BBFS..

[Cameron]

If a companion offered BBFS, would it deter you from seeing her? I know I’ve seen some people who frown upon it.. And, I completely understand why it’s a risk. I myself don’t offer it. But I also have been guilty of thinking twice about a provider that does offer it. So after some thinking, I’m just curious what does it matter to any of us if one does offer that? And does it turn you on or does it turn you off? Is it something that you’re interested in but just scared to ask a provider? And I’m pretty sure a lot of providers offer it, but they don’t want to post, in fear of what The next person will say. So I’m just curious if you guys could help me out here. Like why does it matter what one does willingly with their body? And why do other people talk about it so much negatively?

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

Here's my issue with providers offering BBFS.....

First, society has already put a stigma on Full Service Sex Workers as dirty and disease spreading. Because of this, we all have to live in fear of violence against us.
There are enough dudes out there that think that because of the profession we have chosen, we do not even deserve common human decency.
So when a provider offers the activity that is MOST LIKELY to spread std/sti, it helps to perpetuate a stereotype that brings the stigma that could possibly endanger others.

Then there is the matter of SO MANY idiots out there that think the next provider will do the same stuff as the one before.
And even some that get angry, vindictive, and violent if they don't get their way because they expected to get the same activities as the provider before.
Once again....endangering others. (not to mention themselves if they ever choose to stop offering it in the future)

Yes. I agree that everyone has a right to choose what they do with their own bodies and how much to charge for it.
NO ONE has a right to tell them NOT to offer BBFS if they choose to.

They just lose my respect. Not that that's worth fuck all to them in the first place LOL

[Quitididcb]

If a companion offered BBFS, would it deter you from seeing her? I know I’ve seen some people who frown upon it.. And, I completely understand why it’s a risk. I myself don’t offer it. But I also have been guilty of thinking twice about a provider that does offer it. So after some thinking, I’m just curious what does it matter to any of us if one does offer that? And does it turn you on or does it turn you off? Is it something that you’re interested in but just scared to ask a provider? And I’m pretty sure a lot of providers offer it, but they don’t want to post, in fear of what The next person will say. So I’m just curious if you guys could help me out here. Like why does it matter what one does willingly with their body? And why do other people talk about it so much negatively?

I think...this topic gets beaten down quite a bit but the reality is that in the act of sex, this happens more times than anyone can count. My answers - it deters me coz once in the zone and the mood is set, if attacked with such a possibility, the courage in men always fails and small brain takes over. So I avoid it prior to the event if a lady is known for it. Does it turn me on to think I could have gotten it? Yes, but the turn on disappears once I think about the extra $300 for testing I am bound to do two weejs after that. Do I care that she provides it? Yes, coz my decision to see her changes way ahead of time and we may never meet while upper brain is still in control. Am I interested and just too scared to ask a provider? One of the joys of hobbying is getting a sex goddess that I can ask anything of and not fear repercussions that extend to my real life so am not scared to ask anything - definitely scared of the consequences of a yes answer which might be too tempting to my lower brain. Why peopke talk about it so negatively is beyond me coz I dont however, I do know folks do not want to normalize risky behaviour coz some of us got real life shit that can go up in flames if those risks materialize. If there was a tool (like temperature measure) that could test and give accurate results that fast, it would never be an issue.

[Cameron]

Here's my issue with providers offering BBFS.....

First, society has already put a stigma on Full Service Sex Workers as dirty and disease spreading. Because of this, we all have to live in fear of violence against us.
There are enough dudes out there that think that because of the profession we have chosen, we do not even deserve common human decency.
So when a provider offers the activity that is MOST LIKELY to spread std/sti, it helps to perpetuate a stereotype that brings the stigma that could possibly endanger others.

Then there is the matter of SO MANY idiots out there that think the next provider will do the same stuff as the one before.
And even some that get angry, vindictive, and violent if they don't get their way because they expected to get the same activities as the provider before.
Once again....endangering others. (not to mention themselves if they ever choose to stop offering it in the future)

Yes. I agree that everyone has a right to choose what they do with their own bodies and how much to charge for it.
NO ONE has a right to tell them NOT to offer BBFS if they choose to.

They just lose my respect. Not that that's worth fuck all to them in the first place LOL

Yes mam! It’s just like when I know a provider openly states that she does activities that I don’t do, any provider it could be. I’m not singling anyone out. But, did that gentleman contact me after he is using her as a reference then I most likely won’t see him. If I know that she does that. And you’re right there is a huge stigma. I just don’t want to risk my health, and my safety by doing that. It’s just not for me and once again I’m not knocking anyone that does it, it’s just not my thing.

[Cameron]

I think...this topic gets beaten down quite a bit but the reality is that in the act of sex, this happens more times than anyone can count. My answers - it deters me coz once in the zone and the mood is set, if attacked with such a possibility, the courage in men always fails and small brain takes over. So I avoid it prior to the event if a lady is known for it. Does it turn me on to think I could have gotten it? Yes, but the turn on disappears once I think about the extra $300 for testing I am bound to do two weejs after that. Do I care that she provides it? Yes, coz my decision to see her changes way ahead of time and we may never meet while upper brain is still in control. Am I interested and just too scared to ask a provider? One of the joys of hobbying is getting a sex goddess that I can ask anything of and not fear repercussions that extend to my real life so am not scared to ask anything - definitely scared of the consequences of a yes answer which might be too tempting to my lower brain. Why peopke talk about it so negatively is beyond me coz I dont however, I do know folks do not want to normalize risky behaviour coz some of us got real life shit that can go up in flames if those risks materialize. If there was a tool (like temperature measure) that could test and give accurate results that fast, it would never be an issue.

It’s perfectly fine for a married man to see a provider. The part where I definitely agree with you is that some men have real world things that could go up in flames. It’s a married man wants to take that risk and to take part in their full service, and God for bid something terrible happen. It’s not worth it. To each their own. I agree with you kind sir!

[tbone2u]

Everyone is bare backing someone. It could be a husband, a wife, a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Just do what you are the most comfortable with.
People pick their own poisons.

[Hexecutive]

I would rather remove the stigma from it. If girl wants to offer it, or if a guy wants it, and understands the risks, so be it. Let it out in the open. It happens anyway. If you want avoid it, then you know who is doing it. Personally. I love promiscuous women. It turns me on. The naughtier the better.

[Captain.Classic]

It's just not something I'm interested in. If I find out a provider I am interested in does offer it, it might discourage me from seeing her. But that's just me. You choose what you want to do and what risks you are up to taking in the hobby. It just is what it is.

[Cameron]

Bottom line is people do what they want. It’s their bodies. If they know the risks, and they continue to take them so be it. We’re all adults, mature adults I would like to think. So we know what risks there are.

[tbone2u]

I would bet that people here only hear about 5 to 10% of the bare back that happens. I'm not about to lose any sleep over it

[Alyssa XOXO]

Everyone is bare backing someone. It could be a husband, a wife, a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Just do what you are the most comfortable with.
People pick their own poisons.

Never has a truer word been spoken.

If a Provider comes up pregnant though (assuming the guy she's BBFS in her personal life is aware she's hooking), I would demand a DNA test if I were the RW guy..

[JessieJane]

Ppl pick their own poisons...
And their own glory holes lol....

If a guy dont mind sticking his raw wanker where another raw wanker just nutted a hour ago.. hey that's on him... aka Russian Roulette.

At the end of the day who cares. Everyone does what feels right at the moment behind closed doors. To each their own.

[jojodancer15]

I agree with the statement everyone is having unprotected sex with someone. We're all adults here, you have to decide what your acceptable risks are.if you offer BBFS post and own it. Don't worry what others will say, they're gonna talk about you any way. The hell with them, it's your life.
And the ones who don't want that risk will continue to look elsewhere. The problem is, this is going on in the hobby and no one knows who's doing it. Therefore the people who chose to avoid this behavior are seeing people who partake in this activity without their knowledge. If we're trying to keep the community safe, then own up to your behavior and do what you enjoy!

[Cameron]

I agree with the statement everyone is having unprotected sex with someone. We're all adults here, you have to decide what your acceptable risks are.if you offer BBFS post and own it. Don't worry what others will say, they're gonna talk about you any way. The hell with them, it's your life.
And the ones who don't want that risk will continue to look elsewhere. The problem is, this is going on in the hobby and no one knows who's doing it. Therefore the people who chose to avoid this behavior are seeing people who partake in this activity without their knowledge. If we're trying to keep the community safe, then own up to your behavior and do what you enjoy!

I could not agree more with anything that you said. You were spot on. I just think that the but someone called public shaming, or trolling of the people that do admit that they do it shouldn’t even be a thing. But unfortunately it is. And like I said in a previous statement I have been guilty of Being one of those girls that thought negatively about people who offered that. But I mean that’s not my body that’s theirs. So all I’m saying is it just shouldn’t be a public shaming or shit show if someone offers it.

[DEAR _JOHN]

It's a shame that, in the hobby, we look with disdain on one of the most natural things in the world.