ,"I'm not here to judge anyone" and become some kind of unintended victim.

"If I told someone what to wear, my first thought would be "f#ckyou" yet here is a whole thread declaring EXACTLY that, along with responses from your peers which effectively lament your OWN statement of thought. Yet, somehow you're managing to be big mad and "this is why you don't post"?

Lol. Okkkkk

[Gentryfun]

The start of this thread really reminds of that scene in Talladega Nights where Ricky Bobby prefaces his insult with, "With all due respect..." I mean, once I say that, I'm free and clear to say whatever I want after, right? LOL.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-Id_fuXFA

Maybe I just read it wrong, but if you choose not to type the actual word, then maybe it really is offensive and hence the need to say, "I don't mean to be offensive".

And maybe I'm taking the thread off topic, but as the OP mentions, he didn't mean to be offensive, but as a reader of the post, it kind of was.

Cheers!

[GeorgeDRII]

First of all let's be clear, this site is NOT match.com. If you (whom ever you may be) ask one of these fine ladies out on a date, even if it's a surprise, then let her know if it's an upscale place and there's a dress code.

If not and you're not paying her for her time, then you have no right to tell her what she should wear. I'll say that again, if you're not paying for her time then you have NO RIGHT to tell her what she should wear.

Oh and not all older men are "Gentlemen" some are....well scumbag asshats who've never grown up. There are some younger ones who might outdo and even teach an old dog new tricks.

So it begs the question of the credit card commercial "What's in your wallet?"

So this rant shouldn't even be a rant at all.