How many women like to be handled rough? How many gents like to rough play.
I'm not into pain, and I let it be well known in my messages where people ask for certain things. And in person I've had to back a couple of guys up and basically let them know that I am a human and I am not ok with being abused.
Is this the norm? You know the women getting treated like that on porn is pure fantasy and they get paid more right?